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Human: A drunk woman crashed a car into our house and caused a significant amount of damage. The car insurance won’t fully cover the expenses. The car she was driving was not hers. It was a friend of hers. That policy owner’s coverages are not enough to fill cover the cost of the damages. What are our next steps? -Do we have to sue the driver, the policy owner, or the insurance for the rest of the damages to our property? -What kind of lawyer would we need? -Do we have to pay out of pocket for said lawyer until the costs are recovered later? -How long does it usually take if we have file a lawsuit? Thank you so much for your help, y’all. This has been a very weird time. Assistant:

hr8rr37

hr8ox3d

You would be better off going through your home paneers insurance. You wouldn’t sue the drivers insurance. Her policy limits are what they are. If she doesn’t have enough coverage to pay for your damages, her insurance will only pay up to her policy limit. If you sue her, understand it could take years before you ever see a dime from her.

Any civil attorney can help. You should sue both the driver and car owner. You would likely pay out of pocket for the lawyer. And if no party has money to pay you, you might not get much if anything Is there a reason you don't want to use your homeowners insurance? They would do all the leg work on the suing and trying I connect on said lawsuit

hpckgn

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Human: Under 18 kid stole a car from a neighbor, used it to wreck into my car that was parked, cops detained kid in stolen car and then released him. Can I sue parents? I have video of accident. It wasn’t actually an accident he rammed my truck twice intentionally. 2003 tacoma it’s worth 4-5k and damage may be around that so it’s probably totaled. Pretty much destroyed the whole passenger side. I looked into small claims and the max is 2,500 in kentucky so maybe that’s all I could get. Also the family probably is not well off so not sure how that works. Okay any advice is appreciated. Assistant:

fxpae1u

fxp4t1p

Do they not have car insurance you can file a claim against? If he’s a driver he may be on their policy. You’ll have more luck with that than small clams court. If not, do you have UIM insurance?

there are two sections that could apply, depending on whether it really was an accident: https://law.justia.com/codes/kentucky/2019/chapter-186/section-186-590/ ​ if it was intentional property damage: https://law.justia.com/codes/kentucky/2019/chapter-405/section-405-025/

xiohow

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Human: A Goodwill company truck hit my parked car and they won’t pay for repairs I live in Milwaukee, and had my car parked on the side of the road. A goodwill company semi hit the side of my car. They called the police and filed a police report, and I contacted my insurance company. It’s been three months, and my insurance company (Allstate) has just told me that when they reached out to Goodwill and their insurance, that the vehicle was not insured at the time of the accident, and that Goodwill said they didn’t have a claim filed on their end. What do I do? I feel like I’m going to have to take legal action and I’ve never done that before. I feel like if I try it’s going to cost more money to get a lawyer than what my deductible reimbursement would be, but this was not okay and I want to sew them for the hassle it’s caused and for the fact that they are clearly badly run. My insurance company and I have reached out to Goodwill multiple times and have been given phone numbers that don’t work or have not been responded to at all. Assistant:

ip4bj91

ip43f9i

This is 100% your insurance companies responsibility if you have uninsured/underinsured coverage. Your insurance company is being lazy - it's their liability and they will go after Goodwill to be made whole. Point #2 - Goodwill is admitting that they are operating uninsured semi-trucks in the city? There are a BUNCH of state agencies that would like to know about this. Goodwill organizations are locally controlled and operated, run by a board of directors. The liability for having semi trucks rolling around the city uninsured would certainly be a major concern.

You should file a claim under your own insurance and let this be your insurer's problem. You're right. This hassle is greater than your deductible. And your insurer still may recover their payout and your deductible from Goodwill. If they don't you may be able to sue Goodwill for that amount directly.

azktac

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Human: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? Assistant:

ei8nyat

ei8pjrj

Contact the government office that deals with these employment questions, you should be crystal clear on the legal rules before you take any action.

Not illegal. But maybe worth asking HR, "To clarify, is Boss saying that staying past 5pm is a part of my job responsibilities and, as such, I should enroll my child in an alternate daycare? Im confused by what s/he is trying to communicate here but if my job responsibilities have changed, I would like to know."

azktac

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Human: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? Assistant:

ei8kcw5

ei8pjrj

Nowhere is it illegal for an employer to make a suggestion. Should you face repercussions for ignoring the suggestion, well, that's a different post.

Not illegal. But maybe worth asking HR, "To clarify, is Boss saying that staying past 5pm is a part of my job responsibilities and, as such, I should enroll my child in an alternate daycare? Im confused by what s/he is trying to communicate here but if my job responsibilities have changed, I would like to know."

azktac

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Human: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? Assistant:

ei8kcw5

ei8nyat

Nowhere is it illegal for an employer to make a suggestion. Should you face repercussions for ignoring the suggestion, well, that's a different post.

Contact the government office that deals with these employment questions, you should be crystal clear on the legal rules before you take any action.

azktac

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Human: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? Assistant:

ei8kcw5

ei8pscu

Nowhere is it illegal for an employer to make a suggestion. Should you face repercussions for ignoring the suggestion, well, that's a different post.

Is it legal for him to suggest an alternative daycare? Yes. It is not legal for him to fire you because you don’t stay past the end of the work day. I would be looking for a new job if I were you.

azktac

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Human: Employer wants me to switch my daughters daycare because he feels like I should stay past 5, even thought that's the end of the work day. Hey Reddit. I'm a Canadian citizen and I am having an issue at work. I am performing well, doing my job, and not doing anything against company policy or Canadian law. Recently my employer expressed the fact that although our day ends at 5PM that because I'm not staying past 5 like some other employees that he thinks I am not hustling or taking the job seriously. I know nothing can be done so although I was upset I brushed it off. The reason I leave at 5 on the dot usually is because my daughter is in daycare and the daycare is not open past 6. I need to be there to pick her up, and also want to be there to spend the night with her. We'll, yesterday night a superior messaged me about a daycare he found that is open to 7PM and serves dinner to kids. I was infuriated. I don't know why they expect me to pay more money and switch my daughter to another day care after already making friends and getting used to her current daycare. Especially since it's only because they feel I should be staying after 5. Is this legal? Are there issues I can bring up? Or is my employer just a big POS? Assistant:

ei9yd8s

ei94zsb

Turn it into a negotiation. IF they want you to stay later and use that specific daycare, tell'em to open up the old chequebook and compensate you for it. Otherwise start shipping CVs and pop smoke ASAP.

Your employer can force you to work overtime, as long as you are being compensated for it. This article is informative. https://www.monster.ca/career-advice/article/overtime-laws-in-canada Might be time to start job hunting?

4taoea

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Human: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? Assistant:

d5fu4kh

d5fv6o4

Do not pay a cent. It's beyond the statute of limitations. But, if you pay anything, that may restart the clock. It is also too late to report to collections. So, best thing is to order them not to contact you about it any more. Best to do that in writing.

Prostate removal from female? Case closed.

4taoea

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Human: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? Assistant:

d5furde

d5fv6o4

Consult with a lawyer who specializes in suing debt collectors. It will depend on a few details which a lawyer will be able to help with but there are some steep consequences for debt collectors who violate collection laws (and this sounds like if they are not already violating they will)

Prostate removal from female? Case closed.

4taoea

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Human: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? Assistant:

d5ftx78

d5fv6o4

Did she have any hospital stay? If you're sure it's meritless, you read the FDCPA, you tell the debt collectors to go away, and they do.

Prostate removal from female? Case closed.

4taoea

legaladvice_train

Human: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? Assistant:

d5fu4kh

d5ftx78

Do not pay a cent. It's beyond the statute of limitations. But, if you pay anything, that may restart the clock. It is also too late to report to collections. So, best thing is to order them not to contact you about it any more. Best to do that in writing.

Did she have any hospital stay? If you're sure it's meritless, you read the FDCPA, you tell the debt collectors to go away, and they do.

4taoea

legaladvice_train

Human: Sent to collections for a hospital bill from 2008 for my (then) 5 year old daughter's prostate removal and hospital stay. No one will listen when I tell them it's a mistake. California. I could really use some advice or to be pointed in the right direction here. No one from the collections company or the hospital will listen when I try to show them that it is a mistake. I even went to the hospital with my daughter, her birth certificate (she was born there) and her SSN but they just told me the bill is accurate. It's a huge bill and there's no way I can afford it. The calls are constant. I have three pre-teen kids and my wife died when they were small and I'm doing it all on my own here. If I get stuck paying the bill I'll lose my house and money is tight. It's obviously a mistake and I'm freaking out. What should I do to and how can I get someone to listen to and fix it? Assistant:

d5g4vd7

d5g2ra4

You may also want to check, and freeze, your daughter's credit, in case she is a victim of identity theft. I hope this is not the case.

Here's a debt validation letter.

cqwn2n

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Human: My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened. Assistant:

ex0dso1

ex0f1nf

I’m so sorry for your loss. After you have had time to grieve, you could talk to a personal injury lawyer. You may have a claim against him for infliction of emotional distress. Those are hard cases to prove, but if what you said is true, his behavior was pretty outrageous.

Contacting corporate might also be a good idea. Everyone involved should report their own interaction with him so they can get a clear picture.

cqwn2n

legaladvice_train

Human: My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened. Assistant:

ex08692

ex0f1nf

It doesnt sound like there's anything illegal here, or anything that caused damages you can sue for. The only potentially problematic thing is this: >The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. But that's more an issue of hospital policy than the law. Was anyone in your family present to refuse his visiting? Also your title says the boss took pictures in the morgue, but the text says it was in the ER. There might be stricter laws about who's allowed to access the deceased, not sure. The best you can do is complain to hospital administration about how this was handled, and maybe they'll tighten their procedures for the future.

Contacting corporate might also be a good idea. Everyone involved should report their own interaction with him so they can get a clear picture.

cqwn2n

legaladvice_train

Human: My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened. Assistant:

ex0c8at

ex08692

>When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. Depending on the circumstances, sending family members photos of a deceased loved one *may* constitute criminal harassment. You've got nothing to lose by going to the police and explaining the situation to them.

It doesnt sound like there's anything illegal here, or anything that caused damages you can sue for. The only potentially problematic thing is this: >The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. But that's more an issue of hospital policy than the law. Was anyone in your family present to refuse his visiting? Also your title says the boss took pictures in the morgue, but the text says it was in the ER. There might be stricter laws about who's allowed to access the deceased, not sure. The best you can do is complain to hospital administration about how this was handled, and maybe they'll tighten their procedures for the future.

cqwn2n

legaladvice_train

Human: My mother died, her now ex-boss took pictures of her dead body with his cell phone while she was laying in the morgue... He owns a Days Inn. I know the title sounds ghoulish, and that’s because it is. My mother passed away on the 10th, just 5 days from today. Biologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened. Assistant:

ex0dso1

ex08692

I’m so sorry for your loss. After you have had time to grieve, you could talk to a personal injury lawyer. You may have a claim against him for infliction of emotional distress. Those are hard cases to prove, but if what you said is true, his behavior was pretty outrageous.

It doesnt sound like there's anything illegal here, or anything that caused damages you can sue for. The only potentially problematic thing is this: >The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. But that's more an issue of hospital policy than the law. Was anyone in your family present to refuse his visiting? Also your title says the boss took pictures in the morgue, but the text says it was in the ER. There might be stricter laws about who's allowed to access the deceased, not sure. The best you can do is complain to hospital administration about how this was handled, and maybe they'll tighten their procedures for the future.

cqwn2n

legaladvice_train

Human: ologically she’s my grandmother, but she and my grandpa adopted me when I was only 5 years old. So she raised me, took care of me and I was there every single day taking care of her up until the very end. She was a very tough woman, she worked every single day she could at Days Inn. She completely refused to stop working. After my grandpa passed away a couple years ago she felt that she needed to keep busy, to keep her mind off everything. Her boss, who is from Pakistan, wasn’t always the nicest guy to her. There were times I liked him, and other times I hated him. She would come home crying some days due to the way he treated her at work, yelling at her, making fun of her and childish things. On the 10th she had a massive heart attack, and died in my arms. I tried doing CPR on her and I called 911 immediately. I called my aunt and uncle, they got there and soon after her boss showed up. The ER just let him back there, without anybody’s permission. When he gets back there he kept repeating the same trash like ‘Oh man that’s life, life’s tough man.’ Seriously. My grandma worked for this scumbag for 20 years. She worked there before he even bought the hotel and changed the name to Days Inn. She was the head maid there. So when he walked back there where her body was, I was seriously having a nervous breakdown. She didn’t look like herself at all. She always wore a wig, she always wore makeup (most of it was on my shirt from trying everything I could to resuscitate her and keep her alive), and her false teeth had fallen out. All of a sudden he picked up his cell phone and started snapping multiple pictures of her body laying there and laughing at the same time. At the time I couldn’t even believe what happened. My mind was so messed up and I felt like I was in some sort of nightmare. I couldn’t believe anyone would do something like that to somebody, especially someone who worked for them for 20 years. I hit the floor and my chest felt like it was seriously about to cave in, I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I went and told my aunt, and she asked him to leave immediately. During this whole thing my biological mom was in Florida, and she started driving back when she heard. When they got back from Florida they told me that he sent them the pictures he took of her body. I nearly lost it after hearing that. She would’ve NEVER wanted ANYONE to see her like that, and this sick piece of trash is sending pictures of her body to people. I also found out that he not only sent the pictures to them, but also sent them to her co-workers. I contacted one of them who admitted that he sent them to her, but she didn’t want to lose her job by getting involved. She deserved so much better than this. I’m just wondering, if you’ve read this, what would your opinion be about this whole situation. I am so heartbroken over all this, and this guy taking illegal pictures of my mother’s dead body and sending them to who knows how many people. Probably his entire family has them and they’re probably passing them around. I just wanted to know if anyone has been through anything like this? It’s so horrific, and I feel so sick about all of this. I can’t sleep at night, I haven’t slept halfway decent since all this happened. Assistant:

ex12l6t

ex15214

The question seems to be where did he take the photos. If you were at his place of business, not much you can do. This might be construed as desecration of the dead in some areas, but if it was on his property and he says that he needed information for insurance, osha, etc. he might have a case. If you were in the ER, often times the ER is chaotic and people who shouldn’t be there get in there. Not much you can do about it beyond the desecration thing. If you were in the main part of the hospital, or any department other than the ER (including the morgue). Then you have a leg to stand on. Sue the hospital for damages to your grandmother’s body while it was in their custody. They will then have the legal clout to go against her former employer as he was trespassing and hopefully fire the person who gave him access. Try harassment, try desecrating the dead, I think there might be legal precedent that you cannot slander the dead (but that may be me remembering a movie). In any case, talk to a lawyer and document everything. And yes, that is really skeevy.

It may not be illegal, but there is certainly a civil case for intentional infliction of emotional distress per se. > A Florida appellate court recently explained that in cases in which the defendant's outrageous conduct is directed to a third person, the emotional distress felt by the victim's close relatives on learning of the acts is not actionable unless they observed the conduct and the conduct was directed at them; **however, "unique considerations" apply in cases involving dead bodies or pictures of dead bodies.** (Williams v. City of Minneola (Fla. Dist. Ct. App. 1991) 575 So.2d 683, 694.) The court held that the mother and sister of a decedent could state a cause of action for outrageous infliction of emotional distress by reckless conduct based on the defendants' exhibition of a videotape of the decedent's autopsy, even though they were not present at the display. It reasoned, **"One who behaves outrageously with regard to pictures of a dead body can be presumed to know that severe emotional distress will be inflicted thereby on those who were closely related to the deceased, should those survivors become aware of the tortfeasor's behavior."** (Id. at p. 693.)

b0zppi

legaladvice_train

Human: of me using my medicine, despite the fact that I’ve shown tremendous improvement? 5) Is there any way to get reimbursement of the money he’s been owing my mom the last few years? 6) How can we guarantee that from now on he’s paying the child support my mom is owed? 7)is there any legal recourse for this involving emotional damages? 8) does he have any legal right to go stop my usage of testosterone at any point when I do start it? 9) Do I have the ability to protect my Information on my own phone? 10) could any legal action be taken against him for digging through my phone without my permission or even my knowledge? 11) Could my mom be at fault for me not responding to my dad’s texts? Assistant:

eiiqvpj

eiiq9pg

Not a lawyer, but I am a tech-geek, so some of this falls into my sphere of interest. > 9) Do I have the ability to protect my Information on my own phone? So the first legal question here, is who owns the account? Someone is paying for your phone. If it's your mom, you have a good chance -- if it's your dad, you've got problems. If he's the one paying for the account, he has every legal right on the planet to access everything on it. It's not quite game over from a privacy standpoint, but it's very close. You also need to worry about parental permissions here -- just because you *can* hide things doesn't mean you *should*, and there may be consequences to avoiding parental supervision. I'd talk to your mother first about a lot of these. Now the good news is that from the sounds of it, he probably hasn't actually 'penetrated' your phone -- he's just using the cell company's logs to identify who you talk to, and when. But that's hard to diagnose with certainty with the degree of data you'e provided. That said, from a technical angle there _are_ some things you can do to limit his ability to snoop, even if he owns the account (some of these items, notably the first and fourth, are good ideas period): 1) **Change all your passwords. _All_ of them. *Right now* ** Try not to reuse the same password everywhere. There are services -- I use LastPass, there's KeyPass if you want to keep it local, and so on -- that help with this. Seriously, do this. *NOW*. Don't wait, don't pass go, don't collect 200$, and most assuredly don't read the rest of what I have to say until you do this. Start with your email account -- and I strongly recommend you use one that you can control yourself, such as a gmail account. School accounts can be opened up via the school, and there goes your security. (Legally, you may need to talk to your mother for permission to open said account). I don't have a doubt in my mind that you're reusing passwords, because almost everyone does, and that's a bad idea period. It means once he compromises you on one site, he has you on all of them. 2) Don't use apps, use a browser. And never select 'remember me'. If he owns the account, he probably has the ability to make snapshots of your device. And if an app uses a persistent log in token (or the browser has a persistent cookie), that's a vulnerability he *could* use to access your account. There are supposed to be protections against this, but defense in depth is better. 3) Anything you send/receive via the cell modem is automatically tracked by the cell company -- specifically, the entries are in logs. 99 times out of 100 nobody cares, I'm sorry to say it but it sounds like you may be the 1 out of a 100 where it matters. So you have two options: don't use the cell, or use a proxy to hide what you're doing. Note that SMS messages, since they're routed through the company, are compromised by default in your scenario. Note that this only hides *what* you are doing, not when. 4) Always use HTTPS, never use HTTP. This ties into the proxy advice, as well. If you use HTTPS, it's possible to tell *what* server you're contacting (say, facebook) but not what you're doing there. It's also nigh-impossible to modify your requests mid-flight, and if he's playing games by playing middleman to listen in on what you're doing, HTTPS has protections to detect that. Pay *attention* to the lock icon on your browser bar, and make sure it stays locked!

Wait, you say your parents separated a year ago and now your dad wants a divorce and full custody, but he's been paying child support for 10 years after leaving your family? Your story does not make sense.

50570t

legaladvice_train

Human: Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can "set up a trust fund"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just "freeloaders" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to "save us the headache of dealing with a house" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. Assistant:

d719gxd

d717qkb

Tell him you'll only consider it if he pays you the 5 years of back rental income, lump sum, immediately. If he does, then you can say, "I considered it, and I'm not gonna do it." That's your house. You're nearly 30. You're not a kid. Not even close. There's no way he needs to control your property. You need to do what you need to do to get control of it. Also, to get the rental income coming to YOU, not your dad. I get that you don't want to destroy the relationship, but that's exactly what he's doing... he's trying to take what's yours and benefit from it, while claiming he's doing it "for your own good."

You've already gotten good advice in the other thread. Don't sign the house over. Your father has acted like this house was his for five years and taken the income from it, though he knew it wasn't his. On the other hand, he may have paid the property taxes, may have kept up the house, etc. So that's a good thing. You and your brother should probably speak with a lawyer and figure out how to reassert control over the property and decide what to do with it.

50570t

legaladvice_train

Human: Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can "set up a trust fund"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just "freeloaders" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to "save us the headache of dealing with a house" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. Assistant:

d719gxd

d717n79

Tell him you'll only consider it if he pays you the 5 years of back rental income, lump sum, immediately. If he does, then you can say, "I considered it, and I'm not gonna do it." That's your house. You're nearly 30. You're not a kid. Not even close. There's no way he needs to control your property. You need to do what you need to do to get control of it. Also, to get the rental income coming to YOU, not your dad. I get that you don't want to destroy the relationship, but that's exactly what he's doing... he's trying to take what's yours and benefit from it, while claiming he's doing it "for your own good."

It sounds like your dad is trying to hose you. Get a consultation with a probate attorney.

50570t

legaladvice_train

Human: Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can "set up a trust fund"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just "freeloaders" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to "save us the headache of dealing with a house" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. Assistant:

d71gumd

d717n79

I agree with an attorney but you should also consider that your mother may have had other assets that were in your name only. Was there a will?

It sounds like your dad is trying to hose you. Get a consultation with a probate attorney.

50570t

legaladvice_train

Human: Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can "set up a trust fund"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just "freeloaders" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to "save us the headache of dealing with a house" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. Assistant:

d71eurq

d71gumd

Follow up question for the lawers on the thread. Assuming he and/or his brother weren't notified after his mothers death, what kind of problems could the executor of her estate get into?

I agree with an attorney but you should also consider that your mother may have had other assets that were in your name only. Was there a will?

50570t

legaladvice_train

Human: Inherited a house I didn't know about and now dad wants me to sign it over to him so he can "set up a trust fund"...any advice appreciated (x-post from r/personal finance) A little background: I will be 30 years old next week, and I live in an apartment with my 31 year old brother. We both still have a lot of student loan debt and other expenses, but we manage to get by. Five years ago, our mother died of cancer. My dad, who I used to be very close with, suddenly became like a whole different person (as sometimes happens following a tragedy), and a year after mom dies he starts dating this other woman. They move very quickly, planning a trip to Europe within a couple weeks of meeting one another, and within six months he's basically moved in with her. At this point, my brother and I were still living at home trying to save some money while paying off some our college loans (I was 26 and bro was 27), and suddenly dad wants us to move out ASAP so he can sell the house. I found out much later that she was the one pulling the strings and urging him to kick us out, that we were just "freeloaders" (even though we were giving dad as much money as we could afford a month to help with expenses while still saving/paying down debt). Sidenote: she has been divorced 3 times now, dad will be her 4th marriage. Red flag. So that's what we do. I find a nice apartment within our price range and we move out. So now it's 3 years later, my dad is ready to marry this woman in 3 weeks, and I get a call out of the blue from him (we rarely speak even though both my brother and I are in the wedding). Turns out one of the houses (he has two) dad rents out in Louisiana (we live in MA) was actually in my mom's name and my brother and I's name, meaning that when she died 5 years ago, we inherited it. This is the first I've heard of it. So his reason for the call was to tell us that he wants to "save us the headache of dealing with a house" and instead set up a trust fund with the money from the house, but in order to do so, we have to sign the house over to him before the wedding, and he wants us to meet with him and a lawyer within the next week or so. I will admit I'm pretty ignorant to stuff of this nature since I've never had to deal with it before, so at first glance I didn't question this and told him okay, that's nice, because I really don't want to deal with a house either. I didn't really think more about it until this morning when I mentioned it to a couple of my coworkers and they were like "whooaa wait a minute, you guys are over 30, why would you need a trust fund when you should just get the money?" They also know the ongoing dramatic saga that has been my relationship with my father over the last 5 years, so they told me it sounded like him and his fiance want the money before the wedding. I don't know what to think. Is there something I'm missing? What questions should I be asking? I really don't want to destroy whatever is left of my relationship with my father if I can avoid it, but I also don't want to throw away the possibility of finally being able to pay down our debt and live a more comfortable life. I've been dreaming about not living paycheck to paycheck for years. Assistant:

d71g8pg

d71gumd

Please don't talk to your father anymore about this until you consult with an attorney. They can guide you in this. You have THREE properties that you and your brother should have AT LEAST majority control of. There is a lot of money on the line. To discuss it anymore with him or his attorney without talking with your own is a mistake. There is a great deal of risk and money on the line here. Also, your father sounds like a scum bag. You didn't and will not hurt your relationship. He did. Consider trying to transform these properties into a continual residual income. It could really transform your life allowing you to not be in a position of debt any more AND possibly having a survivable income for you and your brother.

I agree with an attorney but you should also consider that your mother may have had other assets that were in your name only. Was there a will?

a0wrzk

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Human: My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an "intervention". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be "escorted off her property." Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to. Assistant:

eanl8i5

ec1yple

I'd recommend looking online for temporary guardianship forms and having one with you if to do manage to meet with either of Nancy's parents. If they'll sign it willingly, it gives you a leg up in the process, and legally clears you to take Nancy to the doctor, sign school permission slips, etc. Note that this does not override their natural rights as parents, so it's still best if CPS formally places Nancy with you, but the form can be a helpful interim measure while the formal paperwork is getting worked out, and it documents their trust in you and willingness to have you watch over Nancy. I am not a lawyer but have used temporary guardianship forms regularly when my kids are traveling with other people or we're watching someone else's child.

Thanks for doing that for her. I moved in with my friend's family in high school and I still go see them every week and spend the holidays with them. I don't know how I would have even made it without the stability they provided for me.

a0wrzk

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Human: My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an "intervention". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be "escorted off her property." Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to. Assistant:

eand85p

ec1yple

I'm gonna have to say inform CPS, it's important for them to have information relevant to the child's whereabouts while conducting any investigation. Considering the state of her Mom's home and that her Mom is seemingly supportive of it, and that she's 6 months away from being an adult, I highly doubt they'll have any problem with it. So contacting them will be in both hers and your best interests, you may want to see about a consultation with your family lawyer just to be on the safe side though. My biggest recommendation would honestly be to see what the plans are for her when she turns 18.

Thanks for doing that for her. I moved in with my friend's family in high school and I still go see them every week and spend the holidays with them. I don't know how I would have even made it without the stability they provided for me.

a0wrzk

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Human: My teenage daughter's friend is staying with us, CPS has been called on her parents. Her mom is a hoarder and the house is unlivable. What do I need to do legally? My daughter is 17, her friend will be 18 in 6 months. I'll call the friend Nancy. This weekend Nancy came to stay with us because her extended family was holding an "intervention". Nancy had called an aunt who lives in another city and told her there was mold, insects, and feces in the house, and now that it's getting cold Nancy can't sleep with the windows open to mitigate the smell. Dad is an alcoholic, but functional. He does nothing about the hoarding, but he does work and provide for the family financially. There was no professional involved in this intervention. The family told Nancy's mom that a company was going to come today and clean everything out of the house, and she had from then (Saturday) to today to put anything she wanted to keep in boxes and remove them. Yesterday Nancy's mom called the police and told them anyone that came today to take her stuff would be "escorted off her property." Her family then called CPS. I have a friendly relationship with Nancy's mom and she texted my husband and I this weekend to say thanks for letting Nancy stay with us. I texted her today to see if she will meet me for coffee so we can talk. Have not heard back. Do I need to contact CPS and let them know Nancy is staying with us? Is there anything I can do to help Nancy be able to keep staying with us? I don't want her to be forced to move back home if she doesn't want to, or be forced to move in with relatives out of town and have to change schools, on top of all the chaos she's been living in. She's a great kid and my daughter's best friend. Her mom is in complete denial and is currently decluttering, as though that's all that needs to be done. It sounds like the house needs to be gutted down to the studs and even the sub floors need to be torn out and replaced. I know a family lawyer and can hire them if I need to. Assistant:

eanl8i5

eand85p

I'd recommend looking online for temporary guardianship forms and having one with you if to do manage to meet with either of Nancy's parents. If they'll sign it willingly, it gives you a leg up in the process, and legally clears you to take Nancy to the doctor, sign school permission slips, etc. Note that this does not override their natural rights as parents, so it's still best if CPS formally places Nancy with you, but the form can be a helpful interim measure while the formal paperwork is getting worked out, and it documents their trust in you and willingness to have you watch over Nancy. I am not a lawyer but have used temporary guardianship forms regularly when my kids are traveling with other people or we're watching someone else's child.

I'm gonna have to say inform CPS, it's important for them to have information relevant to the child's whereabouts while conducting any investigation. Considering the state of her Mom's home and that her Mom is seemingly supportive of it, and that she's 6 months away from being an adult, I highly doubt they'll have any problem with it. So contacting them will be in both hers and your best interests, you may want to see about a consultation with your family lawyer just to be on the safe side though. My biggest recommendation would honestly be to see what the plans are for her when she turns 18.

wlqw55

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Human: My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? Assistant:

ijv2o6s

ijuyit1

I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.

Your friend needs to go get a storage unit and put an their shit in there for the time being, then return it. They could report it stolen and your friend could get into legal trouble, and they are probably already going to get sued for the extra days of rent. You probably will not be in any criminal trouble unless there's something else we don't know. For example its not hitched to your vehicle is it? Pretty easy to claim you were the one stealing it in that case.

wlqw55

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Human: My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? Assistant:

ijv2o6s

ijuoz6g

I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.

Only if she hides it. Just tell uhaul where it is so they can come and get it

wlqw55

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Human: My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? Assistant:

ijuz30e

ijv2o6s

I’ve had clients in the past charged with theft after keeping a rental vehicle beyond the designated return date and ghosting Hertz, Enterprise, etc. Your friend should be aware that she could get criminally charged. As far as your liability, don’t lie to U-Haul but make it clear that you did not rent the trailer. You may also want to let them know in writing that you didn’t agree to be a co-signer on the rental.

I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.

wlqw55

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Human: My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? Assistant:

ijupx0y

ijv2o6s

It’s a contracts issue. They rented for a period and she is in breach by not returning it. Eventually uhaul will come looking to repossess it. You can let them know where it is.

I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.

wlqw55

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Human: My friend who is staying with me has not returned her UHaul.. I have a friend I've known for a few months now who recently got in a situation with her apartment complex (it's a long story, I will not go into it here as it is not relevant to the post) and her and her roommate were evicted. They had 3 days to obtain all of their belongings and move. On the second day of packing, they had found a house, and rented a UHaul. It is currently parked in front of my house. Well, the house fell through. She has been looking every day since, however it is not easy. Houses here go quick, and sometimes the house you're looking at is gone before your application is even processed. I received a call this morning, because she put me down as I think a reference or contact for uhaul, and the trailer was supposed to be returned a few days ago. It's parked in front of my house. Uhaul called me and told me she needed to return it, or I could never rent from uhaul again. I'm not so worried about that, although it probably will be a pain on my ass somewhere in the future, I feel lile that is the least of my concerns. I was under the imoression she had talked to uhaul and was just paying out the ass every day to hold the trailer, and clearly thats not the case. Obviously not returning the uhaul is wrong, the next customer, all that. But is this a crime? Are they going to report it stolen? If so how long does she have? And could I be in trouble because of this? I'm obviously going to try to convince her to get a storage unit or find someone she can store her belongings with, however, I've learned you can't really make grown people do anything, so if she decided to play chicken with uhaul, what's going to happen? Assistant:

ijv2o6s

ijuuwyh

I worked for Uhaul for many years. This isn't legal advice so much at insight on what they'll do. After they consider it stolen (usually a week after the due date has passed or after they can no longer establish communication with your friend) they'll send someone to both the address she rented it with and the one she said she was moving too. This is assuming it was a local rental and not one-way. If they spot it, they'll come to get it. The marketing company I worked under would send one of us to recover it, usually with one of the leads. If it was a truck, we'd bring the spare key and take it. If it was a trailer and it was unhooked and sitting there, we'd come with another truck and take it. We'd usually have a police escort but there were several times I just came up and took it. If your friends stuff is in the truck/trailer, U-Haul will store it and charge her. She will have to pay to retrieve it and if she doesn't, after the allotted time by law they have to hold it passes, they'll auction it off. Both you and her will be banned from ever renting from U-Haul again. I never saw them once try and press charges against anyone who didn't return equipment though.

You didn't sign anything or agree to anything? It's parked on the street, not on your property? If both of those things are true, they can choose to ban you from renting from them, but you are not otherwise liable. However, they can name you as a defendant or sic the cops on you, albeit without justification, and that would be inconvenient and possibly costly. So you want the truck not in front of your house. One solution is to tell them it's there and tell her you told them. Then she can either deal with them or move it somewhere else.

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Human: Ohio-My daughter [15F] came to me [33F] and told me her friend [15M] is being abused at home. She has asked if he could stay over at our place for the night Hi, I just need an outside opinion and advice on this. I live in Ohio so if anyone knows the laws here or in America in general for this please let me know. Earlier today my daughter came into my bed room and asked if she could speak to me. She told me friend Ambrose is being abused at home and asked if he could spend the night. I allowed it and I met him. He is a good looking kid but he is very shy, and very quiet. He has a bruise on his back and he has a black eye. He said his cousin and her boyfriend gave it to him. I don't know his full status but apparently his cousin is his legal guardian. My daughter has sat with him the entire two hours he has been here. He told me his cousin is the only family he has. He has no one else otherwise he would not be staying there I am really concerned for this young man, he seems frightened of adults. I phoned his cousin did not say anything and said he is going to be spending the weekend at my place and the woman hung up on me. Did not say anything to me. I want to contact someone but my daughter is afraid of what will happen to him. She is scared they will take him away, I am going to contact someone in the morning. My daughter wants him to stay with us over the summer break. My daughter is a pretty girl she wants to be a model. At first I thought this was some master plan to get a boy to spend the night, but it's really not like that. She seems genuinely concerned for him and is taking good care of him. She as we speak is watching netflix with him on the couch. Who do I contact about this and if I were to want to take him in could I? Assistant:

d3emblm

d3emn9b

Call CPS. The kid is being abused or being placed into dangerous situations. There's no guarantee of anything but you could certainly offer to be a temporary home for him if that's what you want to do.

Call CPS or your local police might have a child abuse hotline. This is an emergency. Taking someone else's kid without the guardian's consent (and it sounds like you don't even know who the guardian is) is a terrible idea, for a night or for the summer. This can get you in tons of legal trouble, like felony kidnapping charges trouble. It's up to CPS to place him in a safe place, usually with family first, though you could offer.

anhlhw

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Human: [IN] Mother's brother died in her other home she was letting him live in for free, his ex-wife and kids are demanding entry to retrieve his belongings which amounts to almost nothing. Virtually everything in the home is owned by my mother besides a tv, bed and computer. Is it legal to deny entry to these people to my mother's home? She is not refusing to let them have the few items, just not at this second as it has been less than 24 hours since his passing. Not to mention my mother is out of state currently and I have changed the locks at her request due to the ex-wife stating she was and will be entering the home today. This woman and her kids, who had very little to do with my uncle, live four hours away. My mother was the one who took him in when he was having kidney failure. Note: There was no will left behind Assistant:

eftqvdc

eftr79h

Is it possible that what they are looking for are personal documents such as a will, banking information, life insurance policies and such? If so, you could offer to look through the house for such things and provide copies. If there is a will, it can be an "chicken and egg" problem if the heirs can't gain access to it. To answer your question, I think it is legal to refuse them entry. Arguably, your mother could be liable for allowing them access. What if a will turns up and none of them are named executor? It is the probate court's job to determine if the decedent was intestate and to appoint someone to act as executor or administrator. All that said it is possible to settle a small estate without probate. If the estate is worth less than $50,000, the family can use a small estate affidavit to claim property. However, they have to wait at least 45 days after death to use it. As others have stated, there is no way they have any court order or any other document that would grant them access within 24 hours of death. Good luck.

As the landlord it is your responsibility to secure the property which it sounds like you have already done. All of uncle Joe's property becomes the property of uncle Joe's estate. Uncle Joe's estate will get a court appointed executor. This executor will be named in a document signed by a judge, not uncle Joe's ex-wife's lawyer. You safely can surrender uncle Joe's estate's possessions to the executor. This sounds like a shady lot to me, I would not allow them in the house as a group. I would bet that one of them is going to keep you busy while the others steal stuff. If you wanted to be nice, arrange to meet ONLY one of them to hand over some of his stuff. Take photos, make a list of items, approx value and condition and make them sign for the stuff. That list should be provided to the executor once designated. You have no legal obligation to allow access to anyone not named on a written lease or the executor. ​

vx269f

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Human: Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again? Assistant:

ifuptpu

iftfz2z

There are too many variables to give a definitive answer. 1) what your current custody order actually states. 2) why you don’t have primary custody to begin with 3) what your Son’s various doctors and therapists have diagnosed and done for him from start to finish. Ie do his past and current medical professional providers concur. 4) what your lawyer says. I mean you need to talk to someone who knows the current laws and precedents say about situations like this.

You can contact a family law lawyer and discuss your options.

vx269f

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Human: Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again? Assistant:

ifuptpu

ifu4ymr

There are too many variables to give a definitive answer. 1) what your current custody order actually states. 2) why you don’t have primary custody to begin with 3) what your Son’s various doctors and therapists have diagnosed and done for him from start to finish. Ie do his past and current medical professional providers concur. 4) what your lawyer says. I mean you need to talk to someone who knows the current laws and precedents say about situations like this.

Get a lawyer. The courts will hopefully prefer he live with a parent instead of a home. What are your parental rights currently?

vx269f

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Human: Ex husband wants put our 8 year old Non- verbal autistic son in a group home.What do I need to do to get custody again? Assistant:

iftfz2z

ifty522

You can contact a family law lawyer and discuss your options.

Why did you not got the custody at first ?

cmx6j7

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Human: Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma. Assistant:

ew593yn

ew591v8

You don’t press charges — you file a police report, which you’ve already done. You can sue for the value of the items. If this guy has no money, he won’t be able to pay you if you win. Won’t your homeowners’ insurance cover some of the items’ value?

Can you sue civilly? Sure. People in jail don't have money and people stealing to pay for their drug habit don't have money. But you can sue, you just are highly unlikely to collect. First step is insurance. Second would be to see if there is a local victim assistance program that might help.

cmx6j7

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Human: Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma. Assistant:

ew5hraz

ew5djsq

You can contact the District Attorney. They can make restitution a part of sentencing or a plea deal. As others have said - a private suit is most likely a waste of time if this is the typical no-asset scumbag situation. But if the DA says "Hey, you can get time served and probation if you figure out how to pay this money, or you can spend a year or two in prison if not... that sometimes DOES get blood from the proverbial stone.

You can't press charges. That's the domain of the DA. You filed a police report. You can sue them civilly but how much money do you think a thief has?

cmx6j7

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Human: Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma. Assistant:

ew5hraz

ew5hoio

You can contact the District Attorney. They can make restitution a part of sentencing or a plea deal. As others have said - a private suit is most likely a waste of time if this is the typical no-asset scumbag situation. But if the DA says "Hey, you can get time served and probation if you figure out how to pay this money, or you can spend a year or two in prison if not... that sometimes DOES get blood from the proverbial stone.

Like others have said, you can sue him, but he probably doesn't have the money to give you. Maybe in a few years he'll clean up his act and get a regular job and have wages that could be garnished, but if you want to buy a new TV now your insurance would probably be a better bet.

cmx6j7

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Human: Home was broken into a month ago, cops just arrested burglar who was caught selling some of our stuff at a pawn shop. Can I press charges to compensate for the items we never got back? Burglar broke into our home while we were at work on 7/8. Two days later he sold our PS4 and Xbox at the local pawn shop. Police caught and arrested him about a week ago. Most of our other expensive items are still missing - flat screen TV, laptop, sound bar, custom gaming PC, and an antique Japanese coin. Can we get a lawyer to sue for damages/stolen goods? We are still missing about $5000 worth of electronics. This is all in the police report. In Oklahoma. Assistant:

ew5hoio

ew5jwjr

Like others have said, you can sue him, but he probably doesn't have the money to give you. Maybe in a few years he'll clean up his act and get a regular job and have wages that could be garnished, but if you want to buy a new TV now your insurance would probably be a better bet.

most pawn shops are required to keep merchandise at the pawn shop for a certain time and register it with the police dept. your stuff may still be there and the pawn shop owners are in possession of stolen property. "In most states pawn shops are required to hold anything they buy for 30 days prior to placing it up for sale and they are also supposed to check any item with the police to make sure what they have is not stolen property"

490ws0

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Human: Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. Assistant:

d0oboke

d0o71hn

I grew up in Washington DC with a fair number of diplomat kids at my school. There was a similar case at my HS (Kid was selling forged IDs so kids could drink, he claimed immunity. Unfortunately for him, the only thing the feds like worse than counterfeiters is foriegn national counterfeiters) and a couple of other similar cases. What you should do is contact the embassy of the country that the kid has immunity under. Embassies really really don't like bad press, and they will work with you to try and make sure you don't raise too much of a stink. They can and will retroactively deny immunity, especially with violent offenders (with stuff like traffic violations or non violent misdemeanors theyll defend people, but no country likes people who break bones in their country's name without permission). This also serves the purpose of finding out whether or not the kid actually has immunity. It might be something like the cops went to his house and the parent screamed "we have immunity you can't come on the property" and the cops left it at that, but thats not actually how it works. Cops might not know that though, diplomats and their kids are usually pretty well behaved so cops wouldnt have a lot of experience with that. The best thing about contacting the embassy is you don't even have to have anything to do with the girl who was injured to contact them. You can say "I'm afraid of this known violent person at this school and he'a comitting crimes in the name of your country" and the diplomatic people will work quickly. Might wanna contact the State Department. The lawyers there and the embassies lawyers usually work together to make sure that things flow smoothly and diplomatically with the police and the families involved.

Sounds ripe for a civil suit.

490ws0

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Human: Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. Assistant:

d0oboke

d0o97qh

I grew up in Washington DC with a fair number of diplomat kids at my school. There was a similar case at my HS (Kid was selling forged IDs so kids could drink, he claimed immunity. Unfortunately for him, the only thing the feds like worse than counterfeiters is foriegn national counterfeiters) and a couple of other similar cases. What you should do is contact the embassy of the country that the kid has immunity under. Embassies really really don't like bad press, and they will work with you to try and make sure you don't raise too much of a stink. They can and will retroactively deny immunity, especially with violent offenders (with stuff like traffic violations or non violent misdemeanors theyll defend people, but no country likes people who break bones in their country's name without permission). This also serves the purpose of finding out whether or not the kid actually has immunity. It might be something like the cops went to his house and the parent screamed "we have immunity you can't come on the property" and the cops left it at that, but thats not actually how it works. Cops might not know that though, diplomats and their kids are usually pretty well behaved so cops wouldnt have a lot of experience with that. The best thing about contacting the embassy is you don't even have to have anything to do with the girl who was injured to contact them. You can say "I'm afraid of this known violent person at this school and he'a comitting crimes in the name of your country" and the diplomatic people will work quickly. Might wanna contact the State Department. The lawyers there and the embassies lawyers usually work together to make sure that things flow smoothly and diplomatically with the police and the families involved.

Does diplomatic immunity actually apply to violent crimes?

490ws0

legaladvice_train

Human: Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. Assistant:

d0ogl2j

d0obq7g

Diplomatic immunity applies to criminal and civil government actions. It should not prevent the school from suspending/expelling the kid.

How did he break her wrist?

490ws0

legaladvice_train

Human: Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. Assistant:

d0o97qh

d0ogl2j

Does diplomatic immunity actually apply to violent crimes?

Diplomatic immunity applies to criminal and civil government actions. It should not prevent the school from suspending/expelling the kid.

490ws0

legaladvice_train

Human: Incident at my son's high school: Boy broke a classmate's wrist. School and police aren't doing anything because the boy has diplomatic immunity (New York) I didn't even know that family members of diplomats have diplomatic immunity as well. Would the girl whose wrist got broken and her parents have any kind of recourse here or is diplomatic immunity absolute? The boy did not get in trouble at school or arrested by the police and he's still attending classes like normal. Assistant:

d0obq7g

d0o97qh

How did he break her wrist?

Does diplomatic immunity actually apply to violent crimes?

qwcgi7

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Human: [CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks Assistant:

hl2wvzd

hl2uezm

You can also register your child with local law enforcement. You make a profile with a picture, diagnosis, triggers, medications etc. It helps them learn more about the child and how to address them.

He needs a one-to-one aide if he’s prone to eloping. Or there are better schools for him that will keep him safe/contained. The staff at these campuses are better trained and equipped for high functioning students with autism. Go to the the meeting and see what they are offering. You have a right to agree or disagree with any of the options.

qwcgi7

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Human: [CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks Assistant:

hl2ku3d

hl2wvzd

Please, please search for autism resources in your state. Find an advocate that will go with you to the ARC meeting. An attorney well-versed n educational law would be great, but an advocate can help a lot. Ask - Knowing that part of his disability is running for situations that provoke anxiety, what is your plan to ensure his safety?

You can also register your child with local law enforcement. You make a profile with a picture, diagnosis, triggers, medications etc. It helps them learn more about the child and how to address them.

qwcgi7

legaladvice_train

Human: [CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks Assistant:

hl2pyq0

hl2wvzd

How do they see that going down? They're going to be calling the cops because they failed in their supervisory capacity? I've worked with eloping students and have followed them multiple blocks while on the phone with their parents. I would be seriously talking to the school about their security if kids are able to leave at will and without notice. I would absolutely ask for an IEP evaluation. Put it in writing. They are legally required go through the process within a relatively short time frame. Look for local autism support groups as they may have special education advocates that can attend IEP meetings with you to make sure that the school is providing reasonable accommodations.

You can also register your child with local law enforcement. You make a profile with a picture, diagnosis, triggers, medications etc. It helps them learn more about the child and how to address them.

qwcgi7

legaladvice_train

Human: [CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks Assistant:

hl31pur

hl2ku3d

You can talk with them about any further accommodations that could prevent him from running from the school, but as someone former in special education it’s standard procedure to involve the police once a student has left the school grounds. We’d do everything we could to prevent elopement and supervise for safety when it happened, but we were instructed that we could only monitor and try to bring them back while they were on school grounds. Once they left, it was out of our hands and we had to inform police for their safety and our liability.

Please, please search for autism resources in your state. Find an advocate that will go with you to the ARC meeting. An attorney well-versed n educational law would be great, but an advocate can help a lot. Ask - Knowing that part of his disability is running for situations that provoke anxiety, what is your plan to ensure his safety?

qwcgi7

legaladvice_train

Human: [CO] Son's school says they will call the police on 8 year old with Autism My son is 8 years old, in 3rd grade. He has high functioning autism and ADHD. He has a 504 plan. When we first started going to this school, they indicated he didn't need a 504 plan because he was too high functioning. In Kindergarten he eloped from school and ran home. We are a 10 minute walk from school. I work from home and made him go back immediately. This got the school motivated on getting his 504 plan going. We worked with the school and his therapists and things improved. Until this year. This year has gone very poorly. He struggles to tell me why, but he absolutely hates school this year. He's left his classroom several times, and managed to make it all the way home twice. This year his school also has a new principal. We had a 504 review meeting with the school recently to see what accommodations we can make for him and agreed on a plan. (Getting an autism specialist involved, perhaps having an IEP, etc.). The principal is super concerned about him eloping from school, and rightly so. We made some incentive structures for him to stay in class. That improved things for a bit. However today, after he eloped for the 2nd time this year, she told him next time she would call the police. I understand her concern about safety, however he's 8 and has autism and ADHD. If he interacts with the police in a confrontational manner I'm terrified he might struggle with them, disobey, even hit them to escape. What can I do? Do I need a lawyer? If I do, where can I find a good one that does education or special needs or something like that? Should I try to de-escalate with the principal or stop communicating except through an attorney? Should I keep him home from school to prevent further escalations until I have help? Thanks Assistant:

hl2pyq0

hl31pur

How do they see that going down? They're going to be calling the cops because they failed in their supervisory capacity? I've worked with eloping students and have followed them multiple blocks while on the phone with their parents. I would be seriously talking to the school about their security if kids are able to leave at will and without notice. I would absolutely ask for an IEP evaluation. Put it in writing. They are legally required go through the process within a relatively short time frame. Look for local autism support groups as they may have special education advocates that can attend IEP meetings with you to make sure that the school is providing reasonable accommodations.

You can talk with them about any further accommodations that could prevent him from running from the school, but as someone former in special education it’s standard procedure to involve the police once a student has left the school grounds. We’d do everything we could to prevent elopement and supervise for safety when it happened, but we were instructed that we could only monitor and try to bring them back while they were on school grounds. Once they left, it was out of our hands and we had to inform police for their safety and our liability.

pz2qlp

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Human: Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated. Assistant:

heyp7bd

heymv6j

Here's the distinction... It's not that a 'totaled' vehicle cannot be driven... It's that a vehicle cannot be driven on a 'salvage' title until it is fixed and then converted to a 'rebuilt' title. Have you updated the title to a 'salvage' title yet with the DMV/BMV? If not, then it should still be covered by the title/registration/insurance that you had on it in August (assuming none of those have expired) . The bigger question for you is "is it SAFE to drive?" Is it mechanically safe? Are the lights and other legally required equipment in good working order and in compliance with applicable laws? If it is SAFE to drive then drive it home before you complete the process of getting the salvage title and payout. MANY people drive vehicles home from a crash that are ultimately considered totaled by the insurance company - as long as they are safe to drive - it's only once the title is actually branded as 'salvage' that you can no longer drive it until it's rebuilt. Of course, if it it not safe to drive then have it towed. Before you decide to keep and fix it, make sure you understand Tennesee's process for converting a salvage title to a rebuilt title. They may demand receipts for parts used in the repair, so have them ready.

It’s already registered. Just drive it home.

pz2qlp

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Human: Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated. Assistant:

heyp7bd

heycrgs

Here's the distinction... It's not that a 'totaled' vehicle cannot be driven... It's that a vehicle cannot be driven on a 'salvage' title until it is fixed and then converted to a 'rebuilt' title. Have you updated the title to a 'salvage' title yet with the DMV/BMV? If not, then it should still be covered by the title/registration/insurance that you had on it in August (assuming none of those have expired) . The bigger question for you is "is it SAFE to drive?" Is it mechanically safe? Are the lights and other legally required equipment in good working order and in compliance with applicable laws? If it is SAFE to drive then drive it home before you complete the process of getting the salvage title and payout. MANY people drive vehicles home from a crash that are ultimately considered totaled by the insurance company - as long as they are safe to drive - it's only once the title is actually branded as 'salvage' that you can no longer drive it until it's rebuilt. Of course, if it it not safe to drive then have it towed. Before you decide to keep and fix it, make sure you understand Tennesee's process for converting a salvage title to a rebuilt title. They may demand receipts for parts used in the repair, so have them ready.

Could ship it back.

pz2qlp

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Human: Car accident while in another state, insurance wants to total vehicle ('79 Ford pickup) that I intend to keep/fix. If I accept, it may be illegal to drive home. – Tennessee, North Dakota] I have a '79 F-100 that I rebuilt and am quite fond of. It runs and drives beautifully, gets great highway milage, and I (and others) really enjoy it. I drove it from TN to ND in August, and subsequently all around the area for about a month before being crashed-into by an utter nincompoop who ran a stop sign (RIP Honda). [Truck Before and After His insurance took quite a while to come up with an offer ($6k, total loss), and I haven't accepted it yet (can't find anything to compare it to) and I'm somewhat doubting that I should. The damage is just cosmetic really, and I plan on fixing it myself here in North Dakota before going home. The patina is intentional and part of the "look" (which I'll probably never be able to replicate exactly and I may just end up restoring), but the truck overall is in excellent mechanical condition. From what I gather, a totaled vehicle can't be legally registered, driven or insured in Tennessee until it's "rebuilt", which if true would make it practically impossible to drive home legally (which I intended to do weeks ago were it not for the accident). The insurance agent said the only way to avoid a salvage title would be to drop the claim. Any guidance or insight is much appreciated. Assistant:

hezrzi4

heycrgs

That is an original unrestored antique vehicle. You can get a lot more than 6k for it.

Could ship it back.

4rxz7o

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Human: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL Assistant:

d55485z

d551ren

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

~~I've got good news for you: Your girlfriend's disabled son is going to be just fine. Know why? Because her boyfriend is **legally obligated** by Florida Statute 415.1034 to report her plan to the central abuse hotline at 1-800-962-2873 or he will go to jail.~~ e: Apparently 'any person' doesn't mean 'any person' in Florida. Who knew. Or maybe it does. I don't know what's real anymore. Someone hold me. (Seriously we're not sure about this part)

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

Human: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL Assistant:

d55485z

d551zfw

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

I know this isn't /r/RelationshipAdvice but your girlfriend sounds like a complete and utter scumbag, get out of there dude (after reporting her for the sake of the kid of course).

4rxz7o

legaladvice_train

Human: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL Assistant:

d55485z

d554467

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

Basically, yes. >415.111 Criminal penalties.— (1) A person who knowingly and willfully fails to report a case of known or suspected abuse, neglect, or exploitation of a vulnerable adult, or who knowingly and willfully prevents another person from doing so, commits a misdemeanor of the second degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083.

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Human: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL Assistant:

d55485z

d552ql2

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

The better question is wtf are you doing with this monster in the first place? Don't bother answering. You two are made for each other.

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Human: My girlfriend wants to lock her disabled son out of the house on his 18th birthday without finding him housing. However she plans to continue collecting his SSDI. He is illiterate and does not understand SSDI. If I am also living there, could I be liable for this if she is caught? FL Assistant:

d5534l1

d55485z

Possibly for abetting financial abuse of a disabled person. Be a good guy and call the county's public guardian's office. They will coordinate with SSA to at least set up a representative payee for him and also to help with housing and placement in a group home. The boy is receiving SSI by the way. He wouldn't qualify for SSDI- you have to have 5 years or 20 quarters of wages paid into the Social Security system for SSDI. SSI pays less per month but comes with Medicaid. SSDI pays more but may get Medicare after a 30 month wait after date of disablement. I second the opinion expressed by a couple others. Your girlfriend is a POS

The good news, of course, that it will take no time at all for a homeless deaf autistic young man to come to the attention of the authorities. And none to soon I think based on this poster and the attitudes displayed by him and his "girl friend". And of course what that means is that she won't be keeping his SSI. With any luck she'll be charged with fraud or abuse, but even if she isn't, she's not going to be getting the money. My only concern is the few days between her locking him out and him being picked up. You know what - thinking about it, I'm calling troll. I'm saying this because anyone who knows anything about autism knows that change is not only bad, it's not accepted. So if this was real, the GF would lock the young man out and then what? Would she really expect him to quietly move along? No he'd be outside the property most likely drawing attention to the situation.

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Human: (FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him? Assistant:

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d7ibgcl

If you had the sale all ready to go through, then said "no" once you found out his religion, then maybe it could support a discrimination suit. If you never sell live chickens to anyone, the fact that this guy got dealt with according to policy isn't going to lead to a successful lawsuit.

The answer to "can I be sued?" is always yes. But, provided you don't do something stupid like miss the court date or ignore the suit, he can't win.

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Human: (FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him? Assistant:

d7icpvm

d7i81gl

If you had the sale all ready to go through, then said "no" once you found out his religion, then maybe it could support a discrimination suit. If you never sell live chickens to anyone, the fact that this guy got dealt with according to policy isn't going to lead to a successful lawsuit.

You can be sued, sure. But there's no judgement to be made against you. You've done nothing wrong, he has no case.

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Human: (FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him? Assistant:

d7ibt3c

d7icpvm

Ignore him until he sues. If and when he does, which is unlikely, you have to respond.

If you had the sale all ready to go through, then said "no" once you found out his religion, then maybe it could support a discrimination suit. If you never sell live chickens to anyone, the fact that this guy got dealt with according to policy isn't going to lead to a successful lawsuit.

528qx6

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Human: (FL) I'm a small scale chicken farmer, I sell at a local farmers market. Some guy wants to sue me because I wouldn't sell to him. I have all the relevant permits and licenses. The chickens are butchered at the farm, I don't sell live chickens. I was set up at my usual spot when a man approached me and asked to buy a chicken. I asked what weight, young or a hen. He asked for a younger bird any weight. I grab one out of the fridge and ask him if it's ok. He says that he wants a live chicken. I told him that I don't sell live chickens. He immediately became angry and demanded that I sell him a live one since he's "seen people coming out of the farmers market with live chickens before". I told him no again. He then tried to bribe me($100) saying he needs one badly and if I want I can drop one off at *near by beach* after the farms market closes. Again no. He said that he needs it due to his religion. The answer was still no. Then he started to accuse me of discriminating against him because of his religion. He threatened to sue me for it. I didn't sell it to him because it's against my rules, the rules of the farmers market and I'm pretty sure against the law. Could I be sued for this? Would a judge side with him? Assistant:

d7i81gl

d7ibgcl

You can be sued, sure. But there's no judgement to be made against you. You've done nothing wrong, he has no case.

The answer to "can I be sued?" is always yes. But, provided you don't do something stupid like miss the court date or ignore the suit, he can't win.

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Human: (Fl)Some of my family wants to sue me for emotional damages after a DNA test. I recently did one of those DNA test that's tells you your ancestry. So did my mother so we're sure which parts are her family.Everything on my mom side came back as expected but on my dads side of the family a lot of East Asian came up. To anyone with eyes it wasn't surprising. A family with dark hair and eyes, short with small frames and almond shaped eyes. But they were convicted that they were 100% Irish and German. Some of them are low threatening to sue me for the emotional damage and trauma of finding out they're not. Can they do that? Does emotional damage have to involve something actually damaging, not just find out that great great great grandma was Asian? Assistant:

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d36la3g

My great aunt had a hissy fit when my mom's results 7 or 8 years ago came back with a small percentage of sub saharan african. She apparently talked to a lawyer about making me mom pay for her to have a test to see if maybe it came from the other side of the family. Apparently the lawyer laughed her out of the office. Of course this is all second hand. My mom did do another test recently to confirm the other results. It came back 100% European (80% from the British isles or France), with some Iberian and Ionian peninsula thrown in for good measure.

I wonder if you can countersue for emotional damages associated with being subjected to their racism?

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Human: (Fl)Some of my family wants to sue me for emotional damages after a DNA test. I recently did one of those DNA test that's tells you your ancestry. So did my mother so we're sure which parts are her family.Everything on my mom side came back as expected but on my dads side of the family a lot of East Asian came up. To anyone with eyes it wasn't surprising. A family with dark hair and eyes, short with small frames and almond shaped eyes. But they were convicted that they were 100% Irish and German. Some of them are low threatening to sue me for the emotional damage and trauma of finding out they're not. Can they do that? Does emotional damage have to involve something actually damaging, not just find out that great great great grandma was Asian? Assistant:

d36la3g

d36lto1

I wonder if you can countersue for emotional damages associated with being subjected to their racism?

Those home DNA tests are also not terribly accurate, they test for certain haplogroups, which give you a very broad geographical area with a certain level of statistical confidence. (I have no idea what the various companies use, but if they're using anything less than a 95% confidence interval I wouldn't trust it at all). Also, Native Americans will often also register as East Asian for certain haplogroup markers, so they may have some native in them going back a long ways. This isn't exactly legal advice, more sciencey advice, but I think it's relevant.

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Human: (FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover? Assistant:

cymtz28

cymswg7

By all means encourage the lawsuit. I cannot think of better publicity for a horror novel. Can can sue you for anything. Will she win? very very unlikely.

Anyone can sue anyone for anything. Will she win? Almost certainly not.

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Human: (FL) I'm an author, a woman wants to sue me because my book gave her daughter nightmares. A woman wants to sue me for emotional distress because my book gave her daughter nightmares. It's a horror novel and is kept in the scary stories/horror section. I guess because it has vampires she was expecting a *Twilight* type story. The book is only popular locally so there aren't many online reviews for it. Apparently her teenage daughter has lost sleep and had trouble with school because of that and refuses to sleep in her own room without a light on because of my book. Can she sue me for her daughters emotional whatever because she bought her the book without reading the back cover? Assistant:

cymu6wh

cymswg7

Vampires are undead bloodsuckers, not sparkly boyfriends. She should sue Stephanie Meyer for lying to everyone.

Anyone can sue anyone for anything. Will she win? Almost certainly not.

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Human: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? Assistant:

d16sggz

d16r800

Your debate was so good it emotionally devastated a high school junior? Damn son.

They won't sue you. Unless we are missing some facts, no lawyer is going to take this case because it is arguably sanctionable to bring it, and it has low chance of success as well as a very high cost (experts, etc.) Also, to have an actionable emotional distress claim you need an actual underlying injury, usually a physical one. It's not a standalone claim. Just ignore it.

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Human: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? Assistant:

d16r29f

d16sggz

They can sue you. They have no chance of winning, imho. If they sue you make sure to respond. Edit: I don't think they can sue for emotional distress in small claims court. If they do sue it will probably be in big boy court. Only in Florida...

Your debate was so good it emotionally devastated a high school junior? Damn son.

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Human: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? Assistant:

d16r800

d16rdcv

They won't sue you. Unless we are missing some facts, no lawyer is going to take this case because it is arguably sanctionable to bring it, and it has low chance of success as well as a very high cost (experts, etc.) Also, to have an actionable emotional distress claim you need an actual underlying injury, usually a physical one. It's not a standalone claim. Just ignore it.

Oh for fucks sake.

4b7ui0

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Human: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? Assistant:

d16r29f

d16rdcv

They can sue you. They have no chance of winning, imho. If they sue you make sure to respond. Edit: I don't think they can sue for emotional distress in small claims court. If they do sue it will probably be in big boy court. Only in Florida...

Oh for fucks sake.

4b7ui0

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Human: [FL] My classmates parents want to sue me because of what happened in debate class. It's a public high school and we're in 11th grade. I'll refer to my classmate as John. At my school instead of having debate club they made it into an elective class. There's about 30 of us in class. Each class certain people are picked to debate each other on a topic. We're given the topic a week in advance to prepare. My topic this week was self driving cars and wether or not they would be beneficial. My position was against and Johns was for. At the end of class everyone voted and I won. That was Thursday. On Friday Johns mom came up to me and told me that they were going to sue me for emotional distress. Apparently since my argument focused mostly on poverty and the growing divide between the upper class and middle/working class it disturbed John. This is apparently what caused him to have some sort of crisis on Thursday night. He supposedly even had a panic attack. So can they sue me and what do I do? Assistant:

d16r800

d16s7m1

They won't sue you. Unless we are missing some facts, no lawyer is going to take this case because it is arguably sanctionable to bring it, and it has low chance of success as well as a very high cost (experts, etc.) Also, to have an actionable emotional distress claim you need an actual underlying injury, usually a physical one. It's not a standalone claim. Just ignore it.

Ignore the mom. *Don't* ignore court papers. If you have to, show up to court and watch everyone laugh. Also, take pride in the fact that your argument was so good it apparently literally damaged the opposing side.

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Human: Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease Assistant:

ioobeuq

iooazsi

Florida ~~does not have provisions for withholding rent~~ provisions for withholding rent are quite limited and call for a specific 20 day notice. Did you provide that? If not, you need to pay or quit. Understand that if you quit, you still pay, *and* you have a record of being evicted. Don't do that.

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Human: Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease Assistant:

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iooazsi

Florida has limited grounds as to why tenant can't withhold rent. Are your repair issues covered?

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Human: Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease Assistant:

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ioodo3e

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1. Pay now. He’ll have to evict you if you don’t and can’t put you on the street. However you do not want that. It will make it incredibly difficult and expensive to rent again. 2. If you have issues with the property you can seek out local resources (tenant advocate boards are really helpful if available or a local attorney) to help you correctly and legally withhold rent, which is limited in Florida and requires certain steps. 3. If the repair items aren’t things that allow rent withholds, your only other option is to move (or cover the cost yourself if that’s cheaper than moving-but ensure you are allowed per previous lease to self improve those items).

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Human: Landlord Gave Me 3 Day Notice To Pay Yesterday I told my landlord that I am withholding rent due to him to repair any of the many issues I've been asking for months. He served me with a "3 day notice to pay or quit". Basically I just want to know if he still has to formally evict me or will I have to be out in 3 days? Further more is there anyway to fight this because of the state of the house? If it helps at all I'm a Florida resident and I've lived there for over 4 years. I signed a lease the first year but despite my best efforts he ignored me any time I requested him to renew the lease Assistant:

iookcqw

iooazsi

People are giving you good advice, but I haven’t seen a direct answer to your question. “Pay or quit” means that you have three days to either fix the issue (ie pay the rent), quit (move out), or if you don’t do either you will be evicted. Evicted does **not** mean the landlord tosses your stuff to the curb on the 3rd day. Evicted means that they still have to go to the court and there is a formal proceeding and if the eviction is upheld, the sheriff would remove you from the property. You really do not want this process to happen as it will cost you a bunch of money and be affect your ability to rent in the future. Also be aware as you stated you are now not under a lease, you are considered “month-to-month” (assuming you are paying rent once a month) and it appears that the landlord can also terminate the lease with 15 days notice before the end of the lease term (being one month on whatever day the rent is due). So even if you pay, your lease may still be terminated with 15 days notice to vacate, or you can also be evicted. You can also move out with 15 days notice. https://www.flsenate.gov/Laws/Statutes/2011/Chapter83/All

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Human: [NJ] My landlord is trying to charge me $8K for a month to month rate because the wife and I gave 50 days notice to vacate rather than the 60 on the lease. (more detail in comments) So basically the title. Our lease ends on 6/2 and are required to give 60 days notice but due to a number of factors such as my wife being pregnant and us trying to find larger housing so we're not moving on her due date, we missed the window by 10 days. We received a notice from the property manager saying we're automatically enrolled in their month to month rates which is $8K a month when our actual monthly rate is under $2300. We want to settle this amicably but the asst. property manager is insistent that we're on the hook for the full $8K. We can't afford that at the moment with a baby on the way and they're not being reasonable at all! HELP! EDIT: I also want to mention that the month to month rate was never disclosed until 4/11, after the 60 day window. Would any housing judge enforce this?!? Assistant:

dga8mi9

dg9yc0t

http://www.state.nj.us/dca/divisions/codes/publications/pdf_lti/rnt_incrse_bultin.pdf Unconscionable Rent Increase If the tenant refuses to pay the rent because the tenant believes the rent increase is unconscionable or unreasonable, the tenant may withhold a portion of the rent. The tenant may withhold the difference between the old rent rate and the new increased rate. However, the landlord may take the tenant to court based on non-payment of rent increase, if this happens, the tenant may argue to the judge that the increase is unconscionable. The landlord has the burden of proving to the court that the rent increase is fair and not unconscionable.

Monthly rate will still be $2300, unless it was in the lease. Bigger question is how many months you're liable for. When did you give the notice? What does it say about the renewal term if you miss it? (Ie - just renews? month? year?) If you give clarity, I can explain in more detail. I do NJ LLT law.

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Human: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances Assistant:

iemz8un

iemy2g8

Not a lawyer: If she has a foreclosure on her record in the past, bankruptcy and obviously bad spending habits, it doesn't matter what language she speaks, bad money sense is bad money sense in a judges eye. If you have your name on the house, she's SOL. She can sue, but given previous information she'll most likely be fighting an uphill battle. Tell her that it isn't smart to try and bring this to court, as she'll almost definitely lose, and you WILL use all of her failings against her, even if it is dirty to do. You're trying to help her be responsible, she may not see it this way, but it's better she has a place to stay than to lose it in a foolish way.

Well don't think she would have any luck but the question is how was her mentality when she sold you the house. If they can prove she was a little loco and didn't do it if a sound mind they can void the sales and everything goes back the way it was. Now if you prove that even if she was on the way out that she made the deal so she wouldn't lose the house to the bank then that shows she still had a sound enough mind to problem solve. Chances are though unless she can prove that the sale was against her will then doubt she will get it back.

vq11m7

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Human: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances Assistant:

iemz8un

iemv9qr

Not a lawyer: If she has a foreclosure on her record in the past, bankruptcy and obviously bad spending habits, it doesn't matter what language she speaks, bad money sense is bad money sense in a judges eye. If you have your name on the house, she's SOL. She can sue, but given previous information she'll most likely be fighting an uphill battle. Tell her that it isn't smart to try and bring this to court, as she'll almost definitely lose, and you WILL use all of her failings against her, even if it is dirty to do. You're trying to help her be responsible, she may not see it this way, but it's better she has a place to stay than to lose it in a foolish way.

What was the appraised value of the property at the time of the transaction?

vq11m7

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Human: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances Assistant:

iemqazk

iemz8un

Where did she get that amount? How much did you pay her for the house? What was the value of the house? How much equity did she have?

Not a lawyer: If she has a foreclosure on her record in the past, bankruptcy and obviously bad spending habits, it doesn't matter what language she speaks, bad money sense is bad money sense in a judges eye. If you have your name on the house, she's SOL. She can sue, but given previous information she'll most likely be fighting an uphill battle. Tell her that it isn't smart to try and bring this to court, as she'll almost definitely lose, and you WILL use all of her failings against her, even if it is dirty to do. You're trying to help her be responsible, she may not see it this way, but it's better she has a place to stay than to lose it in a foolish way.

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Human: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances Assistant:

ien6pvx

iemv9qr

This seems like an empty threat. She is probably in another financial bind and she thinks threatening you will get you to give her some money. What money does she have to pay a lawyer to sue you? If she sues you without a lawyer, she’s going to have a really hard time figuring out what to do. You might actually be able to evict her.

What was the appraised value of the property at the time of the transaction?

vq11m7

legaladvice_train

Human: Can my mom sue me to get the house back? So last year my mom sold me her house to me because she was about to lose it to foreclosure. She went through bankruptcy twice and already lost another house. I bought so we wont lose it for the amount left on the mortgage. Now she accused me of stealing from her 50,000 dollars threatened to go to a lawyer and wants to kick me out. What can i do to protect myself because she is very unstable and irresponsible with her finances Assistant:

iemzfkt

ien6pvx

Several questions. Who's idea was it for your mother to sell the house to you and have you pay arrears? What was the appraised value of tye home at time of sale? At what price did you purchase the home and how much did you pay in arrears? Did you agree to allow your mother to continue living in her home after you purchased it or did she plan to vacate after the sale closed?

This seems like an empty threat. She is probably in another financial bind and she thinks threatening you will get you to give her some money. What money does she have to pay a lawyer to sue you? If she sues you without a lawyer, she’s going to have a really hard time figuring out what to do. You might actually be able to evict her.

86i0ts

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Human: Landlord wants to raise rent/ evict because of tampons, and is threatening to search my feminine products. Can he do this? This is probably one of the most degrading things I've ever been through with a landlord. I live in an apartment complex in Iowa with 3 buildings and several units in each building. Plumbing and water are shared between units. This morning we opened our door to find a note threatening to raise the rent of everyone in our building by $50 a month because of flushed tampons and wipes clogging the sewer drain. The letter goes on to say that they will be comparing any tampons they find in the pipes to the tampons kept by women in each apartment unit and if the type matches, they will charge $500 to the tenant and evict. We got flyers a couple times last year about not flushing tampons, and one of those flyers is posted to the window of the laundry room/ office, so this is not the first notice. It seems like a scare tactic to me, but I want to be sure I'm not going to be evicted over just owning tampons, or punished over what other renters and their guests might do. I also don't want any of the men who own or work for this building rifling through my sanitary products. Is there anything I need to be concerned about and what can I do to protect myself? Assistant:

dw5gmce

dw5itur

Even if there was a way to easily identify the type of tampon, wouldn't this notice just urge the person responsibly to stock up on a different brand in order to not get caught? This doesn't make any sense. Probably a scare tactic indeed, since he knows he can't do much, but it's also understandable that this issue is frustrating and costly for him, after putting up warnings before.

Waiting for the eviction proceeding in which the landlord brings in a used tampon as evidence.

sentzm

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Human: ATM stole my money and bank closed the claim On Jan 12, I went to a Regions branded atm and tried to withdraw $500. The machine went dark and debited my account but did not dispense the money. I just got notice that my claim was closed with no credit given. I was definitely ripped off and I’m wondering where do I go from here? What kind of lawyer would I need to talk to? Assistant:

huksvys

hukycif

File another claim, ask them to check security cameras and atm data log.

Business lawyer here. The following is what I would do if I were you: I’d file complaints against the bank with the CFPB, FDIC, your state’s attorney general office, your state’s banking regulator, and any other government regulatory agency you can think of (even if they don’t have proper jurisdiction over the complaint). Also, for good measure, I’d file the complaint with the Better Business Bureau. I’d be sure to include specific identifying information such as my full name, the amount of money I tried to withdraw, the last four digits of the card I used, any identifying codes on my bank statement, and most importantly the exact date, time, atm number (if one is posted on the ATM), and atm location. Now, I wouldn’t spend time writing different complaints. I’d write one stellar complaint and send copies to all the agencies I listed above. What’s going to end up happening is that most of the agency complaints will be forwarded to the CFPB for processing due to jurisdiction issues and complaint processing agreements. However, the bank will get letters about the complaints, and the letters the other agencies send the bank that say “we’re forwarding the complaint to the CFBP” will grab the bank’s attention. If you do what I would do, you’d end up with someone serious from the bank whose goal is to resolve the problem you created for them by creating a regulatory complaint against them. This person has the power to and will review the ATM records, see the system crash at the same time as your transaction, and see that the ATM ended its day with a financial surplus of at least $500.

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

Human: My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio Assistant:

h4ybk7r

h4yacxp

Paper file your taxes claiming yourself. They may send a letter to CHM asking her to prove that you are her dependent. She shouldn't be able to prove that, and you'll get your stimulus. This may take three or four years though, IRS is overwhelmed.

Have you been filing your taxes as independent?

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

Human: My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio Assistant:

h4y9j5p

h4ybk7r

It will be helpful to also post to r/personalfinance (follow the posting rules so your post stays up). There have been several similar questions there, and they will tell you what form to fill out for the IRS to correct your dependent status & seek stimulus payment. The IRS can and will require repayment for fraudulently collected stimulus checks, so you won’t necessarily have to pursue you mother legally for the stimulus money. You also want to make sure you freeze your credit with all the major agencies to prevent her from opening credit lines in your name. If you haven’t already, please pull your credit reports to makes sure you recognize everything there. If you see anything you believe your mother to have opened in your name, you can file a police report for identity theft. If you live in the same area or have any concerns she may steal your info via mail, you can sign up to see a scan of your mail before it’s delivered via Informed Delivery at USPS.com

Paper file your taxes claiming yourself. They may send a letter to CHM asking her to prove that you are her dependent. She shouldn't be able to prove that, and you'll get your stimulus. This may take three or four years though, IRS is overwhelmed.

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

Human: My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio Assistant:

h4yacxp

h4y9j5p

Have you been filing your taxes as independent?

It will be helpful to also post to r/personalfinance (follow the posting rules so your post stays up). There have been several similar questions there, and they will tell you what form to fill out for the IRS to correct your dependent status & seek stimulus payment. The IRS can and will require repayment for fraudulently collected stimulus checks, so you won’t necessarily have to pursue you mother legally for the stimulus money. You also want to make sure you freeze your credit with all the major agencies to prevent her from opening credit lines in your name. If you haven’t already, please pull your credit reports to makes sure you recognize everything there. If you see anything you believe your mother to have opened in your name, you can file a police report for identity theft. If you live in the same area or have any concerns she may steal your info via mail, you can sign up to see a scan of your mail before it’s delivered via Informed Delivery at USPS.com

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

Human: My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio Assistant:

h4ydu3l

h4y9j5p

https://www.thebalance.com/what-if-you-re-fraudulently-claimed-as-a-dependent-5084383

It will be helpful to also post to r/personalfinance (follow the posting rules so your post stays up). There have been several similar questions there, and they will tell you what form to fill out for the IRS to correct your dependent status & seek stimulus payment. The IRS can and will require repayment for fraudulently collected stimulus checks, so you won’t necessarily have to pursue you mother legally for the stimulus money. You also want to make sure you freeze your credit with all the major agencies to prevent her from opening credit lines in your name. If you haven’t already, please pull your credit reports to makes sure you recognize everything there. If you see anything you believe your mother to have opened in your name, you can file a police report for identity theft. If you live in the same area or have any concerns she may steal your info via mail, you can sign up to see a scan of your mail before it’s delivered via Informed Delivery at USPS.com

oiwunh

legaladvice_train

Human: My mom claimed me as dependant and is taking the stimulus check. I'm 21 and she has not been monetarily supporting me in any way and she didnt have permission. Is there anything I can do about it? My crackhead mother has been stealing money from me for years and I'm ready to strike her for it. Is that a thing I can do on this case? Edit: I live in the state of Ohio Assistant:

h4yc780

h4ydu3l

Here is a website where you can report Coronavirus-specific fraud to the Federal Government.

https://www.thebalance.com/what-if-you-re-fraudulently-claimed-as-a-dependent-5084383

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

Human: I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know? Assistant:

dcslvs6

dcsnexc

Yet another vote to say talk to the nurses. Not only to give names of those who are allowed, but also to give detailed descriptions of those who are not. People may lie about their names. My understanding is that nurses will protect you, as the patient, and have seen it all before and know how disruptive an unwelcome guest can be. They will act in your interests so do talk to them as far in advance as possible, and reiterate it when you're admitted in labour. Edit: this applies to the time after birth too. You do not want your mother sweeping in to hold the baby while you're still recovering and exhausted and haven't even held baby yourself. The first few hours are for you and baby to do skin to skin bonding and to establish breastfeeding, in a calm environment. And to rest. If it was me I'd say no visitors (except the father or a trusted friend) for 2 hours after birth ,and if I'm napping don't disturb me, make it 4 hours. Minimum. Maybe ask the nurses to check with you every 2 hours (they can always say you're exhausted ) until you are ready for visitors. Do not feel guilty about this. The world will not end if your mother waits a few hours to see you and baby, no matter what she threatens. Do you have plans for after the birth? Be careful that she doesn't try to take over your child and to mother you both. Youre young but it is your child.

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

Human: I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know? Assistant:

dcsnexc

dcsmsws

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

You may be 16, but a minor who has given birth is considered emancipated for most purposes. You are able to make your own decisions regarding this. Most states also have laws saying that minors are in charge of their own reproductive care (which also birthing a child). Many hospitals do have rules about how many people can be in the delivery room at one time - no crowds or entourages. However, you get to dictate who gets to be there and for how long. If your mother is attempting to intimidate you, calmly and clearly explain your situation to your doctor and let the hospital know ahead of time that you don't want her there. They have to abide by your wishes. You are by far not the first minor giving birth in the midst of family drama - the hospitals deals with this all the time. Just be very clear that she is not welcome under any circumstances and stick to it. It may be a tough pill for your mom to swallow, but she will no longer have veto power over your decisions once the baby arrives. Now, she may have leverage to ensure your compliance with her wishes- giving you a place to stay, paying for some of your expenses, etc. However, she cannot overrule your decisions once you become a parent - just something to think about.

5pnnxl

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Human: I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know? Assistant:

dcshi8c

dcsnexc

Pull your doctor aside and explain to them. Also talk to your nurses. You have control here, your mom has nothing.

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

Human: I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know? Assistant:

dcsnexc

dcsjgw6

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

As others have stated, talk to someone at the hospital. this actually comes up a lot and they are used to telling people no or taking control. also, if the hospital that you will be delivering at has a birthing class, see if you can sign up. sometimes they have 1-day ones. it will get you familiar with their policies and may allow you to ask the nurses teaching the class how you can arrange this.

5pnnxl

legaladvice_train

Human: I'm 16 and pregnant and about to give birth in 3 weeks. My mom says she controls who goes into the delivery room. I told her that it's my right to choose who I want in there. Is she right about being able to control who goes in there? (California) Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. So I'm about to be due in 3 weeks and I want specific family members to be able to see me when I want and how long it should be because I know it's going to be really stressful. I tried to tell my mom but she said that I have no rights in who I say goes in or not and that since she's the parent that she decides who sees me and who doesn't. I'm just really worried about that because she will exclude almost all of my dad's side of the family (they've been separated and pretty much hate each other) even though they've helped out when my mom kicked me out of the house for a little over a month. I even told her that I don't want her there and I would rather be alone in the room if that makes everyone happy but she still says that I have no rights. I know it's really stupid but I don't want to stress out anymore than I already am and I just want to know ahead of time so that I can tell my doctor and the hospital before hand but I haven't been able to call them about this because I don't want to be told that "she's my mother do what she says" you know? Assistant:

dcsnexc

dcslv09

I am not a lawyer, but I am a pediatrician. In most states (and including California), pregnant minors are emancipated for medical care of the pregnancy. That means that **only you** and not your mother have the legal right to consent and control your medical care related to the pregnancy. See here

The parents control. Not the grandparents. You can even tell your own mother not to be there. If all else fails call the hospital to confirm.

78wftw

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Human: My former landlord just contacted me saying that he did found an old rent check that he allowed to go stale. He was unable to deposit it because it was written over 2 years ago. He wants me to write him another check. Am I required to do so? (Oregon, USA) I lived in that house for about 2 years on a month to month basis. I paid my rent monthly in the form a personal check made out to my landlord. He usually deposited them within one month, however he somehow forgot or neglected to deposit a check from 2015, and just noticed it this week. I never noticed that he didn't deposit the check. My former landlord sent me a photo of the check, so I have proof that I wrote it. He informed me that the bank would not honor the check because of its age, and that he'd like me to write another. I checked my bank statements, and I know that the check was not deposited. I would guess that there's some law saying what my obligation is here, but I couldn't find it. All I found was that banks generally don't honor checks that are over 6 months old, however I could not find anything regarding whether or not I still legally owe him money. I feel that I upheld my end of the deal by writing the check and it's his fault that he didn't deposit it. Am I required to write another check? Can someone hold onto a check indefinitely to deposit whenever they wish, or does the debt "expire" after some time? Thanks for your help. Assistant:

doxbv2y

doxcmam

If the amount you owed was so low that you could somehow just *not notice* the check hadn't been cashed for two years, you can afford to pay him.

Legally, as abortion_layaway has stated, you probably are in the clear. However, if your relationship was good and he didn't screw you over with regard to security deposit and the like, it would be morally good to pay him. I would ask for the original check back in return as he could probably deposit in an ATM and it would go through without ever being noticed by a human if your account is still open. If he's local, perhaps do the exchange in person.

78wftw

legaladvice_train

Human: My former landlord just contacted me saying that he did found an old rent check that he allowed to go stale. He was unable to deposit it because it was written over 2 years ago. He wants me to write him another check. Am I required to do so? (Oregon, USA) I lived in that house for about 2 years on a month to month basis. I paid my rent monthly in the form a personal check made out to my landlord. He usually deposited them within one month, however he somehow forgot or neglected to deposit a check from 2015, and just noticed it this week. I never noticed that he didn't deposit the check. My former landlord sent me a photo of the check, so I have proof that I wrote it. He informed me that the bank would not honor the check because of its age, and that he'd like me to write another. I checked my bank statements, and I know that the check was not deposited. I would guess that there's some law saying what my obligation is here, but I couldn't find it. All I found was that banks generally don't honor checks that are over 6 months old, however I could not find anything regarding whether or not I still legally owe him money. I feel that I upheld my end of the deal by writing the check and it's his fault that he didn't deposit it. Am I required to write another check? Can someone hold onto a check indefinitely to deposit whenever they wish, or does the debt "expire" after some time? Thanks for your help. Assistant:

doxbv2y

doxhau7

If the amount you owed was so low that you could somehow just *not notice* the check hadn't been cashed for two years, you can afford to pay him.

Have him send you the old cheque back and write him a new one if you left on good terms.

78wftw

legaladvice_train

Human: My former landlord just contacted me saying that he did found an old rent check that he allowed to go stale. He was unable to deposit it because it was written over 2 years ago. He wants me to write him another check. Am I required to do so? (Oregon, USA) I lived in that house for about 2 years on a month to month basis. I paid my rent monthly in the form a personal check made out to my landlord. He usually deposited them within one month, however he somehow forgot or neglected to deposit a check from 2015, and just noticed it this week. I never noticed that he didn't deposit the check. My former landlord sent me a photo of the check, so I have proof that I wrote it. He informed me that the bank would not honor the check because of its age, and that he'd like me to write another. I checked my bank statements, and I know that the check was not deposited. I would guess that there's some law saying what my obligation is here, but I couldn't find it. All I found was that banks generally don't honor checks that are over 6 months old, however I could not find anything regarding whether or not I still legally owe him money. I feel that I upheld my end of the deal by writing the check and it's his fault that he didn't deposit it. Am I required to write another check? Can someone hold onto a check indefinitely to deposit whenever they wish, or does the debt "expire" after some time? Thanks for your help. Assistant:

doxlf5a

doxbv2y

Look at your account and just make sure that that check # was not cashed just in case btw.

If the amount you owed was so low that you could somehow just *not notice* the check hadn't been cashed for two years, you can afford to pay him.

78wftw

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Human: My former landlord just contacted me saying that he did found an old rent check that he allowed to go stale. He was unable to deposit it because it was written over 2 years ago. He wants me to write him another check. Am I required to do so? (Oregon, USA) I lived in that house for about 2 years on a month to month basis. I paid my rent monthly in the form a personal check made out to my landlord. He usually deposited them within one month, however he somehow forgot or neglected to deposit a check from 2015, and just noticed it this week. I never noticed that he didn't deposit the check. My former landlord sent me a photo of the check, so I have proof that I wrote it. He informed me that the bank would not honor the check because of its age, and that he'd like me to write another. I checked my bank statements, and I know that the check was not deposited. I would guess that there's some law saying what my obligation is here, but I couldn't find it. All I found was that banks generally don't honor checks that are over 6 months old, however I could not find anything regarding whether or not I still legally owe him money. I feel that I upheld my end of the deal by writing the check and it's his fault that he didn't deposit it. Am I required to write another check? Can someone hold onto a check indefinitely to deposit whenever they wish, or does the debt "expire" after some time? Thanks for your help. Assistant:

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In addition to the other advice in this thread, definitely DON'T just ignore anything sent to you that relates to the situation simply because you have the legal upper hand. For example, if LL did file a lawsuit and you did not respond to the complaint or show up at the hearing, a default judgement could be entered against you and then you would be obligated to pay. That could be appealed but, imo, not worth the hassle of not reading your mail. Best of luck if LL escalates.

Look at your account and just make sure that that check # was not cashed just in case btw.

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Human: . They always came back upset, and in the beginning I encouraged them to go for the aforementioned reason, but as time went on, they said that the visits were getting more and more difficult, and they decided together to stop going, which I didn’t push, as they’re adults now, and I more than understand not wanting to spend quality time with my ex. They continued to attend family holidays with their father and grandmother, as they were extremely close to my wonderful former mother in law. Sadly, my former MIL passed away shortly before Easter. Since their grandmother wouldn’t be there, the kids didn’t want to do Easter with their dad. This didn’t seem all too crazy to me. I didn't really put together at the time that this meant they didn't really have any contact with their dad. Yesterday, I was served with a lawsuit for “parental alienation”. When I called my ex, confused, he told me that since the kids refused to speak to/spend time with him, the “only possible explanation” is that I “purposefully and over the course of several months plotted to sever the bonds between a father and his children”. The conversation predictably went south and I hung up. I called the lawyer I used to represent me in the divorce, and she told me that since I’ve been served, that I have to respond, but that I “shouldn’t be too worried” because my ex is “clearly a moron” and “has no standing”. She then said that she couldn’t discuss it further without billing me, and gave me a ballpark for how much it would cost to have her defend me against the suit. I absolutely cannot afford it. I am completely tapped out after the divorce. I know that if I asked my sister, she’d be happy to help as much as she could, and we could probably scrape it together. But I hate hate hate the idea of asking unless I absolutely have to. So my question is, do I have to? Under the circumstances, should I be worried about this? I know that my ex will represent himself, as he did in the divorce, since he doesn’t trust lawyers. That went pretty badly for him last time (he didn’t get any of what he asked for, got scolded by the judge for his bad behavior, and he was also ordered to help me and the kids pay for their college). Would it be a terrible idea to just go and try to defend myself? I feel like I have ample evidence that I tried to help my kids keep a relationship with their dad, months and months worth of texts. If I asked them, I know they would also give me their text histories with their dad, which I know firsthand is…really mean. (He gets flustered very easily and becomes, in my opinion, verbally abusive when upset, hence the divorce.) I feel like if I go in front of a judge with printouts of all the evidence I have, am clear and polite, and read up on the basics of court procedure, I’ll be ok. My ex is…let’s just say bombastic enough that I think just his behavior will be enough to show a judge that our kids have ample independent reason to keep him at arm’s length. Is this a stupid plan? Do I NEED to beg money to pay for a lawyer, or is this a pointless enough lawsuit that I can hand it myself, under the circumstances? Many thanks for reading. Tl;dr: my 18 year olds don't want to have a relationship with my not-so-nice ex, so I'm being sued for parental alienation. Can I defend myself against this, or do I need to beg money from family and pay a lawyer? Assistant:

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Genuine question for the lawyers here...... Since the ex-husband is the one making the allegation, doesn't the burden of proof fall to him to *prove* that she is supposedly alienating the twins? And I mean more proof than him standing there going, "Well, she must have because my kids don't want to see my any more!" It seems to me that that would not be considered proof, merely an opinion. If OP walks in there with printed out verbally abusive texts, and the twins saying "He's just an asshole and we have decided we don't want to see him" it seems that would be more than enough. And wouldn't a judge consider the twins old enough to make up their own minds? They're teenagers, part of me feels even if OP said "Don't go to your father's, he's an asshole!" they would because most teenagers seize the opportunity to do what their parents don't want them to. :)

Although many others have said you would be stupid to have a lawyer, for silly issues like this that are going to be handled in family court, often with a judge who is familiar with your case, a lawyer is not necessary unless he too has a lawyer.

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Human: (MO)Served with a restraining order for my sister and her children. I haven’t seen/spoken with her for months: She claims my mothers residence is hers and now I can’t go to my elderly mothers house anymore. She doesn’t live there. This is the same sister who used technology and key logging software to stalk; harass and terrorize myself and my infant daughter almost one year ago now. I took my daughter on vacation and when we left for Disney World, everything was fine we were bffs again whatever. I made the mistake of trusting her to check on my home while we were away and was surprised to get a call from my landlord asking why there is a family of six suddenly living in my home and using my space, clothing, everything down to the shampoo she watered down so I wouldn’t notice, please. Apparently, she was seeing a new boyfriend and pretending that she lived in my home and acted like it was her own. I caught on when I noticed the family photos were turned around and some other smaller nuisances that you notice as a home owner. So, suddenly my sister despises me for some bogus reason so she doesn’t look like a fraud to her latest victim and I’m the scapegoat, just like back in childhood. My sister filed a restraining order for herself and her three children who have had to come spend time with me in secret on their dads weeks due to this sudden change of heart. She is making me out to be a stalker and a drug addict all of the things that SHE IS because she knows I could get her for breaking and entering or something like that if I really wanted to, I would assume. She put my mothers address down as hers and now I can’t go anywhere near my moms house. All of this was done without me ever seeing or talking to my sister. I haven’t had contact with her for months for obvious reasons. There’s a court date set and god only knows what kind of crazy narcissistic bs she’s gonna pull. I stick to the truth and the tapes of her using my property as her own. Is there anything else I should do/be aware of? Assistant:

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You should fight this restraining order with the assistance of counsel. Most family law practices will have lots of relevant experience. You don't want this to be anything other than a temporary order, it'll follow you around later and may restrict your access to firearms and other rights beyond those already outlined in the order.

Pretty much just document everything, also if she tries to contact you don't pick up or talk to her at all. Missouri is a one party state, so she could secretly record you and try and distort it the audio as "evidence" against you. You should also enable any GPS tracking, like Google time line, to show where you are at all times. Also you should contact a lawyer and get their advice on what to expect on the court date.