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How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Finding the right therapist is a lot like looking for a primary care doctor or family physician. You may have more than one in your life and also, if it does not work out, you can find a provider that is a better fit. You want to find someone who you believe will respond to your needs and help you accomplish your goals. That being said, it is very helpful to know what are you trying to accomplish in counseling. Therapists will open up the floor for you to discuss and will set treatment goals with you to move towards what you are accomplishing. This becomes the road map. The map keeps both the clinician and client on course. In addition, being very honest about your needs and providing feedback about sessions can be helpful. If you did not like something, make sure to speak up about it, so that it does not negatively impact the therapy relationship. If something works, make sure you speak up about that too. This can help the therapist to know if therapeutic changes need to be made. Similar to a doctor, if a medication is not working, it would be important to let them know so that adjustments can be made. Therapy is a journey that is unique to each person. Talking about the therapy relationship is a part of that journey. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | What a great question. There is no one size fits all to the answer unfortunately because it is based solely on what draws a connection between the two of you. Deciding on a therapist is not an easy process just as deciding on a physical health practitioner. I would suggest first inquiring about areas of specialty and alining this with what you desire to obtain from therapy. Secondly, I would suggest requesting a consultation to engage in dialogue to aid you with getting a feel of your comfort level with speaking to him or her. Lastly, I would suggest asking their level of experience with whatever your presenting concern is. I hope that I have offered you some sense of direction. Good luck to you. Be safe, and don't forget to exercise some form of self-care routinely. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | You will generally feel a 'click,' or 'connection,' with a counselor through their bio, website, and/or on the phone during a consult (if one is provided). Counseling is about the true you having a safe place to come out. With the right therapist you will feel safe to be your true self, in all your glory! In order to get what you need from treatment, be clear with what you are looking for. I believe a great counselor is person-centered and partners with the client, inviting the client to determine the goals, and where they would like to get to. Then the therapist and client work together to get to the client's desired destinations! |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | I think there are two major things that are necessary for a therapist to be helpful. The first is that you must feel comfortable with them. If you feel like the counselor was interested in your life and was caring during the first session, that's a good sign. If not, then run! Trust your gut on this one. The second important thing is that you have to trust your counselor. Your counselor can be kind, but if they just sit there and nod, without providing you anything, its probably isn't a good fit. Just like when you go to a medical doctor, you're putting your care in their hands, so you need to feel like there is expertise.If you not getting those things, I would encourage you to voice your needs (though I know that can be hard). If you counselor listens to that feedback, it's generally a good sign, and if they don't it may be a sign that this isn't a good fit. The important thing is, that you have to find a good fit. Just like any other relationship, not everyone is going to be a perfect match together. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Your therapist will show up for you not only keeping your appointments but s/he will listen to you. S/he will use your language. Also s/he will respectfully confront you when appropriate. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Finding the right therapist for you can be a stressful process but is important. I often explain it as buying a new car. "We need to test drive the new car to understand how it handles, looks or feels, etc." It is common for clients to know their therapist is the right fit after the first few minutes of speaking with them. Other times, it doesn't happen until a few sessions. Finding what criteria are important for you in a therapist is a good way to see if the one you are working with fits. Example criteria may include their gender, age, specific training or expertise, certain life experiences, tone of voice, conversation style, projection of empathy, approach to sessions (more question asking or problem-solving), or overall personality compatibility. There is nothing wrong with changing therapists if you do not feel it is the right fit. Feedback always helps with the therapy process if you feel like it is a right fit but the therapist may not be giving you what you need at that time. We are trained to understand this is a part of the process and can provide great resources for clients to find someone else if that is what is needed. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | This is an important question. The right therapist does not necessarily need to share all of your views, but they do need to share your goals. I cannot over-stress the importance of setting goals with your therapist. They may change over time, but you and the therapist should be on the same page. There is nothing wrong with being upfront about what your needs are, and the therapist should be able to help you do that. Keep in mind that what you need in the beginning may be different than what you need in the end as you grow and change throughout the course of therapy. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | How do you feel when you meet with your therapist? Are you comfortable? Do you feel safe? Do you feel like you are gaining something from the experience? Therapy has its ups and downs, it is hard, and sometimes it won't feel good- that is when you are growing and learning the most. If you feel comfortable, safe, like you can tell your therapist anything (after getting to know her/him- not in the first session), and that you are getting help with what brought you in; then you might have found the right therapist for you. I always say, its just a feeling- you'll know. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Setting expectations for treatment at the very beginning would help you to know if you have found the "right one" for you. This is how you'd address "training" your therapist to give you what you need. However, the therapist is not there to fix you, that's your job. A therapist is another set of eyes on your life and the presenting issues you come in to discuss. Sometimes you may not like what the therapist has to say, and just maybe that is what you "needed" that day. Therapy also takes time, it's not a quick fix. If there's a certain type of therapy you'd like, then again you'd discuss that in the very beginning. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Here's what I'm already picking up on from you: 1) you are motivated to advocate for your needs, 2) you value connecting with your therapist in some form, and 3) you have at least a basic understanding of what you want/need from therapy. Finding a therapist that fits can be a difficult task. Every counselor has their own style and some just tend to mesh well with certain personalities--factors beyond our control. If you look at it in terms of specialties, many therapists will identify those on their company's websites and/or during an intake. It is important to know what your therapist is competent in because you are sacrificing so much time, energy, and finances into the process!Figuring out if your counselor is a match for the issues you present with can be relatively quick to discover (usually this happens during intake when the counselor informs the client about their areas of expertise). On the other hand, it may take a few sessions to learn whether or not you feel a connection with your counselor. In the research we have on clinical outcomes, it is shown over and over again that the relationship is key--treatment techniques alone play a very small role in client change when the counselor-client bond is lacking. I wonder if maybe there is a fear here that your therapist may not understand you or may guide you in the wrong direction. When I have a client with these fears, it's crucial we process their expectations of and goals for therapy, as well as realistic ways I can help support them in those goals that fit their individual needs. You may find that some therapists don't meet your needs and that's OK. It's normal to feel discouraged about therapy not working out, but it's important to continue to search for the best match for you. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | It is not a matter of training your therapist, they should now how to illicit the needed information from you to help you. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | It's kind of like an audition. You need to find someone who you feel comfortable with and respect. Many therapists provide short, free, consultations. That is a good way to see if they seem to understand and empathize with you in a way that puts you at ease. If you have specific issues that you need to work on. look for someone who specializes in what is troubling you. The therapist should be able to provide evidence-based treatment and should discuss with you why they think this is the best way to proceed. Every counseling client should feel free to have input on their goals and desired outcomes. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | I think the most important to be the right therapist to you, is being able to make the click. It means to combine my years of education and training with my personal experiences, and how those could help you to figure it out your exploration about yourself, help you process them in the way that you may be able to learn how to deal with life's difficulties. On the other side, that would be important in your process, is that you can trust in me as one who has been learning for my own process of life. Also, I have been in your place as a counselee, and I know how important is to get help. I was once divorced and I understand the pain of loss. I was a victim of domestic violence and I am a survivor. I am multicultural, I am multiracial married, I am a mother of adult children, I understand the development process from the cradle to the marriage, and have watched them grow in their careers. I have values and principles rooted in the knowledge of divine wisdom and that life has much more meaning when we live a mindfulness life. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | If your therapist is attentive and compassionate to what you are sharing then you will know you have a true connection with him or her and that he or she is the right match for you. Having a therapist who has a good location and inviting office is also a good sign that you have the right one! |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | When you find the right therapist, you will feel understood on a deeper level. You'll feel that they not only understood what you were saying, but that they were also able to catch the "in between the lines" part and put into words what you have not been able to. The relationship with your therapist should be collaborative, there should be a fundamental element of safety and trust. A strong relationship with your therapist takes time to cultivate, but by the second or third session, you'll know if that therapist genuinely see's the world from your perspective and has a plan to get on how they will support your growth through this journey. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | The most important agent of change in therapy is your relationship with your therapist. It is so important for you to find a therapist that you trust and feel comfortable enough to just lay everything out there and be vulnerable with. Therapy is really building a safe and healthy relationship with a professional that can then help guide you in some of the most intimate and emotional parts of your life. This relationship does take time to build, but usually you can get a sense of a therapist's personality and approach from their bio and website. Once you have found someone that you think you could really connect with, then it's about looking at do they have the expertise you need. Do they have training in relationship counseling or in working with anxiety, depression, or trauma? It is important to find an expert in the field so you are getting the best care possible...just like if you were to go to a general family doctor versus a specialist. I hope that is helpful! |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | You know have the right therapist if:Your counselor specializes in what you are seeking help for or they have experience with treating people with similar issues.They are ethical and are able to understand your culture or religious norms.They are licensed in your state.They are able to provide you treatment that is tailored to your needs so that you can meet your goals for therapy.They are non-judgmental and can show empathy to you.They can meet you were you are in your journey of healing and understand you.The location of the office or use of technology to hold sessions is something that you are comfortable with.Recognize that a relationship with a counselor is like a relationship with any other person, sometimes you mesh well and sometimes you do not mesh well. A counselor should never take any offense if you do not feel like a good fit with the counselor, just be honest with your counselor about how you are feeling about the relationship. If you feel the need to change counselors, feel the freedom to change counselors as you will get more from therapy if you feel like you make a good team.To "train" your therapist:Be honest about your needs, expectations, barriers and about your situation.Know thyself and share that with your counselor. Create attainable goals for yourself with the help of the counselor.Set the pace that you are comfortable with.Feel comfortable to share an agenda for each session. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | When you have the right therapist you just know, as evidence of the help that you have received, the progress that you have made, from the rapport and partnership that you have gained with your therapist, and from if you feel supported in a way that is helpful to you, as well as if your therapist has a good understanding of what your needs are and what you desire to gain from your therapy experience. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | This is a great question. A good therapist should first be someone you can trust and second, someone who encourages you to be honest with yourself. Therapy is a time to learn new coping skills and learn more about yourself. You have the answers you need within yourself, but it sometimes takes a keen ear to lead you to those answers. This can't happen without trust and honesty. You may not always leave therapy feeling energized. Therapy can be hard work. But, you should always feel you have gained something to ponder that will help you better understand yourself. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | If you connect with your therapist and can say whatever you want to say and not be judged. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Having the perfect therapist can be the key to any
fruitful relationship. My private practice uses Life Coaching, though I am
professionally qualified in many therapeutic modalities. The therapeutic
relationship is the initial step of any treatment program or goal attainment
process. We can discover an appreciation of having discovered the best
character to show you on this journey in excellent communication. Does the
person “get you” and are you on the same page in the therapeutic process? The
therapist should have considerable experience that combines professional
instruction on the matters that you need guidance to overpower. If the
therapist doesn’t have all the fundamental experiences, is he/she prepared
to locate the suitable means that you require or have the capabilities to
recommend you to someone while following up and continuing a prosperous and
beneficial relationship with you.
If for some reason you are required to continue with
a therapist and advance on this relationship, make certain that the
communication areas are consistently transparent. Express yourself
openly in disclosing your objectives and purpose. Try to find a
commonality with the therapist that encompasses various pathways of motivation
for them to learn and grow while maintaining a focus on your present
accomplishments. Optimal Communication is consistently the key to a healthy
relationship. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | The right therapist is [a] man or woman with whom you see an immediate and continual improvement in your issue, up until the point when you no longer need them anymore.Think of them as a mechanic who should be able to fix your car relatively quickly; and, if he doesn't fix it, you fire him :) |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | One way is to bring one's concerns or desires to the therapist directly, rather than trying to subtly 'train' them. Here's why I say that: One quite important healing factor in a psychotherapy is discovering that problems in the therapy and the therapeutic relationship can be solved together. It is a safety zone or bridge for practicing that. If it can be done with a trained, usually safe person (the therapist), the client might think, wow--what are the implications for my outside life and relations? Could I get what I want outside of therapy, too, even if it feels not as safe?If the therapist can deal with feedback (and any good therapist should be able to), this can be very productive. Cooperation in this way, in the moment, with a live person who is supposed to have authority and knowledge in these matters, can be profoundly healing.If the therapist can't take feedback or doesn't want to--or does nothing to act on it--maybe we could say the client has the wrong therapist. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | If you are seeking personal development and challenge resolution in a Christian context, I am the right counselor for you. I will balance the needs of your temperament with scripture, prayer, and cognitive therapy techniques. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | You should feel generally comfortable with your therapist. Your therapist should be able to challenge you when necessary, and be able to provide support at other times. I don't know if you can really "train" your therapist to give you what you need from treatment. Definitely let your therapist know what you need or want from treatment and see what they have to say about your ideas. Do you think you are or at least will be able to make the progress you want to make with your current therapist? There isn't one "right" therapist for you. There should be a few therapists in your area you will work with well enough. If you can have a productive, open dialogue with your therapist and you feel comfortable enough then you may already be in the right place. If you are having lots of doubt about your therapist being the "right" one interview other therapists. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Your comfort with a therapist is one of the most essential aspects of a quality therapeutic relationship. Don’t be afraid to ask questions about the therapist’s approach and background. Do you feel heard and understood? Do you find the feedback helpful and directed toward achieving your goals. Ensuring open communication with your therapist is primary to making sure you have the “right” therapist. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | You should like and trust your counselor. Sounds like a big ole “DUH”. But you will not believe the number of people I have met with that have described their past counselor as “totally opposite than me” or someone who “didn’t get me” or “had totally opposing beliefs as me”. Suggestion to the masses, do your research prior to entering counseling! If you are someone who often cusses and is abrasive, you might not want to pick the counselor who is highly professional and uses sophisticated language throughout their site. Pick someone who is more in line with your personality and wants for your future.And even if you do your research beforehand and figure out you aren’t vibing after a few sessions, that’s okay! Let your counselor know this, and who knows there might be something that can be done to make you feel more comfortable or maybe there isn’t. But the good thing to note is that there are thousands of human helpers in your city and your counselor would be happy to provide you with a referral to a better fitting therapist.View full post here: https://www.therapybyshannon.com/blog-2/2019/1/14/7-things-counseling-should-and-shouldnt-be |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | I think it's crucial that a person finds the "right" therapist. Questions, questions, questions! First I would ask them if they have experience and training in whatever the primary issues are that you are wanting to work on. You want to make sure the therapist has the skills and experience to help you. It's okay to ask "have you worked with these issues before?" and "Can you tell me what methods you use to treat these issues?" and "Are the methods you use evidenced-based?" Then I would ask what expectations the therapist is going to have of you the client. Do they expect you to do homework, come with something to talk about each session, or keep a journal? See if their expectations align with what you are looking for. And lastly, I would schedule a session and "try out" the therapist. See if you feel comfortable and safe. As for "training" your therapist, I would suggest you be the leader of your therapy, ask for what you want, be direct and do hesitate to tell your therapist if you feel you are not getting what you need. They can't read your mind and would likely find that information very valuable. They want you to feel better and to make progress, and if they are going down the wrong path you should let them know. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | The first thing I would ask yourself is how do you feel when it is time to go to therapy? What do you notice inside your body? Are you sick to your stomach? Neutral? Dreading it? Your body will give you indications as to how safe you feel. Your relationship with your therapist is like any other relationship...you need to feel safe, accepted and understood. You want to see someone who you look forward to sitting across from and feel comfortable talking about whatever is on your heart and mind. What are you preferences? Do you feel more comfortable with a male or female therapist? Does their age matter? What kind of therapy do you want to do? Do you know? If not, you might want to talk to friends or family who have done therapy and ask them what they liked or didn't like, what worked for them and what the process was like. You can always talk to a prospective therapist about all the questions you have (Have they worked with others with your issues? Have they ever been in therapy? Where did they go to school? What kind of training do they have? Etc.) You may not know in the first session or two if you have the right therapist but pay attention to how you feel while you are there. Your therapist should check in with you and ask how you are feeling. If it's not a good match for you, your therapist should try and help you find someone who will be a good match. Your trust and connection with your therapist is the biggest indicator for success in therapy. Both of you should be concerned about your alliance and any good therapist will want you to find the best therapist for you! |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | You can certainly ask the therapist questions such as their style or issues they have experience working with. You can also determine whether a therapist is the right fit if you feel a connection or alliance and feel that you are working together toward your goals. It is important to be open and honest with your therapist about what you are looking for in counseling. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Though this varies from person to person, I think finding the right therapist involves finding someone who you're comfortable opening up to and speaking your mind, including your preferred areas of focus for treatment. It's important to be aligned with your therapist's general approach and, to find someone who you feel genuinely attuned to, both in practice and also, with who they are as a person. Bringing up your needs for treatment is key and finding someone who validates your needs, listens and welcomes feedback are all important building blocks for creating space for a great working relationship that promotes personal growth, openness and invites adaptable approaches in session, based on your individual needs. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | How do you know anything is "right" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big "run away"), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to "train" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to "train" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that "just isn't sure"? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the "right one". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to "train" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well! |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are “do I feel safe?” and “do I feel heard?” The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn’t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Quick Way to Assess a
Great Therapist A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education
and research. You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist’s ability to connect
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge
the therapist’s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best. I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help
you. Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654 |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | The therapeutic relationship should be collaborative. The client is the expert on their life, and the therapist is the expert on helping the client to develop their sense of being. Growth occurs as a result of challenges. Therefore, I would suggest not looking to train the therapist, but rather to find one that will help you develop into the you that you desire to be. Finding the right therapist is like finding a pair of black heels. Not just any black heels will do. But when you find them, you just know that your search is over. It is also wise to expect that they won’t always feel comfortable. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Finding the right therapist can be difficult, especially if you've never tried it before. Things to consider are location, availability and what specifically are you looking for. Some practitioners specifically only work with a certain type of issue (i.e eating disorders, adolescents, anger management, life transitions, anxiety...etc) and others can work with a variety of concerns. As far as training your therapist, you can't. You simply let them know what you are looking to work on or what you think may be an issue for you. Depending on the way they practice(their style of working with clients) is how they will then decide to make a treatment plan that works best for you. You can always ask them their specialty practice population, the problems they generally help others with and what type of mental health provider they are (Psychologist, social worker, licensed mental health counselor). |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Choosing the right therapist can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming. I know many people come to therapy with hesitations and potential fears but a therapist should be there to help you along the way and support you as you build a trusting and collaborative relationship. You won't have to "train" your therapist to give you what you need. Through open dialogue and feedback you and your therapist, together, can determine what works best for you. But do remember that being able to trust your therapist to guide and support you is key. So if you're having a hard time connecting with your therapist after 3-4 sessions, you will want to bring it up to them so you can discuss any barriers and if needed, request a referral for another therapist. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Counselors do not expect to gain your trust during the first session. Trust is earned and gained through the therapeutic process. You may know you have the right therapist if you feel a lack of judgement or even unconditional positive regard for the choices you make in therapy. Good counselors will keep you accountable for your actions without making you feel ashamed of the choice you made.Counselors already have the training to give you what you need in treatment, and if they don't they are ethically obligated to refer you to a provider that does. That being said, the first few visits with your counselor will be goal oriented- creating realistic and obtainable goals that will allow you and your therapist to see positive change when it is made. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | You will know you have the right therapist when you feel at ease and comfortable to share deep feelings.You do not hold back and feel total acceptance and validation by your therapist. Listen to your feelings and letthem guide your decision.Your therapist and you will work together to decide what is best for you with regards to the type of treatment, frequency andduration. It is about collaborating and deciding together on the treatment plan that will help you to achieve your counseling goals. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | The most important thing is it has to feel right. While that sounds vague and not very scientific it is the most important part of therapy. Us counselors call it therapeutic rapport and without it therapy is not very effective. You want to know you can trust your therapist, that you are not being judged, that they respect your privacy, that you feel comfortable talking to them about the good and the bad. You want to feel heard and know you therapist is genuine . Not all therapist are a good fit for everyone. Go with your gut :) As an added note I recommend going with a therapist who has done their own therapy! |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | What an important question! I think one of the first things to assess is this: Do you feel comfortable with your therapist? Do you feel like you can talk openly about what's going on in your life without feeling judged? Do you experience your therapy as a safe space to process your thoughts and feelings? Feeling comfortable with your therapist is a crucial factor. Once you feel comfortable with your therapist, you can have a conversation about what works for you in therapy. Tell your therapist what is helpful, and what you don't find helpful. A skilled therapist can shift his or her style and techniques to meet your individual needs, and this may be an ongoing conversation that the two of you have during therapy. Oftentimes, there is just an X factor between client and therapist that either makes the relationship work or can make it feel like something is missing. This is no one's fault, it's just that not every therapist will be a perfect match for every client. If you feel uncomfortable with your therapist or feel like that x factor is missing, it is a good idea to keep searching for therapist who is right for you. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | This is a great question. Finding the right therapist can be tricky because you don't really know how someone will be like until you meet them. A few ways to prescreen are to:- Visit the therapist's website, psychologytoday profile, social media, etc...- Have a phone call with the therapist prior to your first appointmentOnce you meet your therapist it is important to be clear with your wishes and expectations. We are trained in helping you thrive in your life but we cannot mind read so if you don't tell us, we won't know. Don't be shy about what you like and what you don't like. A good therapist will listen to your needs, process them with you, and create a customized plan that works for you and your life. A good therapist will also not take anything you say (even criticism) personally. Coming to therapy is hard and often times you might not want to go. What makes a good therapist is someone who understands this and tries to make you feel as comfortable as possible while you address uncomfortable topics. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | I believe that the right counsellor will help you feel empowered, supported and understood. You should feel comfortable opening up and not be concerned that they will judge you for what you say or decide to do. I find this important to let my clients know during intake that they will never be judged for the decisions they decide to take while going over options in sessions together with me. In terms of what you need from treatment, please feel comfortable to open up to your therapist and tell them what you need from them. For example, do you prefer them to challenge you with questions, listen to your story and ask questions throughout or near the end, give you work to do outside of sessions? The therapy sessions will work best for you if you can help them support you in what will work for you.It can sometimes take a few trials of different therapists to find the right one so please do not give up if you feel disheartened! You should feel proud of yourself for taking the first big step in asking for help, that is not easy to do and you are on the right track already! |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | This is a great question. There could be a few ways to “know”
that you’ve found a good fit and you and your therapist are therapeutically compatible.
First, I would recommend listening to your intuition and pay attention to how
you feel, if there are feeling-indicators that you are comfortable, feel safe
and willing to open up and share your story.
Second, do you feel the therapist you are considering will support and challenge
you in ways you need. Some therapist
offers a free consultation. This might
be a good opportunity to take advantage of.Stephanie C, MA, LADC, LPCC (pre-licensed) www.stephanietherapy.com
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How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Good question!The client's job is to concentrate on stating the details of their problem and to thoughtfully engage in a dialogue about these areas with the therapist.The most difficult job for a client is willingness to self-examine, hold oneself accountable for relationship and life situations, and honestly feel the difficult, often painful feelings and insecurities which troubling situations create.The client doesn't train the therapist.If you feel you are with a therapist who requires you to train them, then politely decline continuing to pay for their services.Then find yourself a different therapist who feels secure and knowledgeable enough in their skills to not require training by their client. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | Thinking whether or not you have the right therapist can be overwhelming if you are not sure what you want or need. But think of this, you feel safe and comfortable that you share what you’ve never told anybody. You feel understood and listened to. You feel their support. You trust them. Do you believe they can help you? If you do not, then that might make it hard for you to want to open up.As far as how would you how to train your therapist to help you. If you know what you need all you have to do is share this with your therapist. If you don’t know then therapy is a collaborative process so both you and your therapist will work together to figure out your needs and how to best meet them. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | The "right" therapist is a combination of expertise in the areas where you require, and fit as far as how comfortable you feel in speaking and sharing with that person. People generally are quite good at determining whether or not someone fits well with their personality and style; and another key to know whether therapy is working is to ask yourself: "Do I see that changes have come about since working with this therapist?" Do I feel better? Am I reaching goals that I set at the onset of therapy? Are difficult situations becoming easier by how I handle them? Training a therapist really isn't necessary, as all it requires is open and honest communication in order to give effective feedback that will in turn be helpful to you and your goals. |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | You have the right therapist if you feel safe with that person. Safety consists of feeling that who you are and what you say is valued. The right therapist is not an 'all knowing person you must obey'. He or she is a person with skilled knowledge who respects you as a partner in your self discovery. The right therapist is also one who is kind |
How would I know if I have the right therapist? | How do you know you have the right therapist for you?
How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | This is a really important question, because you don't want to waste your time and money with a therapist who is not a good fit for you. I think the most important factor that makes a good therapist match is trust-- do you trust this person to be able to help you meet your therapy goals? There are few things you can do upfront to test this out, without spending a dime. First, ask for personal recommendations from friends or others. If you know someone who had a great experience with a certain therapist, you'll feel more confident in that person right off the bat. Second, do your online research. Google the person's name and read everything you can find. Many therapists are starting to develop more of an online presence because they know that's a way future clients can develop trust without even stepping in their door. See if they have a blog, social media posts, or even just read the tone of the content on their website. This might give you a glimpse of their therapy style. Finally, you can call or email potential therapists and provide a brief overview of your presenting problem and describe what you're looking for in your ideal therapist. It sounds like you have a specific idea of what you're looking for... most therapists will be honest if they don't feel they're going to meet your expectations. Some therapists offer free short phone consultations which can help you both decide if you would work well together. Do your homework upfront, and you'll be well on your way to finding a great therapist for you! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Absolutely it's normal to cry in therapy sessions. Sometimes clients have stories they never shared with anyone or never said out loud and that results to crying. Crying is a normal reaction to feeling hurt or sad or sometimes angry. I welcome all crying to my therapy room. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It is generally very normal to cry in therapy, and for many reasons. Therapy should be a safe space to explore emotions as they come up and how you cope with these emotions. I would encourage you to talk with your therapist about crying and to explore your experience of emotions/feelings. Sometimes people will apologize for crying. However, emotions and expression of emotions is part of being human. There is no "right" or "wrong" emotion to have. How we express and cope with emotions is more of something to explore in therapy if it is hindering your life. Either extreme of keeping emotions in and avoiding or feeling like your emotions run your life/struggle to regulate your emotions is something to explore in therapy, as this is often the most distressing and troublesome for people. Hopefully this provides some insight. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It's more than just normal, it's expected! Quite honestly, there are a very few days where at least one client hasn't cried during therapy throughout the day. -IJP |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Yes it is absolutely normal! A good therapist can help your feel safe enough to really identify painful wounds. There are some things that need to be cried about before they can heal. Therapists are fine with tears and buy tissues by the case. That said, if you don't cry during therapy it doesn't mean you are doing it "wrong". As long as you feel safe and have a sense that your therapist "gets you", and you feel progress during your course of treatment, you are doing therapy "right"! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It's normal many times we are not able to cry in our day to day. When you are able to open up the tears come to. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Yes, it is very normal to cry in therapy. Often times this is
a time when you can let your guard down, you can feel safe in this environment
and allow yourself to feel all your feelings. Feelings are valid. We often hold our feelings, tears inside, and
once we feel safe, our bodies feel safe to release them. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Crying is a natural emotional. You are not alone. Crying can help you to feel relieved. Therapy is your journey, and there is no right or wrong emotion to feel while you are healing. Therapy is a place where you do not have to feel alone. It is also a place where you address things that you have never faces or suppressed for years. If you shed tears while doing that, I applaud you for having the courage to be on your therapeutic journey. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It is completely NORMAL and can be incredibly helpful. Some times we just need to let things out with a good cry. Having a non-judgmental open space to do that be so therapeutic. It sounds like you are really putting in the work you are in need of. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Yes, it’s normal to cry. It doesn’t matter if it happens in the therapy office or at home. Some people feel like there exposed or open when they do this or even guilt when in front of a therapist but this isn’t something to be concerned with. They are trained to be understand and empathize with there clients. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Therapy often brings up big emotions - and generally ones that we may have been pushing down for a long time! Crying is one of the ways that our body deals with a sudden change in emotions. It's a bodily function just like any other. There's no "normal" way to be in therapy, but crying is a frequent occurrence in the office; it's why most therapists have a tissue box close to where you sit! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Yes! Definitely common for people to cry during a therapy session. For some folks, therapy is the safest place for them to truly allow themselves to have, or express, their emotions. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Absolutely! It is very normal to cry during a therapy session. During a session lots of different feelings will come up. When sadness and grief show up you are going to feel them in your body and crying is our way of expressing them. Sometimes we even cry when we feel anger or joy. Your therapist should provide a safe place for you to express all your feelings and help you process them. It is part of the work of therapy and it sounds like you are doing the work. Good luck to you! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Absolutely!!! Therapy is the place to be yourself! The messy self that most people don’t get to see. Therapy is not a time to be strong by holding in your emotions, it’s a time to be real. Be honest with how you feel. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It is not just you! If you are crying during therapy, or if you are crying outside of therapy, that is a good thing! It means that you are allowing yourself to feel your feelings rather than push your feelings to the side and try to “get over them.” When a person allows themselves to cry they are doing important work to work through and get to the route of what they are feeling. Good for you! It is not easy to cry, especially in front of others, and it takes a strong person to try to work through their feelings by going to therapy. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Absolutely crying is very normal in therapy for many reasons. Some people after a good cry feel better , in other words crying can be a stress reliever. To other people who have never spoken about their pain, talking about it can trigger raw emotions and can lead to crying. To other people who have never been heard, therapy can create an environment of being heard, which can be validating and healing.If your heart has experienced so much loss, it maybe grieving and the tears are an expression of deep emotional pain.Sometimes your heart can experience so much joy and gratitude that crying maybe the way you express it.So if you find yourself crying in therapy, do not shame yourself. You are not being weak but expressing your emotions in a healthy way. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Yes sir/maam it is ok and often good to do. Sometimes there are cathartic moments, or a sense of loss, emotional memories (positive and less positive) that come up. The thing is you have a licensed professional to hold space for you and to ensure you are safe. They will attend to you and ensure you are in a decent place before the session ends. We got you! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It's normal to experience many intense emotions in therapy. Sometimes those emotions lead to tears- so, long story short... yes! It's also quite common for emotions like frustration and even anger to be felt during the therapeutic process. Change and processing is hard. Allow the emotions to come through naturally and discuss them if it seems like it would be helpful. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Participating in therapy can be incredibly vulnerable at times, and can evoke lots of emotions that may or may not lead to tears. It is okay to experience these emotions in and outside of the therapy space. Therapy should be a safe place for you to be yourself, be in the moment, and give freedom toward healing and personal growth. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Crying - Shedding of Tears...9 Ways Crying May Benefit Your HealthDetoxifies the body. Reflex tears clear debris, like smoke and dust, from your eyes. ...Helps self-soothe. Crying may be one of your best mechanisms to self-soothe. ...Dulls pain. ...Improves mood. ...Rallies support. ...Helps you recover from grief. ...Restores emotional balance. ...Helps baby breathe. ...Helps baby sleep. ... |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It's not just you... crying is one way our bodies attempt to heal. There could be many reasons why the tears come but there is nothing wrong or abnormal about crying in therapy. Just the opposite as many times there is a deep need to mourn or simply let the pain out, but not everyone has a good support system in place. Hopefully, therapy would give you a place to allow those feelings to finally surface and then start to feel relief from not having to hold it all inside anymore. Regardless of if it is a physical injury or emotional pain, crying is a normal response to your body wanting to heal. Be gentle with yourself, you deserve care and nurturing. Allow the tears as much as you need. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Absolutely Normal to cry during therapy ! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It's not uncommon and you're not alone. Many people cry during therapy, it's one of the coping skills your body has to release. Hope this helps! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Crying at therapy is a normal reaction to processing through complex emotions and trauma in life. I have often encouraged individuals to cry as a physical sign of the release of emotional pain. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Absolutely! In fact it is encouraged to let it out and embrace the hurt. Trust me when I say this, "you're not alone." Many of my patients cry, especially the men after seeing that there is no shame in crying in session. It is almost as if they're seeking permission to be able to let go. My thoughts on crying is that in order for someone to appropriately process the pain, hurt and suffering one might be experiencing you have to work through it and let it all out. Crying is cathartic and healing. Therapy is one of the safest places to be vulnerable and peel back the layers of the onion, so you can get to the roots of the issues that have been weighing on you. Let it out and let go so you can move forward and feel the weight lifted off your shoulders, |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Therapy is a safe space where clients can allow themselves to experience feelings that they have not, otherwise expressed elsewhere. Crying is absolutely "normal" and it allows the client to process their feelings. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It's normal to cry. Crying is a very healthy and cathartic process that allows for you to fully experience whatever emotion you feel, whether it be tears of joy or tears of sorrow. To cry in therapy is quite normal and there shouldn't be anything wrong with it. Crying is a part of being human. It's a part of expressing how we feel and it is a beautiful thing. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Crying in therapy may or may not be different than crying outside of therapy. Crying is something described as a sign of weakness, however depending on who you ask and your own beliefs, crying is actually a sign of strength, courage and vulnerability. If you are crying or experience tearfulness while in therapy that proves that you were strong enough to share something that may have been difficult or that you waited to do this all week before seeing your therapist again. Maybe you have been so strong for others that you felt overwhelmed. Maybe you just needed to let it out because you haven't in a while. Maybe in your therapy session you just experience that 'aha moment' that represents a cry of joy. Crying is a catharsis that assist with self-soothing and helps to relieve pain.Crying is normal. Continue to let it out and allow your therapist to be there to support you! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | There's a reason why I tell all of my clients that I have a lifetime supply of tissues in my office! Yes, it is completely normal to cry in therapy. Many of us go through our days trying to hold it all together, keeping our emotions inside so that we don't have a meltdown in the grocery store or a business meeting. Therapy is a safe place to let those feelings out, which means that we see a lot of tears in our work. Therapy can also involve confronting difficult experiences from our lives that we've been trying to ignore or suppress, which can lead to emotional outpourings. A competent therapist will be able to support you safely through this process so that you can move forward with your healing. We therapists are trained to bear compassionate witness to the full range of human expression. So please feel free to let those tears flow in therapy! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Absolutely if your crying it means that you are releasing your emotions we counselors are trained to handle that kind of thing |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | YES. Absolutely it is appropriate to cry during a therapy session (or all of them). Crying is a physical representation of acknowledging, expressing, and releasing emotion. Our bodies are very smart and often know what we need to heal. The urge to cry is our body telling us it may be time to let some stuff out. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Your therapy sessions and goals are for you and about you. They are not meant to be compared to anyone else's sessions and goals. Crying can occur in many different scenarios, such as when you're happy, relieved, have just heard the funniest joke, and of course, when you're sad. All of these feelings are valid and your tears are part of how your body experiences those feelings. If you're often sad and working through a lot of sadness in your therapy sessions, it is reasonable to expect that you may cry a lot during therapy.If you're crying, and you aren't able to connect it to an emotional experience or feeling, that is something to discuss with your therapist. It can sometimes be difficult to name our feelings, and the behaviors get ahead of our thinking brain to try and communicate for us. Maybe your tears are trying to tell you something about your feelings. Either way, your therapy sessions should be a safe space for you to cry, feel, investigate, and connect. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | it is quite normal as conversations we have may touch on emotions, thoughts and feelings that have been covered up for a long time. Just as laughter (which may also be present in therapy), joy, sadness, reflections, these are all emotions and insights that can occur. Allowing yourself to feel and express yourself in a space of safety is freeing and enlightening. Not all sessions can have that but those moments are wonderful and continue on ones pattern of growth. Grab a Kleenex and let it out! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Not just you but everyone is different. Some people need to cry and others don’t. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | I can't tell you how many times I've heard people talk about terrible things that have happened to them yet they don't shed a tear. Is that normal? Well, yes, but not exactly healthy. It's normal because they've been conditioned this way. If you feel shame around crying, then you most likely learned at some point in your life that it's not okay to cry. Most people have been told at some point in their life, "don't cry!" or "don't be sad!" But some people have had this message imprinted in their minds by negative experiences such as parent who shamed them or got mad at them for crying, or simply by cultural or societal messages.The truth is, whether you're male, female, black, white, asian, etc.- we're all humans and crying is a natural response that allows our bodies to express (i.e. release) pain. It literally helps to get the emotional pain out. If you don't express your sadness in a healthy way (writing or creating art to represent your emotions can be other healthy outlets) then it will find another way to get your attention, and that will likely not be healthy (self harm, inflicting harm on others, numbing/dissociating, anxiety, etc.).So to answer your question, it is normal and healthy to cry in therapy. If you have no other place where you can allow yourself to cry with someone to witness and hold space for your pain, then you are already benefitting from therapy. I would suggest exploring your beliefs around crying with your therapist if you feel ashamed of it. This is all too common, but I believe that many people would start to feel better if they didn't judge themselves for crying or feeling sad. Honor your pain and you will feel more at peace. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Therapy is a safe place where we address a host of different issues. Many times things come up that we may have been too busy to address or we have become skilled in avoiding. We usually avoid or push away painful experiences. When we open ourselves to the healing process of therapy these painful things can be brought forward. Humans cry for many reasons. Commonly we cry when something touches us deeply and is related to a strong emotion of sadness, hurt, confusion, happiness, relief, or some other emotion. It would be natural for the body to respond to these emotions through crying. As a side note: we keep kleenex in every room of our office, lobby, and common areas. http://www.liferebirthed.com |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Yes, it is normal to cry in therapy. When opening up and talking about uncomfortable feelings or experiences that a person has been holding onto, there is a lot of emotion that is being released whether during a therapy session, close friend or family member.We all have painful memories and feelings. Talking about things brings up a lot and tears sometimes will follow. If you cry during a session, it just means that you have been holding onto difficult thoughts/feelings that you finally are ready to look at and talk about.In the beginning of working with a therapist, lot of people feel uncomfortable when they cry. Often they will apologize for their tears, question why they are crying now or try to dehumanize their feelings by labeling them ( i.e. as silly, stupid, annoying). There is no need to apologize or use labels, as therapists know that with therapy comes healing. Sometimes healing needs tears.Life at times is difficult and the stories behind one's emotions can be moving for both a client and therapist. As a therapist, I sometimes find myself wiping a few tears away too. That's when you know someone is really listening to what you are sharing and understands the road you've walked.-Adrienne Licari - http://www.positivetherapyservices.com |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Emotion is the most "normal" and human activity that any person has the freedom to exercise. Therapy is a place to explore freely, the deepest most ignored, and often denied concerns. Often time this process will evoke responses that were unexpected, but perhaps needed. What better place to begin exploring this than with a trained, unbiased person? Crying speaks to the development of connection and is symbolic of acceptance, and freedom of what was being held on to, which may not have been beneficial. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Are you crying because you are sad? Perhaps this is your heart breaking open ready to cope with your issues. When we are sad and we don't cry maybe it's because we are guarded and our ego is trying to protect us. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It for sure is! It is a natural thing considering the act of therapy can be really cathartic and release emotions in a way that it makes sense to cry. There is nothing wrong with it at all! It is a healthy part of processing strong emotions. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It is absolutely normal to cry at therapy! It is common for a client to cry during a session. Crying can be therapeutic, especially for someone who is used to not allowing him/herself to feel his/her feelings. I create a safe space in order for you to be able to share your tears, as well as support you in understanding what your tears mean. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Oh My! Absolutely it is! I half jokingly tell my clients if I don't make you cry at least 1x during therapy, I am not doing my JOB! I also let them know I am highly sensitive and may tear up with them, but not to worry, I cry at a good hallmark commercial :) Crying in therapy is not only normal, it is healthy and expected. I keep 3 tissue boxes in my office, all within grabbing distance. When you are in there, a lot of times you are working on really heavy, difficult stuff that maybe you have not shared before, and that may stir up emotions and tears. People don't tell you how hard of work therapy is, but it TRULY is HARD WORK if you are doing it right. Let the tears flow, they are cleansing and can help you heal. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Absolutely. We talk about vulnerable things and crying is a human response. I encourage my clients to cry and let out whatever they were holding in. It's not just you. I cry with my therapist as well :) |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It is absolutely normal to cry during a therapy session and people do it all the time for a wide variety of reasons. Often in therapy, you're talking about the heaviest things in your life and the emotions that surface can be beyond your control, so don't try to force it; let it out. If it is something that you are self-conscious about, bring it up in your next session. Your therapist should be able to put you at ease. Therapy is not always easy and sometimes it can be downright gut-wrenching. It's not just you. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | The very act of therapy is about purging that which you've been holding on to. Sometimes while we talk about and let things go, crying happens, which is a natural emotional response to processing something complex. Sometimes we get really angry and mad, sometimes, there is no emotional response. All is well, keep going! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Therapy brings people in for many different reasons. Most of the time it is because something in your life is not right and having someone to talk to that is not a friend or family member can be very helpful. We have many emotions, some are easy to share in front of others, some are not as easy. When you step into the therapy room, you go in with expectations of some sort. Even if you did not expect to cry, it is quite normal to do so. Talking about your emotions in the counseling room can be helpful as part of your therapy. Share with your counselor what it feels like for you to cry in therapy, as you explore together you will learn more about the connection between thoughts and feelings. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Hello,Crying in therapy is extremely normal, especially if it is your first time attending a counseling session. Very often Clients will come to therapy either for the first time, or perhaps after many years of having attended therapy previously, and often find the weight on their shoulders being lifted when they finally have a chance to let go and allow themselves to experience the emotions that they have been holding back. As mentioned, it is perfectly normal to cry during the therapy session. However, one must realize that having a safe space to cry is not the end goal, but rather being able to work through the issues that are causing the distress. Please do not feel that your counselor will not understand why you are crying. We are well trained therapists who recognize the power of therapy and how vulnerable people can often be when you’re talking to somebody who is nearly a total stranger. It takes a certain amount of bravery to be able to go to a therapist and discuss the issues that you might feel cannot be shared with anyone else.Therapy can be a very healing time, but it requires courage, determination, and being willing to be vulnerable enough to address the issues that are impairing a functioning in your life. Be willing to work with your counselor to address the emotional side of the problems and challenges you are facing in your life. You do not have to feel like you need to cry in every session, but there will be times when crying will be a natural occurrence in the course of counseling sessions. If the therapist has done things correctly, you are to feel fully supported and safe in the environment of working for your issues.If I can be of further assistance, and you are in the Tacoma, Washington area, please feel free to reach out to me. I would be honored to work with you. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It is never out of the ordinary to get emotional during a session. Sometimes we will ask clients to talk about some pretty intense topics, and that can easily trigger the emotions wired with those topics.Even knowing that, it can be really tough to experience that level of vulnerability. If you are seeing a therapist currently, it could help to process how it feels to you to show raw emotion if that's something that concerns you.Either way, it is awesome that your body was able to let some stress out for you! |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It is normal to cry anytime you want to. Sometimes the tears don't make sense to us and that's okay. It is important to recognize those tears as telling you something about how you are feeling that you may be missing. |
Is it normal to cry at therapy? | Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Crying in therapy is a natural response, a relief to what you are going through. It is an expression of emotions, which is why you are going to therapy - to express yourself in a safe, nonjudgmental space. Rather than trying to stop crying, sit on the couch with it until it is done and you have finished with the clearing. The energy is not blocked, is moving - a good thing. It's good to cry. |