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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: If you know a dirty secret about your close friends SO, should you keep quiet? POST: Hey guys. So i am at a loss. I've been put in a pretty awkward position in a situation that is now effecting me and my fiancé. Here's the story... I have worked at the same place for 5 years. For most of that time I have worked side by side with a girl there. She is a few years younger than me and is pretty innocent and not very street smart. Her and I have become great friends over the years and I care a lot about her. I have known her boyfriend, who works with my fiancé, for a very long time. Her boyfriend, since I've know him, uses drugs on weekends for fun with friends. His girlfriend, my work friend, knows he has done this in the past and tells me that he hasn't done drugs since he's been with her. She always says she is so proud of him as well as herself for "fixing" him. Which is really not something I agree with. I learned early on that you can't change anyone if they don't want to change themselves. Anyways, here is the problem. Her boyfriend is lying to her and has been for years. He still uses drugs with his friends when they spend time apart. I know this because the other day he tried to give my fiancé shrooms. AT WORK! I was pretty pissed. My fiancé was taken back as well. My fiancé said that my friends boyfriend has told him many times about using recreational drugs on the weekends. He also told him that his girlfriend has no idea. I care a great deal about my friend and am not sure what to do. The other day I felt like telling her to tell her boyfriend not to try to give drugs to my fiancé at work. He could get fired. But at this point I'm not sure how much of this involves me or what I should do. If my fiancé was lying to me for years about using drugs I would want someone to tell me. I just don't know that it's my place to tell her. I don't wanna be a douche and rat him out, or ruin their relationship. She loves him so much and seems so happy. What the hell should I do? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I know that my good friends boyfriend is using drugs and has been lying to her about it for years. Should I tell her or keep out of their business?	I know that my good friends boyfriend is using drugs and has been lying to her about it for years. Should I tell her or keep out of their business?	3,713
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by cashing in my Club Nintendo Points POST: This is nowhere near as bad as the awful shit that I usually see around here, but I just need to vent. So as many of you might have known, Club Nintendo is shutting down, and everyone's scrambling to cash in their points for something worthwhile, myself included. I haven't really been using my codes up until Mario Kart 8 came out with that offer for a free Wii game if you register it. Anyway, I cashed in all of the games I could find with redeemable codes, and soon was swimming in coins. Now, something else you might not know is that Club Nintendo has been down for about a week or more for maintenance, something that annoyed me to no end, so much so that I went straight to cashing my coins before it went under again. I remembered the games they were offering were just either some shitty eShop game or some virtual consoles that I wasn't interested in, so, without hesitation, I decided on getting that sick new Majora's Mask message bag, almost depleting my load of coins. I guess it was the annoyance of the incredibly long maintenance period, but it never clicked in my brain that they could have added some things to the rewards shop during that time. After placing my order, I noticed I still had a small amount of coins left, so I decided I would see if I could waste the rest of them on a virtual console or something, so I looked into the rewards. Staring back at me was The Wonderful 101, prime and ready for buying at a mere 600 coins. I have a little under 200 now. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I spent all my Club Nintendo coins on a bag that I'll receive in 2-5 months, when I could have been basking in sweet Platinum Games bliss this very minute.	I spent all my Club Nintendo coins on a bag that I'll receive in 2-5 months, when I could have been basking in sweet Platinum Games bliss this very minute.	4,598
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice TITLE: Not sure what to do (18M) I might be over thinking POST: Okay this is my first post so please be nice, I am currently living in china (English ExPat) I had a weekend off so I went to stay with some of my friends in a nearby city (Xinning I live in Lanzhou) we went out to 'KTV' (Crazy Karaoke place (Best thing ever)) it's a pretty big thing in china and we met up with about 6 other Expats. Of course lots of drinking was involved but, as the evening was winding down I found myself awfully close to this girl, I am sure she is older than me although not by much, we where practically on each others lap belting out cheesy love songs (China's western music selection is strange) after a bit on silence I put my arm around her (Big move eh) and we got closer but, of course it was time to leave... So as we got taxi's to go her friend (that she lives with) invited me and the friends I was staying with to hers but, my friends didn't want to go (early start in the morning) and becasue of not knowing the area I didn't really have a choice (I'm still a little annoyed for not going). So I asked for her number, she didn't know it so I gave her mine but, I don't think I got it right. So basically I got her number of my friend and am debating what to do. So whats the best thing to do, without going full creep with a text...... > TL;DR: . Assistant:	Karaoke night, didn't move fast enough, failed to give a girl my number, don't want to creep her out with sudden texts.	Karaoke night, didn't move fast enough, failed to give a girl my number, don't want to creep her out with sudden texts.	5,886
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/college TITLE: [Freshman Advice] Partying/Early Social Questions POST: Hey everybody! I'm going to preface this with the fact that I'm a great student, I'm on top of my studies, and I'm currently in the process of applying to clubs and getting involved with organizations around campus, that said: My first two weeks of college has been, well, much more uneventful than I expected. I have been looking for opportunities to go party on the weekends (nothing too stupid I promise) but I can't seem to find anything. It feels like frats run the party scene at my school (UF), and the only way to have any fun on a Friday/Saturday night or tailgate is to be a part of one. Basically TL;DR: . Assistant:	as a freshman does anybody have advice on finding parties and that sort of thing? (To be fair I've only been here two weeks but a lot of people I know were finding stuff on the first night)	as a freshman does anybody have advice on finding parties and that sort of thing? (To be fair I've only been here two weeks but a lot of people I know were finding stuff on the first night)	497
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [20m] gf [18f] wants to meet up with a "kinda" friend POST: My girlfriend of 4 months is from Russia and she has a lot of friends there. One day I was using her phone and a message popped up in Russian on Instagram and I said , oh you got a message. She told me it was a guy she kinda knew that was going to visit our city and wanted to meet up with her. Also I'm pretty sure I'll be out of town when he comes. She said they're "kinda friends" so they're not even close. He was a friend of her ex boyfriend I think. Usually I'm cool with what she wants to do but it just strikes me odd that she wants to meet up with this guy and she's not even good friends with him, the way she said it he was like an acquaintance. He's just a single guy on work travel visa and they might meet up. When she told me she, said it in an unsure way and that they might not even meet up because she said her friends usually flake but I knew she was just saying that because she could see it striked me as odd. It happened with her female friend that visited with family, but I know they will hang out for sure. He's a single guy and probably hasn't been with Russian girls for a while and he's going to make it happen. But I saw online that she commented on his profile asking if he was in town yet. Should I be concerned? Is it none of my business? Is meeting up with a "kinda" friend a big deal? TL;DR: . Assistant:	girlfriend is meeting up with single friend from back home and she said that he isn't even a close friend, they just kinda knew each other. I might be out of town when they meet, feeling a little nervous	girlfriend is meeting up with single friend from back home and she said that he isn't even a close friend, they just kinda knew each other. I might be out of town when they meet, feeling a little nervous	4,754
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [31m] lied to girlfriend [31f] about sexual past, what to do? POST: Alright, so a little context, we had been seeing each other not quite a month at this point. During a drunken game of "never have i ever" the question of how many sexual partners have you had; somehow came up. I was the first to go and was nervous to say my real number (which is around 20), so I said 5 not to sound like I slept around a lot. Then she said 3. Hoping this would blow over or not really count since it was in a drunken game I just left it. But now she still remembers that I said 5 and keeps coming back to it, and says she wants to know more about my exes and what my past is like. I think she knows that it isn't the truth because she says I am real difficult about my sexual past, and feels that I should open up about it more for our relationship to move forward. I feel guilty about it and feel like I should come clean. However, something that makes me feel otherwise...she let me know that there is a guy that she feels strongly about. She doesn't know him personally, but from a distance (in a stalker sort of way). Anyway, she said if given the opportunity she would sleep with him, and never tell me about it. I kind of objected and said that being it happened during our relationship or would possibly happen during that she is obligated to tell me about it, she assured me she would take it to the grave if she ever slept with him. Now, I know two wrongs don't make a right, but to some extent I feel that I'm not obligated to tell her about my past if she's not going to tell me if she sleeps with this guy. My question is, should I tell her about my past and go from there or should we possibly just move on? Seems to me that we both have trust issues with each other, maybe this is something we could work through? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I lied to her, she says she would lie to me in the future. Trust issues. Should we move on or work on them?	I lied to her, she says she would lie to me in the future. Trust issues. Should we move on or work on them?	6,250
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice TITLE: Diagnosed with mental and personality disorders and completely lost. Could use some advice. POST: I'm 19 years old (will be 20 in October) and was primarily diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and avoidant personality disorder. I believe there's more to it, but I'm in the middle of changing psychiatrists so still waiting for the other's diagnosis. I live in Cairo, Egypt. Currently finishing my first year in the Canadian international college in Cairo (it's rubbish), majoring in Mass Communication. (This is not the major I wanted.) I wanted to go to med school, but since my father wouldn't pay for any supplementary classes (which are a must in my country. Teachers in high school explain nothing assuming that you're already learning outside) I ended up with bad grades. (62% but med school takes from 98%) I had a businessman funding my scholarship for the first year but I lost it (even though my GPA is 3.7) and I have no idea how I'll continue. I've been thinking about dropping out since I hate that college and the major. It's making my depression even worse, but "arguably" helping with the AvPD. I thought about dropping out. Maybe spend the next three years working on my art projects (I'm an artist and wanted to be a film director and writer) and study sciences (biology, physics, chemistry.., etc.) so it would be easier when I take those courses to apply as a mature student in a med school. I also have no idea how I'll do that since it means I have to leave this country. I really want to, but I can't see any options. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I'm in a college that I hate studying a major that I also hate and thinking about dropping out. I've been told that that's not reasonable, but I'm sick of it.	I'm in a college that I hate studying a major that I also hate and thinking about dropping out. I've been told that that's not reasonable, but I'm sick of it.	3,169
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [22F] with my ex[26 M] 1 year, need helps..... POST: We have been friends since we apart. This summer both of us are not as busy as when we were at school, so we have been texting each other very often. He always initiated the conversations. I can feel there still a thing between us, or maybe I just think too much..anyway, he is going to study abroad for two yeas at the end of September. He told me he could not make plans for things after two years. And I know even if he likes me, he definitely will never let me know, because there is only two months left, he is just that kind of person. However, we probably would never be able to see each other after this summer-I'll go back to my hometown next year. I don't know if I should let him know my feelings, I'm not sure whether the result will hurt our friendship. Appreciate any help, thanks! TL;DR: . Assistant:	He's going to study abroad within two month, and I'm not sure whether I should let him know I like him.	He's going to study abroad within two month, and I'm not sure whether I should let him know I like him.	2,531
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel TITLE: Things to do in Vienna? POST: In end of September or start of October girlfriend and I are going to Vienna. My cousin has a flat there so accommodation is taken care of as well as transport (train). Thing is I really don't know what is there to see apart form Madame Tussaud, Prater and Starbucks which girlfriend insists we go there (there are non in my country). Heard also something about the Zoo, is it worth it? We are planing on 5 day stay and we want to cover as much city as possible so if any one can list a local website for public transport that would be great or any info sites(aside of vienna info) Apart from all the sights any good restaurants near the center (or main train station as the flat is somewhere near) or any local pubs where young people like to gather? If any one can list a bit ''less tourist-y'' locations or less known yet still interesting it would be also great. I don't speak German well, is it possible to communicate with locals in English? Girlfriend does speak German but I'd like to participate in talking. And what are prices in general there? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Planing 5 day trip to Vienna, interested in all known and less know locations, good yet not to expansive restaurants, pubs welcome as well.	Planing 5 day trip to Vienna, interested in all known and less know locations, good yet not to expansive restaurants, pubs welcome as well.	252
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Reddit, I'm think that my friend is taking advantage of my goodwill. POST: ( My mom came to me today with this question. I told her reddit might help her out. This is what she typed: ) I have a friend through theatre, that I help regularly with designing lights, set, and directing for a very small amount of money (stipend). She is a high school theatre teacher who doesn't know much about technical theatre, so I have helped rescue some of her shows, that were pretty bad. The principal has even told the teacher how impressed he is with my work (I get program credit for designs). I love what I do, and I don't mind helping the program and her. The most recent show is a large scale musical, that requires hundreds of hours of research and construction, with lights and set. She is asking me for my sketches and other materials to put up in her classroom to "teach" her class how it is done. She likes to come in to the shop and try to change things. First of all there is no time, because she waits till the last minute to do everything. Secondly, she doesn't know what she's talking about. I feel like my methods (along with creativity) of designing are part of why my designs stand out. I don't really want to share all of my research material with her because: 1. I worked really hard getting my degree in design and graduated with honors, and I don't feel responsible for teaching her how to do her job better. 2. If I give her my info she will most likely come into the shop more often telling me how to do my job, wasting more time that I never have. What do I do without jeopardizing the relationship? TL;DR: . Assistant:	If I help my friend by giving her my research for free, I'll be making her better at her job while I still get paid a fraction of what she does. What do I do?	If I help my friend by giving her my research for free, I'll be making her better at her job while I still get paid a fraction of what she does. What do I do?	600
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest TITLE: The hardest decision I've made POST: It's going to be nearly impossible to get over her, but I know that this is for the best. When we first started talking I told her I wanted to be just friends and see where it goes and she agreed. After a few weeks I couldn't help but think of her in a different way though. She's an amazing person, we share the same values and she has best sense of humor out of anyone I've ever met. I thought she might be feeling the same way so I told her how I felt and she said we should still stay friends. I tried for weeks and it was just tearing me up inside. Tonight I told her I can't continue to talk to her. I know it's still going to hurt for awhile, but sometimes you have to look out what's best for you. Has anyone else went through something similar lately? I could use a friend to keep me occupied. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Told a girl we should just be friends, started to like her and then she told me the same thing and now we're not talking.	Told a girl we should just be friends, started to like her and then she told me the same thing and now we're not talking.	5,255
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Why can't I [27 M] stay in love with my long-term (4yr) [26 F], when she's perfect? POST: This is hard to do because even as I write I am kicking myself for even needed to put this on reddit, but I'm not sure where else to go. My GF and I started dating 4 years ago and agreed on a mutual 'break' for an undetermined time period to make sure that our next step, marraige, is the right one. We agreed that if we were to sleep with others, they couldn't be mutual friends, we had to use protection, and also follow a don't ask, don't tell policy. We separated for 2 months but she has recently moved back in. I'm just having such a hard time with how to feel. I loved being single - the chase, going to bars with the feeling of what might happen, the freedom of not checking in with anyone. But on the flipside, my GF is truly perfect. So beautiful, loving, kind, considerate, and sexy. Our sex life is incredible. She is everything I would ever want in a wife, but if I don't stay true to her and give her 100% at this point, I'll lose her. I feel like this should be so easy for me. "She's great, she's the one", I tell myself. But I can't help thinking of the fun flings with interesting girls (one of which I actually dated) I had while single and the amount of other girls who may have the same qualities. I'm scared that I'll always have the feeling of what may be out there, even as I have Mrs. Right waking up next to me. Overall I want to be fair to her. She deserves the world and I want to give it to her, but I'm failing. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I wake up next to the definition of a perfect woman, but the idea of waking up next to her forever scares me incredibly. I'm wrestling with how to be fair.	I wake up next to the definition of a perfect woman, but the idea of waking up next to her forever scares me incredibly. I'm wrestling with how to be fair.	3,679
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [15 M] found out girl I liked [15 F] likes me but isn't ready for a relationship, what do I do? POST: I like this girl (lets call her Q) and it ended up getting around to one of my friends (who is also a close friend of Q) and she figured out that Q also likes me, but isn't ready for a relationship. She also managed to slip that I liked Q. So Q knows that I like her, and she knows that I know she likes me. I'm just a kid and the relationship will probably end up dead in the ground a few months after it starts but what the hell. I know this is barely even something worth asking for advice but I've never been in a situation like this before so any advice will help. This happened about a week or two ago, and I contemplated asking her if she wanted to come over and play video games (She enjoys playing video games, we both own a wii u and smash and stuff) but I don't want to scare her by coming off as super pushy and stuff. She i only in one of my classes but I still talk to her every day. (over text) I'm not sure what I should do and I'm afraid I will just end up never doing anything at all. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Found out a girl I like also likes me, we know we like eachother, she isn't ready for a relationship. What do?	Found out a girl I like also likes me, we know we like eachother, she isn't ready for a relationship. What do?	4,440
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My (20F) boyfriend (22M) makes me feel bad about smoking weed but denies he hates weed/drugs POST: Ages slightly adjusted for anonyminity, together for 9 months Hey Reddit, so the title is pretty much the gist of it, but first I will add a few other relevant details, in bullet form before asking my questions - I am an occasional pot smoker, my boyfriend tried it twice and said it never did anything for him, which I think is totally fair and I never smoke in his presence or try to pressure him into smoking with me. - I also NEVER put weed ahead of necessities like my Netflix bill, phone bill birth control, or Uni tuition. I only buy it when I have disposable income. - I smoke infrequently and in fact, most of my friends don't smoke weed. Basically what I am trying to put across is that by no means am I an annoying, irresponsible stoner. However I feel like when I do bring up smoking weed, or being high, my boyfriend gets very sulky and cold. He will even make remarks about how I am a "stoner" and make mean comments about the friends I have that do smoke. I realize that he may just be uncomfortable with it, so now I only tell him when I have smoked out of honesty/necessity. However, the thing that really bothers me is when I ask him if weed makes him uncomfortable, if he hates stoners he won't be honest or talk to me about it. And sometimes he will admit it, sometimes he won't but he will never tell me why. I honestly just want some closure from him. Another thing that I find baffling is that he is so against me smoking weed, yet he subscribes to several snapchat/periscope channels that are just girls getting high naked, and he also subscribes to r/treesgonewild here on Reddit. I guess I am just very confused and don't know how to get him to clearly communicate or how to deal with it. I feel constantly shamed and also really confused. Because he will masturbate to a girl smoking weed but treats me like a low life whenever I mention smoking. TL;DR: . Assistant:	bf hates that I smoke weed and hates stoners, but won't admit it or explain why, I am confused by his behavior	bf hates that I smoke weed and hates stoners, but won't admit it or explain why, I am confused by his behavior	3,589
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance TITLE: Refinancing possible? POST: I have pretty bad credit that I have slowly been repairing. A year and a half ago my old car died and I need to get a new car... like an idiot I decided to see if I can buy new instead of used. Because of my bad credit I got a terrible APR on the thing and made the deal anyway... because I had it in my head that I wanted a new car. So for 60 months I'm paying $574 per month on this car - I can afford it, but it's at the point where with everything I make enough to pay my bills and not really a lot of room to put much money at all away in savings. As of right now I have 42 payments left on the car. I added everything up and it basically means so far I have been paying for the interest on this car loan and still owe more than what the car was even worth new. The car is a 2009 Kia Sportage that I bought for around $22,000 with an APR that was around 20%. I'd like to get to the point where I can easily pay $250-300 per month if possible. What should I do? Can I refinance it successfully? Should I look into trading off the car and trying to get a used one? If I refinance is there any recommendations on how to do that process? TL;DR: . Assistant:	bought a car that cost me 22k, after a year and a half I still owe over 24k if I make the normal monthly payments - is there anything I can do?	bought a car that cost me 22k, after a year and a half I still owe over 24k if I make the normal monthly payments - is there anything I can do?	1,198
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: My best friend openly admits that she enjoys hurting men and believes she will never be able to stay with anyone. What advice should I give her? POST: I wasn't sure whether or not this was for this sub or for /r/relationships but I figured there's no relationship involved so what the hell. We are both 20, and ever since I can remember she has always loved leading guys on and then dropping them at the last minute or doing something stupid to hurt them. She privately agreed with me that this was just something that she enjoys doing more than she enjoys being in a relationship. She told me that she doesn't want to be this way but she just can't help how she feels. I should probably also add that she's been with most of the guys in our circle of friends and completely screwed with their heads at one point or another. I used to get mad at her but no I realise that she knows how lonely she is, and doesn't know how to get over this desire to break hearts. Personally, I reckon it started with her first boyfriend Jack when she was 14. She was besotted with him, and shared her first kiss with him... then a week or so later he told her face to face that he had made out with his friend's little sister at a party. He said that he wasn't sorry/guilty, and he pretty much meant it. He's still a dick. All of this being said, I really don't know how to help her any more than she knows how to help herself. It's preventing her from having a normal relationship with anyone to the extent that when she likes someone and he likes her, she does nothing about it because she is so scared she will be the same as always and hurt him. What can I do? TL;DR: . Assistant:	my friend is a heart-breaker and plays the part of being a bitch even when I know she's really not like that at all. How can I convince her to change?	my friend is a heart-breaker and plays the part of being a bitch even when I know she's really not like that at all. How can I convince her to change?	1,374
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [24 M] with my GF[24 M/F] of 2 1/2 years, broke up and I do not know how to analyze my emotions. POST: We were college sweethearts and we always had a solid relationship. She is the shy nervous type, but I loved that about her. After 1 year and 7 months I had to move for school, which led into a long distance relationship. The distance really was difficult for both of us. She worked a night schedule and I worked a day schedule but we still managed to call every night. After a while, I tried to convince her to move to my side of the state. She did not really like her job that much (under payed) and I had a hard time finding a job on her side of the state (2 hours away). She expressed a feeling of not knowing what she wanted to do with her career, leading her to not be able to commit looking for work near me. She was always really nervous with decisions and really feared drastic change. So I didn't push her, even though the distance was getting too both of us. She has to do whats best for her. Suddenly, that excuse ended up ending the relationship. She acted distant randomly as I visited her for the week (this was later in the week) and I called her out on it. She told me she doesn't know what she wants for her life and wants to be alone at this point in her life. She told me she loved me and as I left her house, I told her I hope shes finds what makes her happy and that I loved her. We were both in tears as I walked down her porch. It has been a week since then and I am up-and-down each day. Happy,Sad,Confident, Self-loathing, miserable, ecstatic and most of all confused. I do still love her and I really don't know how to analyze what I am feeling. The breakup was out of nowhere. I just want to know that this type of things happens..because I personally don't understand it completely. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Me and GF Broke up after two years for a reason that is hard to swallow. Why are my emotions so all over the place and does anyone have a similar story I can relate to?	Me and GF Broke up after two years for a reason that is hard to swallow. Why are my emotions so all over the place and does anyone have a similar story I can relate to?	976
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Announcing a pregnancy to in laws who have been awful and we [30 mf] are low contact with...making me want to vomit. POST: I'll keep it short- my in laws have treated me poorly since day one. Husband had a kid with a short term GF over 7 years ago and they broke up before he was 1. We have kiddo every weekend and some weekdays and pay CS. We are involved. His stepmom/my step MIL is frenemies with his ex because they both love to start drama, and she's always funneling the ex info. Step MIL has gone so far as to go to my parents a month before the wedding to try and cancel it because "husband doesn't deserve a life, he left the mother of his child." She's been awful to me and has lots of diagnosed substance and mental issues, so it's not in my head. It's been a constant cycle of apologies and abuse and we finally went no contact with her after she "accidentally" sent my husband a mean text on Father's Day about him meant for his ex. We are still low contact with his dad because he's a good guy but also has a lot of diagnosed issues. He's never been talkative or warm to me but he's good to my stepson and husband. Well today he wants to go there and announce our pregnancy, we've told everyone else over a month ago and now that stepson knows he wants his dad to hear from us, otherwise they'll hear from his ex. He wants me to go over with him because they may not be family to me, but I am my husbands family and he wants me there. I'm currently typing this in the bathroom getting IBS flair ups over the thought of going there. I don't want her to touch my belly, to try and hug me, we've agreed she won't be a part of this child's life. But obviously she will hear us tell his dad and do her crazy narcissistic "Grandma of the year" BS. Is this the time to just sit there blank and not say anything or to let her know that she's not to be involved? How do I announce it to his dad without her thinking, as she will, that my child is a proverbial olive branch? TL;DR: . Assistant:	how to tell NC step mother in law that she will have nothing to do with baby when we announce it to my fil? Want to support husband but also reinforce boundaries.	how to tell NC step mother in law that she will have nothing to do with baby when we announce it to my fil? Want to support husband but also reinforce boundaries.	3,869
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: How do I [23/m] stop my gf [25/f] from having the same conflicts with me over and over again? POST: We have been together for three and a half years now, and I have gotten very good at judging whether a conflict is worth it or not. The factors are my mood, her mood, and the topic itself, of course. When she starts talking about something, I immediately know if we can have a productive discussion about it or just a childish fight over mutliple days. Don't get me wrong here - the childish fights are not just because of her conflict behaviour, but also because of mine, the only difference is that I can predict it. Now the problem is, she does not have that predicting ability, and she doesn't want to have because she just wants to talk about stuff when she thinks it's time for that. I have tried to stop her at many occasions, but I pretty much never succeeded, even though I explained everything I just mentioned here. I tried things like "I don't think this is the right time to discuss this, can we please move it to some other time?", "I don't want to talk about this right now, if you can't drop it I will leave", and "we have completely discussed this topic multiple times, there is nothing new to add except more fighting, please leave me alone with it". I don't know how to prevent us from having big unsolvable conflicts every couple of weeks, but I really want to, because the actual relationship between those times of conflict is actually great. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My gf and I get into stupid unneccesary conflicts about all kinds of topics from time to time, I can predict them very well but I need help effectively preventing them.	My gf and I get into stupid unneccesary conflicts about all kinds of topics from time to time, I can predict them very well but I need help effectively preventing them.	5,528
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice TITLE: Is it a bad idea to move straight out of your parents and in with your SO? POST: My boyfriend (21) and I (22) have been together several years, but I go to school in Toronto and he lives in our hometown an hour and a half away. Now he's graduating and has some great job prospects out here, and we've been talking all year about moving in together - but his parents are unsure. They think he should live alone or have roommates first. The problem is, rent is expensive here, and living with me we will each save between $50-$250 a month, without being stuck in a lease. Plus, we can adjust the rent between the two of us at any point while he gets his career started since I'd already be saving so much. He's also nervous about new roommates because he's a real quiet guy who likes things clean and gets along better with females than males. With me he'd be living with two very clean female roommates he already knows well. Most of all, after having to commute to each other weekly for 8 months of the year, we'd like to be able to share more of our lives together, and we feel we're ready as a couple. But I see their point that it's an experience he may not get again. We do plan to have our whole lives together, but then again, we'll probably just end up staying at each other's places all the time anyway, and pay double the rent for it. It's his big life change, so I've left it up to him now. He says he wants to move in here, but I'm just being the paranoid girlfriend who worries if his parents have a point. Thoughts? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boyfriend's parents think he should experience living alone, but we want to live together after two years of long commutes, and it would be cheaper.	Boyfriend's parents think he should experience living alone, but we want to live together after two years of long commutes, and it would be cheaper.	3,746
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Should I [21/F] continue pursuing my romantic interest [26/M] I met online who's sending me mixed signals? POST: I have very little dating experience so I decided to join OKCupid a month ago. The men who were messaging me weren't really my type so I decided to initiate contact with men who I found interesting. I eventually landed on an interesting profile a few days afterwards so I left a message. He seemed interested and we got along fairly well. He complimented on my looks and he asked me out to dinner a week later and I agreed that I would. We never discussed further details even though we found out that we lived 15 minutes away from each other. We continued to message on the site until I decided to ask for his number to text him. I've never been a big texter so I completely understand if people don't want to text back sometimes. When we first started texting, we texted back in forth throughout the day. Eventually it started to dwindle and he would go a day or two without texting me back. He does have a 8-4 weekday job so I do consider that. I thought it was kind of weird how he would continue the conversation 2 days later instead of just starting a new conversation. Regardless, I never sought "revenge" on him by texting him back later; I replied when I could. The majority of the conversation is made by me. I'm the one who asks the questions and sends funny pictures. He reciporcates occasionally. I always wait for him to reply to send another message. He still hasn't asked to meet in person so I decided to ask him to have a last minute late night meal at a local diner but he refused and said that he was 'unkempt and that it would be a bad first impression'. He has dropped hints about meeting up but not as of recently. I'm not emotionally invested in him but I just want to know if I should even bother anymore? He seems like a nice guy but I don't want to be pushy or anything. What should I do? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I met a guy online who I am interested in who initially seemed interested in me. We haven't met yet but his communication style has changed and I'm not sure if I should pursue this.	I met a guy online who I am interested in who initially seemed interested in me. We haven't met yet but his communication style has changed and I'm not sure if I should pursue this.	300
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice TITLE: Me 18M and 17F girlfriend. Afraid to lose virginity. How can I help her not too freak out? POST: I've been dating my girlfriend for eight months now and the topic of sex has come up quite a bit recently. She is really afraid of getting pregnant and she doesn't want to have sex yet. I'm not trying to convince her or push her or anything, I want her to be 100% comfortable when it happens. She is really afraid that she is going to freak out before it happens, or during. She says that it will happen and I've seen little freakouts from her if I get too close to her. I just really want to know how I can help her not freak out, or if she does, how to calm her down enough to continue and be comfortable. Here's some background info if it helps. Her parents sheltered her from sex completely telling her it was bad and making it seem weird and out of place by not talking about it. I've been helping her get over the "weirdness" of the sexual things we do and it is really hard, but we get by. TL;DR: . Assistant:	girlfriend was sheltered from sex, dating for 8 months, I want sex, she will freak out before/during. How can I help her through this as comfortably as possible?	girlfriend was sheltered from sex, dating for 8 months, I want sex, she will freak out before/during. How can I help her through this as comfortably as possible?	199
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel TITLE: So we booked our flights to Ireland... and now we're panicking... help? POST: Well story goes like this. Partner and I have been to Dublin several times to see friends and have a few parties, and were always told how theres some fantastic sights to see in Ireland if we ever managed to get across for a break (Blarney castle, Galway, Giants Causeway, etc). So when it came around to looking at holidays for this summer, we figured we'd give it a shot, do our own thing instead of a tour, and booked ourselves some flights... ...but we've come to a bit of a block. Pretty much all the car hire companies specify that we need to have had a licence for 8 years, and be over 25 if we want to hire a car. I'm 26, but only have a couple of years, and she's 23, but has 7 years. So unless we're willing to start selling some organs, we cant hire a car. That leaves the public transport. But from what we can see, while the major towns are connected, to get to a lot of the best bits, you need a bit more freedom, which buses and coaches don't seem to offer. Well if we'd known this was going to be such a problem, we could have brought our car over. Problem solved. But the wonderful setup at Ryanair means that if we want to cancel our tickets, we're looking at about a £160 bill!! (They charge £40 per person, per single trip) TL;DR: . Assistant:	We bought tickets to Ireland, realised we screwed up, cant hire a car, but want to get around independently. Any suggestions?	We bought tickets to Ireland, realised we screwed up, cant hire a car, but want to get around independently. Any suggestions?	3,496
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [22 F] want to buy my bf [28 M] of 6 months a $500 very rare video game for his collection for his birthday/Christmas. Will a gift of this caliber scare him off/ be considered too much after being laid off from his game dev job? POST: My boyfriend's birthday is December 24th, which is Christmas Eve. He grew up in a foster home and never got great presents for either his birthday or Christmas. He often spends his birthday and Christmas alone because his foster mother is uninterested and he doesn't have a great relationship with his birth mother. He spent Christmas with me last year, so I went out of my way to get him both a birthday present AND a Christmas present, both of which valued above $50. However, he was so thrilled to have someone to spend his birthday and Christmas with, he showered me with 5 very nice, expensive gifts. I felt terrible. Happy, but terrible. He is a video game artist but was recently laid off from his job. He is very passionate about his video game collection. There is one game I noticed in his collection that he only has the sequel of. I asked him why because it is very unlike him. He said it was because the original was wildly expensive and he already had a hard time affording a mint condition version of the sequel. The cheapest, mint condition version of the game I could find is about $500. I do not make a whole ton of money, but I have saved up enough for it but now I find myself having second thoughts. I would have to buy it now or within a few months because the price skyrockets the closer it gets to Christmas. We haven't been together all that long (about 6 months) and I don't know if it would be right to drop $500 on a present just yet. I have so many questions. Is this too much? Would it be creepy to get him something that he never asked for? What if giving him a game gives him bad feelings about getting laid off? What if we break up before Christmas and I am stuck with the game? Would the game have the same value to his collection if he didn't earn it himself? Any help would be great. I am torn. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Foster kid boyfriend with Christmas birthday and video game collection. Is it too soon to get him a $500 game for his collection, especially after he has just been laid off from his game dev job?	Foster kid boyfriend with Christmas birthday and video game collection. Is it too soon to get him a $500 game for his collection, especially after he has just been laid off from his game dev job?	11
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I (21m) just got an amazing job opportunity 8 hrs away, gf (18) of 3 years says she'll dump me if I take it. I need some guidance. POST: I just got a summer job as a research assistant at a federal research facility about 8 hours away from my home. If I play my cards right, there is a good chance I will be able to land a full-time job there when I graduate next year. My girlfriend says she doesn't want to move and doesn't want a long ~~term~~ distance relationship. I understand her completely, she's saying what she wants in life and if I don't fit into her plans then there's no point in continuing our relationship. She's my first real relationship, and my best friend. Should I decline this opportunity and stay with her, or take the job and leave? TL;DR: . Assistant:	got amazing job opportunity 8 hrs away, gf of 3 yrs says she'll dump me if I take it. What do?	got amazing job opportunity 8 hrs away, gf of 3 yrs says she'll dump me if I take it. What do?	3,421
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice TITLE: Babysitter negligence.. Criminal? POST: I have two small children, ages 2.5 years (Liam) and 7 months (Emma). I have a big problem. There was a death in my family and I had to travel several hundred miles because of this with very little notice. Long story short, I ended up leaving my kids with my trusted sitter (we'll call her "Mary") for the ~48 hours I had to be away. I felt like that was best for them under the circumstances, but it turns out I was very wrong. Shortly after I had picked up my children, I come to find out that Mary had apparently managed to enjoy a date night while my kids were in her care. The only thing I know for a fact is that she left my kids for at least an hour (probably longer). I don't know where she left them. I don't know with whom she left them. I also have no evidence against her, other than the word of a friend and a Facebook post. Additionally, Liam was extremely hungry and thirsty, and they were both incredibly exhausted. I am not exaggerating when I say that I am very concerned that they had not eaten or slept even remotely enough since I dropped them off. Obviously, I feel like this is totally unacceptable, if not criminal!! I don't know what to do and I am very upset! I need advice. Is there really nothing that I can do from a legal standpoint? Also, if I spread the word about her negligence, could that hurt me down the road? Defamation or something? I feel strongly that I cannot just let this go! Please note that Mary has watched my kids at least a dozen times, and I've been completely satisfied with their care up until now. Needless to say, I will never consider leaving my kids with her again. I am located in North Carolina, United States. Sorry for the novel. If there is a more appropriate sub for this, please let me know if I'm in the wrong place. Thank you guys in advance. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My sitter left my kids after I trusted her to keep them while I was out of town. What, if anything, can/should I do? Also, what should I avoid doing?	My sitter left my kids after I trusted her to keep them while I was out of town. What, if anything, can/should I do? Also, what should I avoid doing?	6,089
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/college TITLE: Reddit, how can I deal with my bitchy roommate? POST: I live in a two bedroom apartment with two girls in each room bedroom. Recently, one of the girls from the other room decided that the best way to tell us things was through passive-aggressive notes put in certain places as seen here: (those are not the only ones). On top of that, she now decides that she hates my boyfriend because he comes over too often (in MY room, where she doesn't even have to see him), and because he doesn't lock the door when he leaves. She has called him a "douchebag", "faggot", "dick", etc. straight to my face, and told me to tell him to go home. She has no reason to even think that because all he's ever been is respectful to her and has even done favors for him. The thing is, if she had been nice about it and told me directly that she had problems with something, I would be much more susceptible to change. But when she simply leaves notes all over the place and then blows up and bitches people out when things don't change, I have no respect for her. What should I do? :/ TL;DR: . Assistant:	Roommate is a passive-aggressive bitch who lacks communication skills and brain cells. Apparently hates my boyfriend and doesn't want me to have him over. How do I deal?	Roommate is a passive-aggressive bitch who lacks communication skills and brain cells. Apparently hates my boyfriend and doesn't want me to have him over. How do I deal?	964
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: deciding when it's time to marry...(throwaway here) POST: So my partner of over two years (M/25) and I(F/22) have been discussing marriage lately after he brought it up two different times. No official proposal yet, just talking about how we both feel about the concept of marriage, what we would expect and desire out of it, and when we'd like it to happen. We've really been talking about these things for a long time now, including our thoughts on children, work, and general life trajectory. We've been living together for most of our relationship, too (moved in together after a couple months of dating). We also have made two major cross-country moves together because of school, share bills, a car, etc. In many ways we are already living a "married" life now. I am very confident he is the right person for me and I know he feels the same. My question is, are there things we should discuss before agreeing to marry? I know this is a huge life decision and I don't want to rush into this without thinking clearly first. But I'm not going to lie, I am so giddy with excitement just thinking about him and getting to spend the rest of my life with him! (obligitory yay me!) TL;DR: . Assistant:	Partner and I are discussing marriage and I'd love advice on thinking about the decision and things the two of us should discuss.	Partner and I are discussing marriage and I'd love advice on thinking about the decision and things the two of us should discuss.	5,708
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by picking up a quarter I saw in the gas station. POST: TIFU. I was in line at the gas station, waiting to pay for my soda and gas, when I saw a quarter on the packs of gum directly in front of the counter. When it was my turn to pay I bent over and scooped up the quarter, and put it in my pocket, forgetting about it instantly. Putting my soda on the counter and reaching for my wallet, I looked up and saw the cashier eyeing me with an angry glare. I was confused by this. Was she mad at my choice of soda? (She could be one of those freaks that prefer Pepsi) Did I have an offensive t shirt on? (not unless she's offended by my obscure podcast shirt) I say "......$40 on 2 please." And she responds with "What's in your pocket?" "huh?" I stammer before finally understanding. "Oh! I didn't steal anything!" and proceed to fervently pull everything out of my pockets, dropping change, and other things. I pick up the 25 cent culprit and thrust it to the cashier, as if it proved my story somehow, and explained that I had just seen the quarter on the gum and nabbed it. Her face hadn't changed at all during the entire exchange. She finally just completed my transaction and said have a nice day. I'm not sure if she believed me or not, but I gathered all my stuff and hightailed it out of there. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I found a quarter on a display of gum, cashier thought I was blatantly stealing gum right in front of her.	I found a quarter on a display of gum, cashier thought I was blatantly stealing gum right in front of her.	2,244
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance TITLE: Laundromat ripped me off. POST: So this is half a fuck up, half a question which I hope this is the right place to post. It happened over a week ago, last Saturday to be exact. I decided to do my laundry at the local Laundromat, which uses a card system. So with a $30 load, I insert my card and a $50 bill into the machine, only to find it added $1 to my card. Furious I told the girl about it (who, long side story, had actually seen me with the $50). She calls her manager, they talk, she tells me she will take my number and they will call me once the weekend is over. (claims the manager will have to check the machine for the $50) Monday (last week) rolls around and i go there asking about my $50 and I get the same tale, this time from another associate (manager hasn't been in yet, bla bla bla). It has been a full week since then and still no call. Am I screwed? should i go and bitch at her everyday? Or should i just call it a loss and move on. TL;DR: . Assistant:	laundromat took my $50 from a card reader and told me they would call me. Still haven't called over a week later.	laundromat took my $50 from a card reader and told me they would call me. Still haven't called over a week later.	4,188
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by making the right choice POST: A couple nights ago I went to a party, and since I don't have my driver's license yet, my mom had to drive me there. The whole car ride to my friend's house she lectured me about not drinking and not doing drugs and whatnot. I patiently waited silently through the whole speech, and as soon as we pulled up, I leaped out of the car and ran inside. Fast forward several hours later. The party is ending. I have not followed my mom's instructions like a good little boy, and I am really, really drunk. I'm leaving and walking down the driveway, about to call my mom to pick me up, when one of my friends calls out my name. He's unlocking his car and several others are piling into the rear seats. All of them are drunk as balls, and even though my cognitive abilities are not at full strength, I have the brains to decline and continue walking. I'm walking down the sidewalk, waiting for my mom to pick up her phone, I hear the start of an engine behind me. I ignore it, and keep walking. Several seconds later, I hear tires screech and think, "Gee, I hope they don't die on the way home." A second after that, the car hits me. I wake up later in a hospital room, and according to the doctor, I've broken my wrist, hip, both legs, and a couple ribs. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I choose not to get into a car driven by an intoxicated friend, get run over by the same car moments later.	I choose not to get into a car driven by an intoxicated friend, get run over by the same car moments later.	287
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by being a stupid kid with a cellphone POST: Obligatory this didn't happen today but rather about 15 years ago. So i was in 6th grade, about 12 years old, living in Sweden. Our class was going on some kind of sleep over camping trip in the woods. We brought tents and all that shit and my brand new cellphone that i got from my parents, my first one. I got the whole spiel about only calling in emergencies and all that jazz. So we're out walking in the woods and me and like 3 other guys and 1 teacher wander off from the group and get separated. It's getting darker but we're still trying to locate the main group. The cellphone reception was spotty so the teacher couldn't reach the other teachers on the trip. Me and another guy walk off a little bit onto a little hill and I get one bar! I quickly call my parents for some dumb ass reason and say we're lost, but forget to mention the slight detail that we have a teacher with us. With reception being spotty it's hard to communicate and a lot of things got lost. The call gets dropped and I don't think much of it. We finally somehow find the main group, i think just by walking around and that's when I get a call from the vice principal of the school. Apperently my parents had called the school and the police. The police we're going to get choppers ready but as it was already dark that wasn't feasible. So they started mounting a search party with dogs and the whole shebang. Luckily we found the main group before they really got going. Luckily there weren't any consequences except my parents getting a little mad about me missing to mention crucial details about our situation :) TL;DR: . Assistant:	Got lost in the woods, called parents and didn't mention we had a teacher with us and cops started mounting search party for us.	Got lost in the woods, called parents and didn't mention we had a teacher with us and cops started mounting search party for us.	2,355
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [22M] can't tell if girl [21F] I met while travelling has any feelings for me POST: I met her two years ago when travelling in the summer to another country. We became very good friends and went out once or twice with just the two of us before I had to leave back to my country. I already had some feelings for her at the time before I had to leave but didnt bother saying anything to her as I thought I wouldn't ever see her again after leaving back to my country. Fast forward two years later, we didn't keep in contact often in the past two years but talked occassionally. Two weeks or so before finding out I had an opportunity to go back to the country she lived in, I told her that I was coming back and she was very excited. We planned out places to visit and things to see when I came to visit. When I arrived she was the first person I saw as she picked me up at the airport. This time when I visited the country we visited many places together but we didn't have much time alone as a family member of mine came along with us. Eventually I actually met her mother and father who were very kind and showed me and my family member around the city and took us to eat a lot of delicious food as well. Before I went to her country, I actually joked around and said to her that if she ever wanted to visit where I lived, she could stay at my place with my family. I didn't think that she would actually take me seriously and she told me a few days later that she was actually going to come visit me. She is coming this week to my city and I am planning to tell her how I feel after she arrives, however I don`t feel very confident in myself and am worried of being rejected and making things very awkward for us and for the rest of her visit. What should I do? I am absolutely clueless. Is there any chance that she could like me? Or should I just not say anything to her and just remain good friends TL;DR: . Assistant:	Does girl I have feelings for from another country travelling to visit me in my city mean anything special? Or just good friends?	Does girl I have feelings for from another country travelling to visit me in my city mean anything special? Or just good friends?	1,326
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [21/M] just got out of a 2.5 year relationship with [20/F]. Ended on mutual terms, still feel awful. Need some advice. POST: Hey everyone, My ex [20/F] and I broke up around 2 weeks ago. It was a mutual break up, I am leaving in the fall to a different city to go pursue athletic dreams of mine, and she didn't want to come with me. Both of us didn't want to be in a LDR. On top of that, both of us noticed there we were drifting apart, the relationship wasn't the greatest. We sat down, had a long talk, and we decided that maybe we should end this. There was no fight, it was very amicable. I was okay for the first 2 days, maybe it was denial? Then I just crashed. I'm sad and lonely. I tried to maintain no contact, but I broke it a couple times (I know, my bad). I still think I'm in denial, because I can't wrap my head around that we aren't together anymore. I am still afraid of building relationships (friendships) with women, because there's a voice in the back of my head saying "but what if you two get back together?" I'm afraid of doing most things: Hit up the club with friends, go out to the pub, stuff like that. Because of what my ex would think. This was my first serious relationship, and I don't know how to handle it being over. Any advice from people who have been in my shoes, or just know the ropes? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Break up after 2.5 years. Very amicable. Can't wrap my head around that we aren't together anymore. Letting it hold me back from doing things. Need some advice.	Break up after 2.5 years. Very amicable. Can't wrap my head around that we aren't together anymore. Letting it hold me back from doing things. Need some advice.	6,071
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU By Emailing a Coworker POST: I work in a rather large establishment, and these establishments are located nationwide. There are a lot of people in the building where I work, so if I see them once outside of my routine, there's little chance I will see them again. I became quite smitten by someone I saw the other day, and managed (through no small effort) to find out her name. I'm also getting an advanced degree in my field, which is also the field I currently work in. Not too long ago, I had an assignment where I needed to interview a specialist and used someone from the building who ended up being a terrible pick (the boss of my boss's boss). Sometime shortly after, I found out the girl I had a thing for would have been great, even though the assignment had already been turned in. So I devised a cunning and elaborate ruse to schedule a faux interview with her and then smoothly ask her to lunch at the end. If it went exactly as it had gone in my head, it would be smooth sailing. That was a big "if". The email did not go as planned. She emailed back to tell me that she didn't think she was a going to be able to help me out nearly as much as her coworkers, who she forwarded the email to. Then they sent it to some other coworkers in my sister department who all ended up being equally perplexed at the lack of a specialist in this field, and eventually the email made it the head of the department, who made a statewide Listserv announcement to those in my field who might be eager to help me—on an assignment I had already done and was just using to get a poorly thought out date! TL;DR: . Assistant:	Emailed my coworker so I could secretly set up a date, and her whole department got involved to find someone more suitable instead	Emailed my coworker so I could secretly set up a date, and her whole department got involved to find someone more suitable instead	6,142
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [23F] and my bf [25 M], are planning on stay in his parents house to save for a house; can I and how can I establish boundaries with them? POST: So here's the details; my boyfriend and I want to buy a house within the next year or so - but we know that if we were to go out and rent it would be much harder to save for a down-payment. His parents approached us with the idea that we could live in their basement (where my SO currently stays), renovate it to make it more like a basement apartment and pay rent at a much less price than we would if we actually went out and rented. (somewhere around $300-$500/mnth) That being said, even though this is a great offer I do have my hesitations. My biggest is boundaries; both his parents are retired and are home quite often. They'll often come into his room when we're together, many times without knocking and stay around for a while. Though I don't always have a problem with it, it does bug me a little. So I'm worried that when I move in that they'll be hanging around more often. I understand, its their house and they can do what they want - though my bf says if we're paying rent they can't just come down here (ya right!). So my question is, is it possible to establish boundaries with your in-laws when you live with them? and if so, how? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Planning on living with bf's parents basement, paying a low rent price. Is it possible to establish boundaries with them? And if so, how?	Planning on living with bf's parents basement, paying a low rent price. Is it possible to establish boundaries with them? And if so, how?	5,169
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [20M] with my boyfriend [21M] of a year-ish, one time boyfriend, one time casual boyfriend has moved on and now I don't know what to do? POST: So I dated this guy for about five months, we mutually decided that we didn't have much in common so we ended it. We didn't talk for two months and then we ran into each other at a party and hooked up about three months ago. Over the past three months we've been taking it casually. Mostly just hookups but also a lot of dinners, movies and concerts. I've been kinda falling for him. I've been learning new things about him, things I somehow didn't know the first time we dated. A few hours ago though, I watched his snapchat story and it was a picture of him kissing this cute guy on the cheek with the caption "best date of my life". I just feel empty. I didn't realize how much I liked him until I saw him with another guy. I feel so worthless. I want to cry but I can't for some reason. This whole time he was over me and I thought I was too but I don't think I ever dealt with it. And now all I can think about is what might have been and how much time I've wasted on a guy who seemingly doesn't care about me. This keeps happening to me. I keep falling for guys who keep me at arms length. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know why I'm submitting this. I guess I'm looking for advice or experience. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Had a casual fling for three months with an ex boyfriend, accidentally fell for him, now he's moved on and I don't know how to not feel so terrible.	Had a casual fling for three months with an ex boyfriend, accidentally fell for him, now he's moved on and I don't know how to not feel so terrible.	2,196
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [25F] with my husband[26 M] married 2 years, some might say nearly the perfect guy, but cycling through modes of shear panic and marital entrapment. POST: If been married for just over two years, now. Everything from the outside appears to be normal, loving (house, dog, no kids), both with good jobs and lots of friends surrounding us. Every 3-4 months of so, I go through stages of wanting out of my marriage commitment. I feel an overtaking of emotion and need to escape. I will go so far as to shop apartments online and plan a budget for living alone. It's not that I have someone else in mind, but more of a wanting to be alone. I want to live on my own where I feel as though I don't have to deal with the humdrum of marital life and a space that it mine and mine alone. The problem is... I have no reason for feeling this way (or atleast seemingly no reason). My husband is loving, smart, funny and handsome. But I have a lingering want to live alone. And as time is ticking on the question and thoughts of children are beginning to come up more and more So I can basically stfu and deal with whatever these emotions are or leave my husband. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My husband is wonderful, but I have a lingering want to be on my own. Anyone else been here? Maybe the better question is how big of an asshole am I for feeling this way?	My husband is wonderful, but I have a lingering want to be on my own. Anyone else been here? Maybe the better question is how big of an asshole am I for feeling this way?	3,398
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel TITLE: Help me plan our honeymoon, South America in summer? POST: Hey /r/travel! Me and the gf are getting married june 1st and are trying to plan the honeymoon. We have 8 weeks from end of june to middle of august to spend. Our plan is to spend 1-2 weeks home in Sweden and then go somewhere semi-adventurous for the remaining 6 weeks Our initial plan was to go to South America, maybe start off in mexico and then finish off in peru or chile. From some reading from wikivoyage i got the feeling that most of SA has rain periods during summers. My questions to you /r/travel are: 1. Will it rain a lot in central/northern america during july/august? 2. What would you recommend us seeing in these parts of the world? 3. How far in advance do we need to book inca trail? Our interests are mainly hiking/outdoors, adventures, sports and living some of the local cultures. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Will Central/South America be good during summers? And what should we not miss during our 6-8 weeks there?	Will Central/South America be good during summers? And what should we not miss during our 6-8 weeks there?	491
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [24M] am unsure if my feelings for my good friend [23F] will ever disappear POST: It started having a crush on my work colleague 1.5 years ago. We worked together but didn't spend much time together socially, and if we did, always with another work colleague. We had a lot of similar interests and we always had a good time talking together. At this point i didn't realize i had feelings for her, but my day was always brightened after having a laugh with her. It should be mentioned that she had a boyfriend. After 5-6 months, we started hanging out more, just the two of us, having deep conversations and i found we agreed on a lot of things. This is where the feelings began to develop. In part, i think, due to me not having had such a connection with a girl before, not like this anyway. I knew she had a boyfriend and i knew i wasn't the type of guy she would have a relationship with anyways, so i tried my hardest to kill these feelings. I also haven't had a good friend like her in a long time, so the thought of losing her by cutting her off where too much. She quit her job about half a year ago to start something new, and ever since that we've been hanging out 2-6 times a week. I feel like i have my feelings under control. I've gotten to know her very well and with an objective eye i know we wouldn't fit together in a relationship. But, i just can't stop thinking of her. Not 24/7, but at least once every day. It's driving me a bit mad, because i know there's nothing there and there never will be, but my brain likes to make me think there is. I always realize shortly after how stupid it is and then i laugh a little at myself. Will this ever get better? Will i ever stop thinking of her this way? I feel like i'm conning her into believing i'm just a friend. I also feel like i may be doing this to myself. I'm not the best at making new friends and the thought of losing her ruins my day. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Met a girl at work who i developed feelings for. Spend a year being a friend while trying to kill my feelings. Unsure if feelings will ever stop, will they? I really hope i'm just being impatient.	Met a girl at work who i developed feelings for. Spend a year being a friend while trying to kill my feelings. Unsure if feelings will ever stop, will they? I really hope i'm just being impatient.	2,400