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Fast forward a week or so, and I have somehow formed a full-blown crush on the guy. We have had a few conversations here and there, nothing deep or crazy, but I really like his laid-back energy and gentle demeanor. I find it really attractive and would really like to get to know him more.

However, I typically stray away from office/workplace romances. We have a small office - maybe 15ish people - so we do occasionally cross each other's paths.

That being said, I am extremely cautious about approaching the topic with him of my attraction and interest in him. I don't want to make it weird or awkward for either of us. I would accept rejection if that were to happen. I just feel so weighted down with this secret. I always pursue things when I'm interested, so I am incredibly on the fence about whether to pursue my interest or just lay low and let it eventually pass.

I want to get to know him more and set the scene as friends, but I also don't want to ignore the attraction I have for him and pretend like it's not there.

What should I do?

Hope the crush passes over time?

Tell him that I'm interested in him?

Any advice appreciated 😊

So i was at my friends place with his girlfriend and her best friend for whome i have a crush. So we were just drinking and having fun now comes the question. So besides this one time she always engages with me wants to play thumb wars or something. We are sitting not like drunk but relaxed and she starts brushing my hair and says i look like a creator from my country afterwards she asked me if i want to make her a braid and i do it some time passes she asks me if i want to make her a bun i do that too. So our two friends leave prob to leave us alone and she puts her head in my lap and i start scratching her head and resting my other hand on her side. This will happen like three more times throughout the night. Afterwards we start watching a horror movie and we all lay in a bed. But only two pillows so me and her lay on that one and my friend and his gf on the other. I wanted to let her head rest on my arm so i ask her to sit up so i can get it under but instead of laying on my hand she puts her head on my chest and we cuddle btw we still didn't confess anything so we are supposed to be just friends. So time passes my friend and his gf fall asleep me and her stay to watch a movie a little longer. We go to sleep kinda spooning but like really awkwardly like ( ( really far apart idk why. So i wake up and my friend told his parents only him and his gf are going to be home so i wake up the girl and we go to the other room but in this one there was no heating it was broken or sum so its cold af. We lay down facing eachother like we are really cold btw we are sober at this point and she just turns after a few minutes spoons me like mi torso is on her back but i dont want to turn it sexual so i keep my hips away from hers and she picks up my hand and puts it around her waist and says cmon hug me. We sleep a little longer but now two days later we are kinda uncomfortable with eachother idk why and i hate it. Can anyone help me i feel like it was only due to alcohol but it cant be because she wrapped my hand around her while sober. If there are any girls would u do this without like it meaning nothing? Thank you dudes and dudeses

I've actually been rejected so many times in my life, and I decided to never catch feelings again or think about love and relationships again. But it's always the same, I easily catch feelings and start loving the person passionately. Same experience over and over and over. And this year at college, I met this girl Carlie, she's really nice and She has the same interests I have, things started with a healthy friendship and good chats and researches and projects and now I feel like I love her. I don't want get my expectations high and I Don't want to suffer thinking about her. It's really sad I don't know what to do anymore.

I’ve known this girl for years and ever since I met her I know she’s the love of my life. We’re really close with eachother and we used to have sex a few years back she even did have a crush on me at one point but this was years ago. How do I get her to develop these feelings back for me. I know if we get together rn we’re gonna stay together for life

I’ve started hardcore falling for my boss. He’s become one of my good friends throughout the time I’ve known him, but the more I see him, spend time with him, joke with him, or even just be near him I catch myself staring. I can’t get him out of my head most of the time and worst part. I think it’s mutual. There’s many reasons why I can’t and wouldn’t want to make an advance his way and from what I notice (if it is a mutual interest) it seems like it’s the same reasons he wouldn’t either. I’m not sure how to deal, I want to at least know if he’s feeling the same as I am but that would require bringing up THAT conversation which would lead to so many complications in the work place and the friendship. Help.

I’ve been in denial with this one guy for a few months now ever since he started working. I’m usually the shy type and he is one too so it’s hard having a conversation together alone.

Coming back from a rough break from work, he asked me to go to Seattle with him— of course I said yes, and it was with another coworker so it wasn’t just us two. I guess that’s when my feelings started sprouting.

I figured out my feelings a few weeks ago and I do like him.

Fast forward a few months later, I asked him to carpool with me on a 3 hour drive somewhere and he gladly said yes. I was so happy— not to mention we’ve been getting closer each shift.

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Today, I wasn’t working with him but I overheard my managers in the back talking about someone quitting. Another person said my crush’s name and the manager said “he already quit”

I felt numb, I never felt numb in my life for someone. I was torn throughout the shift. Although I kind of knew why, my workplace is pretty much toxic. I am going to quit in 3 months because of college and I thought he would too… guess not.

I am so sad, but it’s reality.

I am planning to confess when I drop him off home from the vacation spot we planned. I have a feeling he likes me too, but who knows. I’ll miss working with him for sure. Nothing to lose right? :(

if i get rejected, then I move on. If not, then who knows.

I’m 18 and I never really had noticed guys before 2 months ago. I went to a hockey game and I found the players really cute. Ever since then, it’s like there’s really cute guys everywhere. I guess I’ve just noticed it now. I even have a crush on a guy the gym. I never felt like this at 16 or anything. Apparently I’m a late bloomer. Because of the guys I’ve seen, I gained a lot of motivation to lose weight and really take care of myself in order to look good. So far, I’ve lost 10 lbs and feel better. I’m just super aware of these things now. I’m not good with eye contact but I hope I can work on that.

I got the balls to ask for her number and I got it. Now what? What should I text her (keep in mind I have never talked to this girl ever expect when I went up to her and asked for it.)

i’ve liked this guy for a year now and it started off as a pointless crush and we were practically strangers. We saw each other around and we said hey here and there and talked but as time progressed, we’ve developed into friends and we’re sort of in the same friend group, i see him three times a week for work (we don’t hang out outside of work unless it’s in a group setting) we don’t really text unless it’s for something. i don’t actually know if the feelings are reciprocated, i think it’s just my wishful thinking.

there was a party and i asked in our friend group gc if anyone was going, he then texted the morning of and asked me if i was going and suggested we go together? we also left together. theres no flirting but sometimes we exchange glances (may be just that)

my other friends know i like him and they make it pretty obvious so i’m pretttyyyyy sure he knows (not too sure, he can be oblivious but he’s smart). i was heading out and wanted to say bye and they told him i was looking for him to say bye and apparently he had this “huge smile” on his face but he called them liars? i said bye to him and he had the ‘i know you like me’ smile (my two friends and dad were also standing from afar watching like creeps with creepy smiles)

last i saw him, he took my phone and spammed my camera roll with photos of his friends and photos of me looking for my phone.

there’s been indication that he doesn’t see me as more than a friend so i don’t know where my heads at.

anyways, it’s been a dreadful long year, should i move on? my friends want me to tell him but i wouldn’t know how to approach that and it would ruin the dynamic of our friendship.

Picture this : I’m in first year university , awkward, chubby, un-cute. I never felt good enough, I was never the girl that anyone paid any mind to, the DUFF if you will. I met this dude and we became friends. He comes to residence all the time , hangs out with me, watches anime with me. As a surprise to no one, I fell for him. Tall, blond hair, blue eyes, such a fucking pretty smile. And of course I had to open my big mouth and confess, told him I liked him, and of course he tells me he doesn’t feel that way towards me. Why would he? I decided to wallow in my self pity and tell him I can’t be his friend because it’s too painful for my feelings and he honestly didn’t even object.

Fast forward 3 and a half years and here I am. Got out of a two year relationship , Finishing my degree, I go to the gym , grew my hair out, learned how to dress better and I have my dream job lined up. And then I get the stupid Instagram message reply to my story about my classes. Mister is now two years bellow me in the same program and wants to hang out to chat about how I got into my specialty field so quickly. And of course I’m quick to say yea sure!!!!!1!1!!!

I’m thrilled. Excited to dress up and basically show off how much I’ve changed, how much better I am, how hot and cool and successful I am now. I’ve HAD a Boyfriend, I’ve played the field, hell, this week ALONE 2 guys from my gym asked for my number.

And yet, we meet for coffee and I’m right back in first year. Combing my fluffy hair, looking dumpy and awkward, caught up in his blue eyes and stupid humour. I just want him to like me so freaking badly. It’s humiliating. I’m all awkward, we worked out together and I’m just following him around oo-ing and ah-ing at his form, asking him to teach me how to squat. (I know the fuck how). God. Then I get this Fucking feeling of being not good enough, insignificant , unattractive. Just like in first year. As hard as I tried to distance myself, I guess I’m always going to be that un-likeable girl I was.

So I finally got the courage to ask this girl, who I’ve had a crush on for years, for her number. She said yes and we started texting really well for like four days. I asked her if she wanted to grab food and she said she’d love to. We setup a day and then I waited for her to text first. When the day came around she said she just found out she was leaving on vacation a day early (was originally leaving the day after we were gonna go out). When she got back form vacation things just weren’t the same. She wasn’t really texting and even after I walked with her to class a few times nothing happened.

Anyway she said she was too busy to date right now.

It’s been about a month and schools about to end, and I definitely still have a massive crush on her. She never got to know me so I think I still have a real shot with her

Sooo, do I ask her to grab food now that school is over and she’ll have time? Or is there something else I should do? Either way I wanna do somthing. Any advice??

To start off, I’m in high school, and I’ve never had a girlfriend before. There’s been this girl I’ve been interested in lately, but I’m not sure if I have a crush on her or not (probably a very small crush). I got to start talking to her through orchestra relations and being in the same club. What I know is I want to get to know her more, and see where it takes my feelings. I texted her saying I wanted to get to know her more, and she was cool with it and told me we could maybe hangout sometime. I don’t know how to take it from here tho. I don’t really want to make it a date yet, or make it awkward. I just want to have some fun time with her and get to know her more. Any ideas or advice on what I can do? Where would be a good place to “hangout”? My house? Her house? Some place? I would appreciate if someone with experience can help me out!

Not sure if age is helpful but just in case:

Me: 13 y/o Boy

Crush: 13 y/o Girl

I apologize in advance for the super long post.

Not to long ago I asked my crush if I could tell her something at lunch in private (so I could tell her how I feel) . She says yes and we agree on a spot to meet up. She isn’t there at the beginning of lunch so I wait for her by our the place we agreed to meet at (I chose this place cause I needed to sit down and thought she would say something to me). She just walked by me and didn’t say anything. The next day I thought “ from her perspective I wasn’t exactly where we agreed to meet and maybe she got to nervous to say anything because I was with my friend” so I apologized about not being exactly where I agreed to be and asked if she wanted to meet up at the beginning of lunch and she said yes. Again she wasn’t there at the beginning of lunch so I actually waited exactly at the spot without any friends. She didn’t say anything though and I think she was avoiding me. However she has and is still showing signs of liking me. Here’s a list

1: I catch her looking at me a lot. She still does it after everything I talked about above. She did it 3 times today alone.

2: One time I got her checking me out.

3: One time she was walking to her class and stopped in the doorway with her turned toward me. She smiled when she saw me looking at her.

There are some other things that might be good but going into those would double the size of the post. But I will tell anyone that’s curious in the comments.

Any ideas on what she be could be doing?

Let me introduce myself a bit before this story starts. My name is Ace and I'm a transgender guy. And I have a crush on a much older girl. Alright so I'm talking with this girl online, Let's call her Ivy. Ivy and I have been talking since the end of december 2021. In february I started to develop a little crush on Ivy. I struggled to accept my feelings for her but I kinda accepted it by now. We both agreed that we would meet each other in real life this year, while summer vacation or something. I started to give little hidden hints to Ivy since the end of January and till now she still hasn't found one, hopefully. But here's the thing why I'm thinking about waiting 3 yrs to confess my crush to her, I'm still a minor for 3 years. I'm 15 and she's 20. So I'm hoping that if I wait, the friendship will fade out or I'll lose feelings. I'm scared to confess my feelings to someone again because my last 3 crushes rejected me and that put me in a depressive state for 4 months. If I get in that depressive state again at the end of the year it will fuck up a big part of my life. I might be refused for transgender care because I'm not mentally stable at that moment or I'll need to stay back in 9th grade again like this year. So waiting seems like the best option for me but I could be wrong. Has anyone some advice for me? Or a reason for me to confess at the end of the year? I'm so fucking lost..

Idk what can I say. I’m an introvert and really quiet but talk to friends normally.Any tips?/ signs to be able to tell (yes I like her but sometimes she’s shown signs but she probs does it to all her friends

I think I like this girl but she is with someone. It’s not someone I usually see so if I do decide to tell her I can just leave her on delivered if it goes wrong. She is kind enough to still be friends even if I do end up telling her but I feel like it would be awkward and not telling her is making me miserable I feel shit all the time because of it. So either way I’m gonna feel awful and regret my decision should I do anything and if so what are some upsides and downsides to telling her?

so recently I dated this girl and she's the sweetest, coolest and at the same time fun girl I dated and coming from a history of failed online relationships, she's the first person I've dated in-person. we chatted and instantly connected so I took the chance to ask her if I can court her, she said yes. weeks of me visiting her at her own home and have that bond. It was amazing.. one time we went to the beach with her classmate and my classmate (our classmates are cousins), we take pictures and get to spend time with her romantically and as a bestfriend ofcourse. It was amazing! it's like butterflies around us when we're together. 2 months we had fun then suddenly the chats are getting cold and I'm not getting calls from her so for me, I don't know what's happening so I confronted her, she said she's too lazy to reply and I believed her. Fast forward to last week which is my last visit at her home before the tragedy happened, I lay on her shoulders and accidentally glanced at her messenger.. She quickly noticed that I was glancing so she swift her phone into her pocket and starred at me like she's scared. I smelled something fishy, then the next day, she said I should stop courting her.. saying that she isn't ready. I was in confusion because after all we've been through in those 4 months. She'll leave... I was confused - I thought things were going well but, cute pics and a simple smile isn't enough to tell the person if she/he is into you.

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if she is not ready, why sending me mixed signals? and if she is not ready, she should've said it in the first place when I asked her if I can court her. What do you guys think?

I have no one to talk to because im not that close to anyone, but i just want to let it all out here. Basically, Im an introvert and this girl really put in an effort to befriend and be nice to me. She's pretty, smart and nice, the type of girl who can be called as campus crush in your local highschool, college or university because she's open and can talk to any guys like a friend, and here I am a somehow above-average-nerdy-looking type guy so naturally I was immediately drawn to her. Fast forward, to celebrate the end of our semestral exams I was invited to her place with her friends. We drink until we're drunk and talk a lot. As I grew tired of the noise, I went out to the balcony and had a smoke just to rest. Then suddenly she followed suit as well and talked to me 1-on-1. During that time she sat really close to me, that my left shoulder and elbow were in contact with hers; I thought maybe she's just that touchy type of person, and then she suddenly lays her head into my shoulder and I froze. I misinterpreted that as a sign so naturally I was so happy because this could be it, but I didn't shoot my shot yet because im afraid of rejection. As we continued to talk, one of her friends came out and teased us only for her to reply that she has a boyfriend. I was so devastated after hearing that that I immediately left her there and went to the bathroom and went home afterwards.

Im trying to move on from her by thinking of any possible negative traits or behaviors of her, watching many self-help videos, and trying to see other girls, but I can't. I really can't see any negative to her behavior, her academics, or her social life. I don't know whether im so blinded by my crush for her or she's really just an amazing person that I unfortunately cannot have. Im so in pain that its like she can live without me and choose any guy to be with, while for me I think she's the best person out there and it pains me to know that i really can't have her. Wherever I go, whatever i do, watch or listen to, it always reminds me of her. Im so lovesick that I can't focus on my studies, that every interactions with her kept on repeating in my head, and that whenever she's talking with a guy I get jealous even though I don't have no rights to be. I want to move on from her but i don't want to hate her. I still want to be friends with her and having space is not an option since we're on a same small batch studying for the same degree. Any idea how can i move on from her?

So for about a month, ive been talking to a guy lets call him Nate. We werent really close before he invited me to a gc by accident, i joined their call and from there we hit it off, we would laugh together and tease eachother about our laugh. I never saw myself liking him until then. Nate is very humerous and likes to joke around a lot and so do I so it was obvious we'd be good friends. Foward a little bit and we would text eachother everyday for awhile, we'd ask eachother how our day went and go on call for hours just playing games and hanging out. But i upset him over something thag i send in the gc and it seems like hes ignoring me after that, he says im a bitch and that im annoying and now everytime im in call it seems like hes aggitated by just listening to my voice in call and tells me to shut up, it hurts and idk how to bring it up to him without being all awkward. Does anyone have any tips?

Originally, I thought that I just simply liked her; Like, ‘I like this girl, and I wanna get to know her,’ type thing. Now I think that it’s evolved; Like the title says, I think I love her. I’ve started to feel different. I think about her often, I can’t imagine myself with anyone else but her, I imagine scenarios where we interact a lot, I sometimes feel a bit jealous of other people around her (which I try not to do), etc.

I think I like this girl but she is with someone. It’s not someone I usually see so if I do decide to tell her I can just leave her on delivered if it goes wrong. She is kind enough to still be friends even if I do end up telling her but I feel like it would be awkward and not telling her is making me miserable I feel shit all the time because of it. So either way I’m gonna feel awful and regret my decision should I do anything and if so what are some upsides and downsides to telling her?