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"Sorry about that."
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"It's chilly out.",
"I didn't get coffee.",
"So if I seem slow and unable to think I have closing today."
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"Which I've gone to squeeze.",
"I just got another day with all kinds of stuff.",
"It kind of stresses me out to have to have things all lined up throughout the day.",
"The club got to meet Jess's mom to put the carseat in the car so she can go pick up Lucille.",
"She wants to take Ian.",
"So it's not a shocking for Lucille.",
"So they need both car seats.",
"Then I've got to go back and get eaten for Cub Scouts.",
"It's the big pack meeting.",
"I've never been to a pack meeting.",
"So I don't know what we're going to do there and sleeping over."
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"Or something or you just going?"
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"No, I'm just a dull in the Cub Scouts.",
"You've got to go with your kid.",
"You don't just drop them off which I imagine.",
"Maybe the older kids just get dropped off.",
"I don't know.",
"It's going good.",
"I tell you how I lost my bedroom."
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"He's going to sleep in my bed tonight.",
"He's going to learn to skate tomorrow.",
"It's going through March that seems like an awful long time to teach kids to ski, I would think that at some point they give them a stick and a puck and I don't know.",
"So I got to do that.",
"Tomorrow is Cub Scouts are visiting a fire station at 10 meet.",
"I really got the winner's share of the farm all male players on my team are going out Saturday night and Sunday.",
"I have a football game."
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"I'll probably end up sleeping late.",
"I'll probably be a little hung over.",
"The whole thing just makes me anxious.",
"I don't know if it's just the closing that makes me anxious or if it's having all of these things to do at a week.",
"Of a week of a kind of coming home and just doing titles and working from home.",
"I've been going to the office but going home in the afternoon.",
"There's no real pressure or stress on me to get things done or should I have got I mean I have got plenty of time.",
"I've already got.",
"I had to order an uploaded updated playoff.",
"So I've been waiting on that.",
"I want to tell dr. Micah on Tuesday apps for she was cutting back my well room.",
"And then in the very end, she asked me are you depressed and I go a little bit she was like, oh, we don't want to go down on the Wellborn if you're depressed, so I have to lie to her next time.",
"No, I'm not depressed.",
"I'm feeling great."
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"Could you tell her that that that's more of an issue than your depression?"
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"I just wake up.",
"I see you're after Thanksgiving."
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"I don't know.",
"It seems to me sort of characteristic that the actual story is a perfect perfectly reasonable story, but you're thinking you'd better tell her a different story because somehow that seems more like it could get you what you want.",
"Even though the actual story is like I said, not only pretty reasonable but would serve you just as well."
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"I'm glad you're picking up on these things."
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"I couldn't remember.",
"She said to go up on the Prozac and I can't remember if she told me not to go up on the Prozac but I'm going up on it.",
"Anyways now taking 25mg of the laundry.",
"a lot of my green in the morning"
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"the West series cast"
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"Less than or more."
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"more so I'm taking a hundred at night and 25 in the morning.",
"I think she's trying to get me on that and the Prozac and that's it.",
"Maybe the copper play.",
"I don't know as needed which is all the time.",
"I don't seem anxious when I go to bed because I fall asleep on the couch and I wake up all discombobulated."
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"Good.",
"I mean not the discombobulated part, but"
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"Yeah."
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"and it sounds like it has something to do with having all this stuff to do I guess my impression is that most of it isn't stuff that and itself is hard or worrisome in terms of what it involves more like things have kind of got to go right?",
"You're not going to have a lot of time to be worried or be down or be distracted.",
"So maybe you're kind of worried of what will happen if you're feeling one of those ways."
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"Or just if there is some pick up somewhere.",
"I'm always wary of hiccups, you know, like they just forgot to get a baby at banks.",
"Are they going to be able to get a big truck?",
"They've got to bring like 6,000 closing?",
"So is she going to have time to do that?",
"Maybe she will maybe she won't I don't know.",
"I'm not going to risk.",
"The of a personal check for $6,000.",
"I guess you have to",
"the only way to be safe on a deposit in 10 days is 10 days."
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"Yeah, I guess maybe at that point.",
"You can't dispute it against another bank."
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"You mean if it hasn't been returned in 10 days, it's good."
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"Right.",
"So Bank of America.",
"If you depart deposit large amounts of money will hold it for 10 days, which I tell people they should get it get wire first.",
"I tell them they shouldn't do Bank of America, but they should do they should get the money wired because the bank takes too long.",
"I didn't have anyone to go to the game.",
"So I sent out an email.",
"I'm now going to get now getting all of these emails.",
"Is it time are we done?"
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"Does this feel like just something else you just had to do this morning?"
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"No, not really.",
"It's like I did some work this morning taking a shower.",
"I don't know why I just always feel is a chore, but I had to take one today after two weeks.",
"I'm going to take a shower.",
"I need a haircut.",
"I should have gotten one today.",
"I always by Supercuts I think.",
"You get a $100 haircut."
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"It's $50, I think."
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"is Ghana"
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"Just after my pilates class."
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"it's always a roll of the dice.",
"When you go to Supercuts.",
"You never know.",
"If you're going to get shockingly.",
"My hair is not easy to 10.",
"They're afraid of me being bald and then on the top if it's too short, it sticks straight up.",
"I'm like just cut it short it will grow back.",
"It saves me money because it's the less.",
"I have to get my haircut cut it short.",
"I'll let it grow long.",
"A girl like 4 times a year.",
"The break defends on the year.",
"I was hoping we were somehow going to avoid and playing hockey.",
"It's just very expensive.",
"You've got to buy him equipment every year they can get used equipment but there weren't any used helmets had to buy a new helmet just bought them.",
"So I don't care as much at some point it gets expensive.",
"It should be entertaining though him learning to skate falling over all over the place those little kids he hasn't signed up.",
"So I'm anxious about that.",
"I forgot to sign him up and we're bringing the check."
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"You know the one you know where the YMCA YMCA is there is a rank two blocks from the house.",
"He's already been to the Firehouse but"
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"I guess not this Cub Scout stuff is kind of frequent.",
"There's a lots of things to do.",
"There's another meeting.",
"There's a dead meaning.",
"I'm trying to get all straight between dens last pass."
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"but yeah, he's got a lot of energy, you know, if he just sit around the house.",
"He just bounces he doesn't do it when he comes over to my place.",
"He just kind of sits things out and watches cheap we go out to dinner and his mellow but when he's home with Jesse pushes her out a lot more than he pushes me and talk to you doesn't really push me at all."
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"Don't bring food in here and he brings the food in here."
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"Right, so I don't know why he acts really different with me just probably because he's around her enough that he knows her buns.",
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"You know there could be any number of reasons.",
"I don't think that it's that he's not around you enough not to know your buns.",
"He would learn those pretty fast."
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"I don't know.",
"I'm very much speculating here, but it sounds like Jesse's sort of on him a fair amount and worried about him a lot and he could be kind of pushing back."
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"It sounds more like Jess."
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"That's why I'm careful to say that I don't really know but he just doesn't do the same thing with you.",
"There could be some of that on his side to where he feels a little meteor for her in a way, you know, Mom comforting stuff like that.",
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"Maybe it's to compete more was Lucille if it's around her sure."
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"easiest to me ignoring him"
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"No, it's probably not that I mean, I don't know how much you ignore him, but it's not something kids get used to."
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"I don't know him that much.",
"Yes, so many damned questions."
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"He sounds like a very energetic vigorous curious active kid."
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"Yeah."
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"That's great.",
"I mean it's especially tough for the people who have to look after him all the time.",
"I mean, those are very nice qualities.",
"I'm not saying it's not the easiest one for you, but it's pretty nice."
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"It'll be interesting.",
"He doesn't seem I don't know he's kind of skinny.",
"So it's like I don't know how he would get do getting banged around in hockey when they're little they don't go flying into each other.",
"They just kind of bingen to each other and fall down.",
"They don't know what they're doing unless they have another brother and then they dominate I noticed that with soccer all the kids with all her brothers were much better.",
"I had a kid who scored 7 goals who had all who has two older brothers."
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"Like Lucille when she starts soccer, she'll be much better than one even started because she already been kicking around a ball Lucille's another year-and-a-half.",
"It will be two and a half years before she can play instead of being cranky sitting in our little stroller at some point.",
"She'll become more wanting to play and run around.",
"She does that sum to but sometimes she just wants to sit in the stroller and being cranky.",
"She doesn't want anyting else starts early.",
"You'll see you see you're choosing your words carefully."
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"Are you coffee?",
"I'll go home to make coffee.",
"It's such a pain though.",
"Go home the three or four minutes.",
"It takes it takes a while.",
"You got to go you got to wash the pot out empty the thing put in the filter and put the coffee in.",
"I don't know why he's a little things in life should just get in my way the hiccups.",
"I wonder if Lucille is going to go with her grandmother when she picks her up today."
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"You mean she might get cranky?"
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"I'm hoping I'll be upset if she doesn't.",
"She doesn't go Mama Mama Mama Mama stand up in the car seat and go no."
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"Is that what she does?"
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"That's what you did to me."
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"Wow."
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"I do not want to go with me when we got home.",
"She literally stood in the driveway was going Mama Mama Mama Mama.",
"Don't you want to play she went mama mama mama, so I just sat down and waited it out.",
"Luckily just was only 10 minutes."
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"It's hard being the daddy."
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"Sometimes she won't interact with me if she's cranky.",
"There should be a coffee shop in this little square.",
"You can never have too too many coffee shops at some point.",
"I'm supposed to feed him."
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"It's such a pain in the ass."
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"I'll see you on Tuesday next week, but I'm out on Friday."
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"I hope you weren't worried.",
"That I do it enough."
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"Good morning.",
"I had a good day yesterday.",
"It was feeling like spring maybe one day.",
"It's feeling like spring but you know good enough.",
"So I took the kids out to the playground.",
"And they started packing her me thinks that moving could be really good.",
"I don't know.",
"back to waiting and seeing",
"I don't know enough what the options are.",
"It occurred to me this morning that even if I had stayed at Brown and James had moved us here.",
"We would still be in this position at this point where I really didn't want to do a postdoc.",
"So I guess it's a little bit reassuring.",
"It would still be tough right now.",
"We are supposed to go to this party with most of James's friends grad school were in the Denver area this weekend.",
"Our car is still not running.",
"So I don't know.",
"I think there's a commuter rail we can take but it's like an hour's Drive Away by the commuter rail."
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"It's way out west onto I don't know.",
"I don't know but I did find out that Monica only wants me to come in for a couple 3 hours on Friday if that so that would be nice.",
"I have a tough time with the people from James is grad school program.",
"It's just always sort of stressful.",
"I like them.",
"They're fine.",
"We're just really different from me.",
"Then I think well, they're also really different from James.",
"I don't know.",
"I think that was one of the things that was tough for James in Ohio get trouble finding people to talk to which is why it was so great.",
"When his friend from undergrad Tony and his wife Carrie were there because Cody is a poet he could talk to him.",
"How do you sort of crazy in some ways I can never tell whether he believes ideas.",
"He's putting out there or whether it's more that he thinks the world would be more fun if it were true.",
"And so he's just sort of hoping that they're true.",
"I don't know.",
"I don't much easier time finding friends than James does and I don't know whether that's because I am I don't know better at finding people or less picky about the people that I want to be friends with or whether it's because I'm just positioned right in a way that James is not",
"I don't know if the types of people who tend to do graduate degrees in chemistry are all that different from the types of people who tend to do graduate degrees in theology.",
"It's not a difference.",
"What I don't know if we did move.",
"This will be the first time that I moved to a new city where I didn't know anybody or didn't know more than a couple of people and wasn't already in some sort of graduate program or workplace or something to Anchor me.",
"It doesn't make me anxious, but I feel like maybe it ought to.",
"I think that that could go really badly, but I can't get worried about that.",
"I don't know.",
"Even with knowing so many people it hasn't really kept me from being really lonely here.",
"It's a weird thing one day.",
"I'll be talking to James about it or thinking about it and be like yeah.",
"Yeah, let's go somewhere else.",
"Let's find a new place and see what the options are.",
"There's almost no where else in the country where my skills would be less valuable than they are here in terms of there being a critical mass of people with a Humanities degree here."
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"There are a lot of people who are brown educated in some of your discipline here just a lot of them and it's really fun.",
"But it also means that finding a job is that much harder and that's not going to be the case in other places.",
"I feel like there's almost no situation.",
"That would not be better for James than what we were in now.",
"It makes a huge difference in my life when he's doing.",
"Well when I'm not the only person that he has to talk to about interesting.",
"Things like this is for us.",
"Some days, I think that and then other days is just like Terror yesterday was sort of the ladder and today is sort of the former and I don't know.",
"obviously you coming to that but it's not clear to me how"
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"I guess like yesterday the other day and stay and it's like you don't need me in the same way if you're feeling good."
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"It's hard to make decisions across emotional states.",
"I always wonder whether everyone is like this like the whole landscape changes on your having a bad day or when you're having a good day.",
"I imagine if I think about it most things are spectrum and blah blah blah.",
"I don't know."
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"Not then for everybody but more than for most people."
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"Yeah, it's certainly not the case for James and it certainly like every once in a while.",
"We'll have an explicit conversation about it.",
"We're all say James.",
"This is how I work when I'm having a good day.",
"It looks really different than when I'm having a bad day.",
"I can't see anything outside of my emotions.",
"I think it makes things very confusing for him.",
"It makes things very confusing for me also at times.",
"Oh, well, I feel like if I can tell something and get other people to help remind me of that.",
"Maybe it won't matter so much that I can't remember it myself."
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"so it's like in the last couple to three weeks even I'll be like in this awful place just totally miserable and desperate and kind of crazy making and then I go to do something usually with something for church and acts like I'm okay and after about a half-hour somebody will ask how are you doing and I'll be like Oh I'm great and it's not like I'm lying I believe it but it's just like at that moment I'm only thinking about the part of my life that is right here right now which means that I'm having an interesting conversation or I'm doing okay",
"Sometimes I feel like it helps me survive again helps me get through those really bad times.",
"It's weird.",
"I feel like it's impossible for me to be honest in some ways.",
"If I say actually I'm not doing so well that is true with regards to the macro state, but it doesn't actually reflect what's going on in that moment.",
"If I say I'm doing great and that reflects what's going on in the moment, but it's a very small moment compared to what's really happening.",
"I wonder when people stop believing what I say.",
"It was as pretty Facebook conversation last night about deaf children and Cochlear implants a bad choice and all of that.",
"I don't know if it was talking like people clearly didn't know very many deaf people or weren't in touch with that Community because it was very why would you ever",
"Not give your child a chance to hear.",
"That is an incredibly cruel and a terrible Choice.",
"Yes language is culture and that would be bad if that were lost.",
"But no really it's more important to be hearing.",
"I don't know what I think about that but it's not really important.",
"Joanne is a interpreter and she's really involved with the deaf community and used to teach primary school kids who are deaf.",
"So she's pretty anti cochlear implant and pretty firmly an advocate for the deaf community.",
"I was sort of seeing both sides of it and I guess I was just thinking about how you don't see what is outside your experience.",
"People say why do parents choose not to give their children a chance of having a whole other sense?",
"Well, they don't have it and they like their life and they don't know in some instances.",
"They can't know what they're missing and also people who have that extra sense can't know what they're missing by having it."
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"There is kind of another side."
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"Yeah, and since it's about perception, it's been nice link to the conversation to be having.",
"I was reading a poem called Monet refuses the operation.",
"It was about the painter describing it took me 55 years to learn how to see like this and now you want to fix my eyes.",
"What is a nice poem?",
"I guess I was just thinking how it was relatively recent that it occurred to me that other people might not work like this like these so controlled by their emotional states like half the landscape be so dependent on emotions.",
"Maybe everyone else is like that just in different ways and I don't know.",
"I just feel like people who say their judgments are wholly dependent on their emotional state are mostly full of bullshit.",
"My favorite Old Testament scholar gave a lecture on Saturday in the line.",
"I really liked was up until about the mid-twentieth century scholarship was all about objectivity.",
"And that was the gold standard of objectivity.",
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"That was nice.",
"You would think that I was going somewhere but",
"I know this is how Amanda works so that also makes it hard.",
"She is much more polarity than I do in some ways.",
"So I feel like sometimes I talk to her from time to time and it will be like she just has had this completely different idea of what her life looks like in one conversation then a week later.",
"That I get but I feel like sometimes were just really far separated.",
"So when we try to talk, I just don't know what she's saying at all.",
"Sometimes we're really there together and sometimes we just can't even talk.",
"Part of me wants to be like, is there a diagnosis for that and part of me is like I don't think it really matters that much.",
"I don't know which of those I actually want to clean this my opinion.",
"I feel like I know which of those you would fall on butt."
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"Your approach tends to be like I don't think that matters all that much.",
"It's funny talking with people in the hospital people get very attached their diagnosis.",
"I think I only noticed that because I don't have one in the same way.",
"I don't think I'm really expecting you to weigh in on this much.",
"I feel like sometimes when I talk about stuff.",
"I really want you to say something about it or speak from experience, but I don't really feel like that's the case right now."
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"Sometimes it is true because I do think there are times that it can be helpful to have one formal given diagnosis or informally something about depending on what the Dynamics are having the sense of part of what you're finding with me is that there are with the people hide behind that or use it to move away from what their experience actually is another words what I mean is depression is not very descriptive compared to something like paranoid schizophrenia or borderline personality disorder those things seem more descriptive than things like depression or generalized anxiety."
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"I think it doesn't say a lot about who the person is."
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"The one thing that I've been I've seen in talking to people who have a bipolar diagnosis, it is clear that that is a really useful thing for them to know about themselves."
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"It just isn't and for those people it's really good to know."
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"I was just thinking about Amanda.",
"I feel like from where I said, it looks to me a lot like she is bipolar 2 and she doesn't want to be involved in mental Healthcare.",
"Basically.",
"She doesn't want to take meds and okay.",
"I don't know.",
"I wonder how her life would be different if she were not making that choice."
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"It would be different.",
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"So I did so"
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"I'm quite sure what to make of or what to do with how to think about when you're feeling more this way the way you are today.",
"Well not in my mind because it's feeling better per se but I guess for reasons that at least to me so far are not entirely clear maybe because you're feeling kind of strong I think."
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"I guess you mentioned that it might be easier to get a job, but I don't expect that's all what you meant.",
"You said it would be better for James.",
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"It's like I can remember other times when I was happy and the physical location of those times.",
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"That was really pretty.",
"Thanks.",
"The thing is I feel so bad about putting things on people.",
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"Morning, I'm at a loss as to what to talk about again.",
"Although I think in a better way this week in general.",
"I feel better this week than I have for the last couple of weeks.",
"That is a good thing.",
"The classes are not immediately obvious, but I think some of it feeling like I have been telling people that I'm upset and trying to deal with that in I guess different drugs fashion.",
"I don't know.",
"Yeah, I'm not sure where to begin.",
"So it's a strange thing, not know what I'm asking to consult with you on but that's where I am."
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"Okay.",
"Well, thanks.",
"That's helpful.",
"Yeah, sometimes I'm not sure what what thread is important to pick up this week.",
"I guess my parents are coming to visit this weekend.",
"It's probably a good thing.",
"We have a very small apartment.",
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"But that's what my mother decided she wanted to know what I was doing and was curious where I was and all of them know here in Andover that's not really going to happen because I was doing all the actual work.",
"Now I'm sitting here.",
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"I'm worried about.",
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"I'm not particularly clear how to do that in this context.",
"Not that my parents are hard to please.",
"That's the silly part of it.",
"It's like the ridiculously easy going for the most part and if they're bothered they are not going to tell me so it'll be okay.",
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"She got that adjusted and has been a less anxious in the intervening time.",
"But this is sort of a I can pick out a signal it's not clear if there is any meaning to the signal like there are so many things going on in our lives and that's not necessarily it's not even clear.",
"There's a correlation if there were it would not be sufficient evidence for any more causative role, but it seems to me like one has a mood regulating gland keeping the dosage of replacement hormone for that glass table is probably a good idea when one already has difficulty regulating mood so"
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"This is the thing that I feel like she is a very responsible for and that is like perfectly under control you go to the doctor you get things checked you take the medication until you just take maybe think about it a little bit and assess whether you're doing reasonable things with your treatment in that regard and make sure that he stays stable.",
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"And that's the thing that she's done fantastically poorly at and just continue to do poorly at in some sense.",
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"And so if this is actually contributing factor talking about it particular when I'm kind of angry about the fact that she has failed to do this simple thing again, because we've talked about getting her thyroid medication before we talked about how I went and got her thyroid medication like three months ago because she didn't have it is not seem like a good idea at the time so seem like not an important issue to confront in this specific moment because she was already going to get it and that day"
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"Fair enough.",
"There's also something which I don't like.",
"Yes.",
"This is the thing.",
"She's failed to do several times.",
"She doesn't remember all the other times.",
"She's failed to do they at least nine.",
"Sorry, I wasn't",
"Yes is the things she's failed to do several times.",
"She doesn't remember all other times.",
"She's failed to do it.",
"At least not in the last several months.",
"So like me being upset about this as part of a trend is not useful or perhaps not even a fair thing.",
"It's certainly not a thing that I think it's worth bringing to the discussion to have in an emotional sense enough actual sense.",
"It is important to know that is the recurring problem, and maybe we need a different solution then wait until you have run out and get a few days later.",
"Bye."
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"I don't know.",
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"Then I guess I feel like you made a statement and I mostly agree with the statement and so I'm not sure what to say in response.",
"Yeah.",
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"Maybe we don't know all of what's at stake.",
"I mean, you're not the one to do something because you're feeling that is going to set you already fragile way around suicide alley over the edge that construction.",
"Yeah.",
"Okay.",
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"It wasn't so much like",
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"so part of it is that since she's already made that or is about to make the call.",
"To get the prescription refill There's no practical value in asking.",
"Why did you do this?",
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"And so there is no immediacy to the discussion even to happen in about time.",
"She already feels guilty.",
"I'm bad about not having done it and I feel angry and that's only use what kind of combination of emotions for us to have the conversation.",
"And so if I were to wait for a little while before bringing it up again, I can be less angry and she can be less guilty and maybe we can actually have a conversation in which the in which the likes box or piece that she has to do with it in a more timely fashion can be discussed."
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"Oh, you should try this secure your depression.",
"You know, like when I had a headache I took some Aspirin you had a migraine you should take some aspirin also and that's with an LG and it doesn't she has a particular I read about that class of discussion and I think any suggestion of this is a thing that is contributing to your mood to have some emotion."
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"All these things seem like great openings conversations.",
"Like if she does feel like you're being pedantic maybe there's information in that you're being pedantic taking that you are.",
"I'm not you are in response to something in this Behavior.",
"She's doing this actually listening that responds.",
"So it's an enter fraction.",
"You're not just an acting in a vacuum.",
"That's an interesting kind of conversation.",
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"Your first qualifying statement was not commenting on the time scale.",
"These are reasons to have that conversation and that sounds right.",
"and I guess now we're at the point of needing to talk about the time scale because I think",
"Yeah, I think you're right that those are interesting departure points for conversations.",
"There are stations back.",
"We haven't been able to have the way we would have two or three years ago and more recent.",
"My day is like in the last 4 months, but that's because there has been a sense in which the Tonya I would have those conversations with hasn't existed in the last several months.",
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"Our lives are in terms of like how do we get to the place where I'm telling her to take her medication like house?",
"Like how is that like how what would seem like a reasonable motive interaction for us?",
"It's just not.",
"Yeah, it's just not really that's not really a partnership or relationship so much as it I don't know.",
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"At least undermine your ability to be present for her.",
"So there's a conflict on that level.",
"This is may be more direct that maybe you need to be expressive at the moment actually undermines what you think her need is to stay alive.",
"Her need is whether it undermines it or not.",
"If the question it goes to the heart of I mean, you may not think that it's much to give up by waiting a day or so.",
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"I have done it more than just in my relationship with Tanya and it's hard to notice it at first and some sense because I usually try to be a considerate person taking into account the needs of other people.",
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"I don't know.",
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"I guess a little better.",
"I'm done pretty much.",
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"I had a job interview at the on Friday.",
"So that's good."
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"that's at Walter Reed at the clinic.",
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"My mom called the other day and asked I just wanted to know how your interview and your exam went and I told her and she's like and how are you feeling about yourself?",
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"That's why I ask because these other things can kind of cover-up and for the time being makes it feel like the external is going a little bit better.",
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"Of course.",
"They let you interview you of course it went.",
"Well.",
"I know how she meant it.",
"She meant it.",
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"So it's okay.",
"I had a really long week just really really long days.",
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"I'm redoing one of the kitchen cabinets and I thought okay, at least I held off I let it go during the week, but the kitchen counter was gross and I could let it go anymore.",
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"It's okay.",
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"I'm still waiting to feel to really feel good.",
"And now it's okay.",
"I can get the apartment floor room cleaned, especially because everybody is coming to visit and if I get us all a job offer that I want that I accept and then I have a start date and I finish up these last couple of things that I have for school, then that's good.",
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"And I'm also worried that and whatever happens with him.",
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"If this professor didn't get back to you.",
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"and there is no.",
"So if you're if you are moderately competent enough to show it to meetings.",
"You are just going to get this into this position and then you",
"Be there until you retire.",
"I'm speaking broadly, but that's what happens.",
"That's why people like University jobs.",
"Retirement she's working within a 4-year product environment.",
"Where people was where someone was really confident you'd be like me hear Department efficiency, whatever whatever whatever and that just doesn't exist.",
"I guess I felt my dad was sort of operating under the idea that this was a if the workplace is in an Ascend isn't an essentially not a guilt not a guilt but like you're not the Invisible Hand while you knock the economy, I think at his head there some kind of invisible hand of Merit."
],
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"I see sort you out."
],
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"And he also I don't think really believe in what I said I've asked for work and I don't get it.",
"He's like, well, obviously the way you've been asking for work isn't working.",
"So you should ask another way.",
"There's only did number of ways to do it."
],
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"big or small words"
],
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"Yeah, I can rephrase I can try.",
"I can you know.",
"Whatever I've done but in the end there's a the communication problem is my fault in the end and beavers only so many ways you can ask someone for work.",
"There are very few.",
"I understand is completely irrational and crazy and doesn't make any sense that this would be happening but"
],
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"that only makes it so much more stressed rating and it is"
],
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"and yeah, it's like",
"when I talk about it people everyone's like come on.",
"What would he say?",
"Why would he say that there's always work for you to do and then not give you and I'm like, well, I don't know.",
"That's a good question that I can't answer.",
"I got very caught on."
],
[
"I think you get lots of your mom's Wellbutrin questions, essentially, you know."
],
[
"Why don't you just do something better?"
],
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"Yeah, well, there's an obvious and simple explanation for this."
],
[
"Yeah, yeah."
],
[
"Are you clearly haven't thought of and tried?"
],
[
"I just did that.",
"One thing that was funny is that I was talking to my dad more generally and he was like, well people probably know that you don't like your manager like well sort of I try not to express that generally people often say it to me.",
"Oh, you must love having chat is your manager Pearl is your building head or whatever and I'm like, nope.",
"I usually just don't answer.",
"But if someone presses then I'll answer.",
"My dad was like really they don't know how you feel.",
"Okay fine, which is true.",
"Like I'm sure than our department all staff meetings I have",
"Kind of given up on pretending that I'm not frustrated.",
"But all our staff meetings are actually not that many people and I don't know I guess I hope that I don't actually want to broadcast my fridge and content across the entire library.",
"That would be bad and I'm special and also just not good.",
"I think my dad is right that yes, certainly.",
"Some people have noticed probably managers notice and I'm not thrilled.",
"I mean you'd have to but the not entirely helpful response in my head is like well",
"I try really hard to be different product.",
"But at this point buck.",
"Which is I sometimes think.",
"But like if I'm capable of being diplomatic and like sucking it up or whatever and if something is critical.",
"Better someone's Behavior shoves me over the edge and part of me is like, well you deserve it because she is Christ.",
"The level it would have to be to try and go get to that level to have to get to me.",
"Like vocally.",
"I work tell someone off is pretty insane, but that's a totally fine rationalization for me, but it doesn't",
"Carl and cheddar so in positions of power and black, you know"
],
[
"Right.",
"I mean the only pieces that I start to wonder about and this is probably the same as everybody else.",
"There's a partial mild aspect of did you set your dad up a little bit in the following way.",
"In fact, you've been frustrated over thinking about struggling with this for years with Chet and have tried many different things are completely exasperated and you and you know thinking he's a terrible manager for 12 different reasons as well as and you haven't talked too much explicit explicitly about this.",
"I mean you've alluded to it today and other times his sexism and racism which also contribute to things that make him hard to deal with that all seems like to me in a quite relevant context the question of hey, I asked my manager for work.",
"Give me an e. What do you think I should do.",
"Do you know what I mean?"
],
[
"Yeah."
],
[
"I don't know maybe that stuff your dad already knows but I guess with your dad kind of unlike your mom.",
"I'm not surprised to hear you say your mom has a question about Wellbutrin like but the story you were telling your dad if he knew all that stuff.",
"Maybe He suggests the Ben Franklin thing, but he wouldn't say it's just a communication problem.",
"Maybe he would I don't know.",
"It seems to me like there's a lot of sort of amount of time amount of effort erroneous sense of beating your head against the wall, the berries criticisms of chat that you have and which are well-earned by Chet that he doesn't know and that I imagined make his response both seem sillier and more madden mean to you."
],
[
"Sort of I have it's like he doesn't want to do an advice unless really expensive explicitly asked like really explicitly so I've asked him about dealing with racism at work and his response was by leaving them out and to try harder and that kind of thing.",
"I was not surprised but he said",
"I left them out.",
"I mean kind of what I have set him up said him not exactly.",
"I don't know I kind of said I'm up.",
"I also kind of want them to feel like that really sucks or offer some educated perspective."
],
[
"Don't imagine you're expecting him to have a solution for you.",
"I imagine you wanted him to be sympathetic that like they drive you nuts and especially for somebody who a is your dad and B, you knows the workplace.",
"He's an HR person like yeah, if you said a horrible manager can a horrible manager really can make a job miserable."
],
[
"I mean, I think in the end he I think he really believes that if I had us chat in the right way that he would have been like, oh, here's whatever I talk to him about it and told him Berry is trusted details."
],
[
"That makes sense given what you said before?"
],
[
"Yeah his"
],
[
"I imagine it feels to you like kind of a fantasy.",
"He has that if you handle it, right if you communicate right or if you sort of",
"Strategic or understand the situation well enough that you won't run into problems like that.",
"I imagine it feels sort of like kind of denial that he does about other things, too."
],
[
"Yeah, like I think the main message my dad is trying to give me about dealing with racism either in the workplace or my personal life is like no stay calm use the right nice voice don't sound like an angry black person sound like a nice person if you just freeze it right away this and stay cool and whatever the problem then the problem will go away."
],
[
"See.",
"Like you may be terribly vulnerable in the workplace and sometimes handling it in a certain way will help other times.",
"It won't make a damn bit of difference."
],
[
"Yeah, I also think that he believes that if there if there was really a problem that HR would respond and since they have in that means there's not really a problem."
],
[
"I see I wasn't aware.",
"I wasn't aware.",
"That's how it worked."
],
[
"Yes, yeah."
],
[
"The way that you're entirely vulnerable position with chat and you feel like people kind of want to look the other way from that."
],
[
"Yeah, I don't I mean I think given what I think.",
"It my dad does not want having done whatever activism sacrifice Exedra Exedra.",
"He does not want well and I to be in a world where we're still suffering Rachel racial Prejudice at work or school or whatever.",
"which sure but that's not"
],
[
"Yeah."
],
[
"what does not but happening but he's very he's very he's very invested in that which for me I think asked the vulnerability of being in a particular work situation because I feel like I've been I've the coping skills.",
"My dad taught me aren't actually helpful.",
"And in some ways they can be almost self-destructive.",
"And so I know that frustrates me a lot."
],
[
"Where do you have his support?",
"I mean you're saying the skills he gave you don't work and probably backfire."
],
[
"Yeah, I think he thinks he's being supportive but I think basically he's just like well, obviously it's not a real problem or it's not a really big problem because if it was these other things would be happening.",
"So yeah him telling me you've expressed frustrations with a lot of managers in the past.",
"I was kind of kind of like yes in really horrible experiences.",
"That like I don't know.",
"I felt like he was saying I am in argumentative.",
"recalcitrant",
"employee, which I don't think I am usually"
],
[
"That seems like it was a quite a hurtful conversation."
],
[
"yeah, he actually did ask me if I was upset.",
"If he said like at the beginning like this might hurt your feelings, but I think the problem is that you're is you're not diplomatic and asking that sort of thing.",
"It was nice that he was kind of aware that this might hurt my feelings, but I think that part for my feelings.",
"But I think the part that hurt my feelings, isn't that like?",
"Oh, you're right.",
"I am.",
"I don't know I'm too or I'm too whatever.",
"It's not that there's Behavior happy that I don't want to admit.",
"It's more like he won't.",
"I just feel like he doesn't I don't know.",
"It's not he started talking about about it as this I had a personal failing which is which it's not a personal feelings and in institutional feeling."
],
[
"Originally, you're feeling really vulnerable upset and frustrated about something and he's not being supportive about that and also telling you it's your fault."
],
[
"Yeah, yeah part of the thing with the Ben Franklin story is part of me thought.",
"Oh, right, you worked in business where there are books the blah method in the blah method and 360 eval whatever but also is very much the well, here's the solution you didn't think of",
"I was like actually did think of trying to Pharmacy in that didn't work."
],
[
"Tell me about is like you're his daughter and he's saying you failed to be diplomatic.",
"You know what I mean?",
"I know he's not sitting next to you at work.",
"But you talk to a lot of people and say a lot of things and his saying that he thinks you're not good at communicating without giving examples of things.",
"He seen firsthand or that he imagines you're not diplomatic without explaining why he thinks that's based on his own sense of you.",
"I don't know I guess makes I imagined could feel like he's disconnected."
],
[
"Yes, I think that's yeah a part of why it's really bothering me is I definitely have a sense of myself as being able to communicate.",
"Well, I was upset and I need to have my dad be like, nope.",
"That thing you thought you think you're good at you're not and when I think about things I'm good at doing in a workplace.",
"It's definitely one of them one of the big ones.",
"I think I'm like, oh I communicate I can communicate and all right way blah blah blah.",
"I have people and yeah.",
"I'm just kind of like I don't know I went to Cambridge and got an honors degree in Humanities by know how to write an essay.",
"I can I think that's what you spent a lot of money for me to learn."
],
[
"You guys have sat at the dinner table probably plenty of times.",
"Do you come across as somebody who has trouble communicating?"
],
[
"Yeah, I sent a message.",
"I know I should not be threatened.",
"But yeah."
],
[
"You guys have the communication thing.",
"You guys have the communication thing."
],
[
"yeah the only thing that I don't do very well as public speaking but that's a really great public speaker yeah it's really weird because it's very much a to me",
"the wake",
"I'm like that's not my dad just let someone else who isn't in any in any like there's a public speaker Persona sort of yeah it's just kind of like a work schmoozing Persona I mean it's still him but it's very like what just happened he's really gregarious and working the room and all these things and it's just kind of weird to me I have stage fright and he doesn't I'm kind of like all right you know I think I feel like he's seen me communicating basically all the ways except trying to do public speaking and also other people say that I'm better at it than I think"
],
[
"at Publix"
],
[
"Yeah."
],
[
"haha"
],
[
"Which I can accept maybe I don't know.",
"I just get so nervous about it.",
"But also it kind of feels like sort of in this like there's two sides me and Chet or management.",
"I feel like he's kind of picking not my side which feels horrible and really weird and it's really discouraging in terms of just I try to think about how they're working hard and other places are different in other like",
"But like my dad a my dad and be a person with a very different HR perspective having both these people like know the problem was you.",
"And just makes me feel that this is a problem that just let's just not that it's going to drive me crazy until I retire.",
"I don't know get him a car for Grant which doesn't really",
"it does not make me feel great about career prospects or anything because",
"I've been having this very much last four month or months with why I'm going to go to library school why I'm spending all this money and time.",
"Almost since I'm going since I'm going to get ahead anyway, blah blah blah and it feels like it's just sort of another Community confirmation that I'm not going to exceed to succeed and not changing institutions changing Coast changing whatever having a professional degree won't help.",
"I mean the other Prospect the other aspects someone I know asked me to contribute to a panel.",
"She's proposing at a library conference in conference in March a thing, which was she said to talk about.",
"Is ways in which or part of it?",
"Is she feels like there other app?",
"Spec's in her of her personal life and political activism and I've also helped her as a librarian sort of conceptually.",
"He's learned all these things like making zines for 10 years in a way it ended up being a form of professional development because she knows how to XYZ is through the only in for my information about accessibility Contra my spare time.",
"So I think a really good idea will be like",
"would be like yeah things I do for my off-time of relevant and important but I also get the reason I've been so I've been worried that if my co-workers or if I if it came out I don't know instead of being worried about my coworker is sort of invading my privacy online like their privacy like my personal privacy and work.",
"I'm like God if they if I was more vocal about my clinical use at work, which I am not.",
"Or if I was like or if I was just really like that's really racist instead of doing a huge dance around it.",
"Not saying anything.",
"That would negatively affect everything now.",
"Let it go.",
"God.",
"Maybe I shouldn't."
],
[
"time's almost up"
],
[
"I know."
],
[
"You take care."
]
]
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